Intrinsica, on 12 September 2012 - 15:15, said:
I've got one for you: Why did you quit? Obviously I commend you on doing so, but what made you stop? Did people say something to you? Did they throw you in to rehab? Did you just wake up one day and think, "I want to change who I am"?
I ask partly for myself. I can be a heavy drinker, and then two friends in the past 2 weeks separately suggested that I take a break (note: neither of these two people know one another, so there was no discussion between them). Sure enough, as of Saturday morning I haven't had a drink, and my plan is to not have a drink for a month, so it will come to an end in October. But if I ask, "am I doing this for myself?" the answer is most definitely "no." I'm doing it because two separate people suggested it, and I want to show them that there is no problem.
Another question just came to mind: How was it, quitting at the beginning? I imagine it got easier over time?
For me, the break in my drinking hasn't affected me too much so far. I get annoyed quicker and I feel like snapping over the simplest of things (this is especially true at work). I've also found it harder to engage with my friends sometimes because my brain doesn't shut down, so while they're talking I'm either still thinking about work, or something else that's happening in my life. Yesterday there were a couple of occasions in the pub where someone started speaking, I zoned out with my own thoughts and then came back to the room just in time for my friend to stop speaking and look at me for some sort of answer.
Good luck with the not-drinking
It can be very challenging at times.
I stopped because I knew I had a problem. I ended up going to the detox centre where I live for 5 days, and once I had a wee bit of clean time I realized even more how much I hated using -- and, yet, while I was using I couldn't just stop. I went to detox because I figured my parents were going to kick me out once they found out about my using, and I needed a safe place to stay for a couple days while I figured out where I was going to live :-/