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#1 Hum

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:15

A 64-year-old Belgian man wants to have his marriage annulled after he discovered that his Indonesian wife of 19 years had been born a man and had later undergone a sex change. The man, named Jan, married Monica in 1993 despite legal difficulties raised by the Belgian immigration authorities, the Telegraph reported.

But it was only recently that he discovered that his 48-year-old wife had originally been a man.

"I feel I've been assaulted," he told the Het Nieuwsblad newspaper.

"I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits," the Telegraph quoted him as saying.

Jan said he and his wife had decided not to have children because he had two by his previous marriage and she fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels, "to conceal the truth".

"Even during sex, I never noticed anything," he said.

Jan found "amorous messages" from other men on her computer. He confronted her and a row ensued that led to police being called.

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#2 Nick H.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:22

I remember when the lady boys of Bangkok visited Derby a few years back. Everyone - myself included - was checking them out. You wouldn't have known the difference...well, you would have eventually, but just from looking at them walking down the street you wouldn't.

19 years is a heck of a long time, though. I don't know how I would feel about that.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:26

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:26

I remember when the lady boys of Bangkok visited Derby a few years back. Everyone - myself included - was checking them out. You wouldn't have known the difference...well, you would have eventually, but just from looking at them walking down the street you wouldn't.


This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere.

Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:27

This may be a dangerous thing to accept on a public forum, but even if your not gay, I believe its possible to fall in love with a guy if not knowing for a long time. Your brain would view them as a girl with a defect (a penis). May not be true with everyone but is for the most part the general population. Love is like a drug and makes you believe things in ways that you can accept.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:27

How did they have sex and him not notice?

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:32

This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere.

Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done.

This is kind of what I was thinking. After a shorter time, sure, but nearly two decades? Did he really have no feelings for her (him?) as a person? Of course he has a right to feel deceived and lied to, but... I dunno. I've seen couples who really care about each other get through worse things than this and stay together.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:34

How did they have sex and him not notice?


^ .... undergone a sex change.

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Posted 27 November 2012 - 15:42

This is kind of what I was thinking. After a shorter time, sure, but nearly two decades? Did he really have no feelings for her (him?) as a person? Of course he has a right to feel deceived and lied to, but... I dunno. I've seen couples who really care about each other get through worse things than this and stay together.


This is why im holding off on letting my GF know in my past lifes, i was actually a girl ... :rofl: :shiftyninja:

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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:09

^ I let all my boyfriends know .... :p

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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:14



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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:16

Well, that's sick... :|

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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:19

either it was an awesome job on the sex change or he was an idiot virgin when he met this her/him person.

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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:23

This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere.

Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done.


surely it wouldnt matter .... the feelings were for the woman he pretended to be ....not the man he is

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Posted 28 November 2012 - 00:24

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