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[Dot Matrix]

Would I or Could I?

Yes, I suppose I could. If that's her perogitive, and I loved her enough, then I don't see why I couldn't. I'm not going to force her to have sex with me if she doesn't want to. Plus, I have my own hand...

[Mr Spoon]

.Neo, on 24 April 2012 - 11:23, said:

Of course I wouldn't marry someone without having sex first. Imagine being stuck to a person only to find out the sex is terrible. Thanks but no thanks.

And how shallow and awful to think like that (in my opinion of course).

I am not saying you shouldn't have sex before you are married but you can teach the other person what you like can't you? Why can't you do that after marriage?

I have only had sex with one person and I am more than happy with that. I don't need to look elsewhere or wonder about anyone else because while I am looking into the non-existent future, I will miss what I have got right here in the present.

[+littleneutrino]

Already married, and we had sex for several years prior to getting married, and in fact lived together for 2 years prior to getting married

[Charisma]

Mr Spoon, on 25 April 2012 - 13:01, said:

And how shallow and awful to think like that (in my opinion of course).

I am not saying you shouldn't have sex before you are married but you can teach the other person what you like can't you? Why can't you do that after marriage?

I have only had sex with one person and I am more than happy with that. I don't need to look elsewhere or wonder about anyone else because while I am looking into the non-existent future, I will miss what I have got right here in the present.

This is what I am thinking. It could even be argued that someone with less experience would be better, because they would learn exactly what you like and you'd discover how best to please each other and how you work best together. I can say I've had guys do certain things that may have pleased some other girl, but it sure as heck wasn't working for me. If he didn't know any others, I could show him exactly what to do...
I know it would come with its own set of hurdles, I'm just saying, I think the chances are greater that you'll sleep with every person you date and have a lot of heartaches along the way, than if you meet someone who's perfect for you in every way but don't sleep with them until after marriage.

[pwnz0r3d]

Sex is a big part of a healthy relationship, so no way.

[+simrat]

No sex, no relation. Thats what i learned from past relations. It brings you closer and you get to know each other more.

[RevolverPanther]

morebaker, on 24 April 2012 - 02:05, said:

Sex is a big part of any relationshit
You have to test drive or it could be frustrating.
apolgize for that but i am in the middle of getting sepperated/divorced.

test drive lol, to see if she had a few careful owners , or has she been drove by a boy racer!

[The Laughing Man]

Would you buy a car without test driving it? Not unless you're stupid.

[Lachlan]

other..

[Jason Stillion]

revparadigm, on 24 April 2012 - 02:01, said:

Well that sex before [or cheating while] marriage thing sure doesn't seem to be working out so good now. Divorce rates, unwanted pregnancies, STDs...yet the vast majority frown upon the idea of waiting. I don't personally.

They've found since 1940's (to current), the percent of students that had sex before high school graduation has pretty much remained unchanged.

[rajputwarrior]

sanke1, on 24 April 2012 - 11:35, said:

That is a complicated question when it comes to India.

Here, most marriages are arranged. So the would be husband and wife have little to no time in getting involved in a romance and to have sex before marriage. Being sexually compatible is pure pot luck here

Discussing sexual incompatibilities is not most couples are comfortable with. Hence they bury the problem. I am sure this applies to many other countries as well.

and that's one of the downfalls of being indian, effin mom and grandma always try to hook me up...

[htcz]

Marrying a person without having sex with him/her would be stupid.

[Symal Taneous]

Sex has never been a huge part of the relationship for me. Don't get me wrong, I definitely enjoy sex, but I'm not with the person because they're great in bed, I'm with the person because I love them. If they happen to be horrible in bed, then we have a while to get better at it.

[seta-san]

it should be noted that couples that wait to have sex are far less likely to get divorsed.

[Billus]

Bad sex usually leads to a bad relationship as a whole (as well as other factors not related to sex). Sex is what glues and concretes the relationship.