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#31 Draconian Guppy

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 20:59

whoa a lot of responses here deserve:

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:05

One night I got drunk with a friend and we ended up having sex, we spoke about it the next day and she asked if we could keep doing it so we were friends with benefits for a while then eventually we started dating but then we realised there was only a physical attraction and not a lot else so we still have sex from time to time if we are both single. Weirdly we are both still really good friends and when we are seeing someone it doesn't feel weird at all, we can hang out a lot alone and nothing ever happens even when we have been drinking so it's kinda cool knowing that even when I'm single I can still get some action :p

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:25

It REALLY depends on the situation..

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:31

You know this will happen when you ask about relationship advice from the internet :) ...
You ask for it ..

How dare you presume such a thing? You know nothing of me, her or our relationship and yet you instantly label her a slag?!



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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:40

Just if this isn't already playing in your head!



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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:55

Did with my ex-wife when I was single and she was as well, then one time after she was with the guy she later married. It was a very mixed up and confusing time for me and her all the same. Yes, emotions were high and there was sort of a bonding thing, but ironically, the final time we did, I knew it would never happen between us again. There was no emotional feeling and it was just that - sex.

When i was dating, I had another ex offer to 'be there for me' when I wanted it and we could do it, but I never took her up on it. It was one of those things where we were both single and between our mates. I do not recommend it for anyone if you have seperated. I have seen many people get back together after doing the deed only to get hurt emotionally worse in the long run after yet another breakup.

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 21:57

How many of you still have feelings for your ex, even though you are with someone else ?

Would you drop your current partner if you had another chance with her / him ?


nah I didnt get into another relationship... I have just been having meaningless sex with average and gorgeous women (no ugmos)

but I would sell my prized possession ...actually i would GIVE IT AWAY if i knew she would come back and stay with me... (btw its a motorbike)

edit... also forgot to say.... i have never cheated... but I have had many exs cheat on their boyfriends or just people i want to hook up with ... im not sexy or anything ... but girls melt for a funny guy!

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:03

nah I didnt get into another relationship... I have just been having meaningless sex with average and gorgeous women (no ugmos)

but I would sell my prized possession ...actually i would GIVE IT AWAY if i knew she would come back and stay with me... (btw its a motorbike)


I know how that feels, not much point asking different questions on how you have tried to win her back as I know you would have already tried them all

I hope you manage it somehow though, broken heart is more painful than anything other that I have experienced

I watched something about love, a documentary, they explained love as a drug similar to heroin, while you have it you feel great, when you lose it you have to suffer withdrawal, but eventually it fades

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:16

I know how that feels, not much point asking different questions on how you have tried to win her back as I know you would have already tried them all

I hope you manage it somehow though, broken heart is more painful than anything other that I have experienced

I watched something about love, a documentary, they explained love as a drug similar to heroin, while you have it you feel great, when you lose it you have to suffer withdrawal, but eventually it fades

I watched something about love, a documentary, they explained love as a drug similar to heroin, while you have it you feel great, when you lose it you have to suffer withdrawal, but eventually it fades


losing her although I love her with everything i have to offer...changed me for the better ... even though I was physically sick for a few months, had black outs from agression and violent out bursts...headaches... loss of apetite...over eating... and so much more... I now go to the gym 3 times a week... ive lost 3 stone in 3 months (wow so many threes...) and I am now muscle and eat better...

losing her convinced me there is something wrong with me so I aimed to try and change everything about my physical apperence... I have lived more in the last few months then I ever had as i stopped giving a **** about playing it safe (parting and such i need say no more) ... and even though I feel like I lost so much...I wouldnt be how I am today ... which yes atleast when my body and stamina were **** I had the love of a gorgeous woman (no joke she was a 9 and people still keep telling me that and I wana punch em) ...

it does fade but it will never leave ... but these women I have been with do help ease the pain cause they give you the same kind of hormone release as the person you are infatuated with just not the same levels...

anyway life story complete :p

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:25

losing her although I love her with everything i have to offer...changed me for the better ... even though I was physically sick for a few months, had black outs from agression and violent out bursts...headaches... loss of apetite...over eating... and so much more... I now go to the gym 3 times a week... ive lost 3 stone in 3 months (wow so many threes...) and I am now muscle and eat better...

losing her convinced me there is something wrong with me so I aimed to try and change everything about my physical apperence... I have lived more in the last few months then I ever had as i stopped giving a **** about playing it safe (parting and such i need say no more) ... and even though I feel like I lost so much...I wouldnt be how I am today ... which yes atleast when my body and stamina were **** I had the love of a gorgeous woman (no joke she was a 9 and people still keep telling me that and I wana punch em) ...

it does fade but it will never leave ... but these women I have been with do help ease the pain cause they give you the same kind of hormone release as the person you are infatuated with just not the same levels...

anyway life story complete :p


Your story backs up my theory of 'everything happens for a reason'

Its a cold line to hear for people who are in that phase, but once you are out of it you can use hindsight and hopefully use it for your future relationships, I have but it doesn't really become much easier, it just puts my mind at ease a little more

I think me and my fiancée are set for life, we argue but its never personal and we always make back up fast even 4 years on

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:32

Your story backs up my theory of 'everything happens for a reason'

Its a cold line to hear for people who are in that phase, but once you are out of it you can use hindsight and hopefully use it for your future relationships, I have but it doesn't really become much easier, it just puts my mind at ease a little more

I think me and my fiancée are set for life, we argue but its never personal and we always make back up fast even 4 years on


I dont think its so much for a reason... just sets a path... 2 good things would have come out of it....i would of had her... or i would of become buff.... either is good personally i would rather have her...either way there is no happy ending just less sad ones :p if i was with her... wouldnt of added to my list... wouldnt of gone to the nest party ever.. wouldnt be closer to my friends... its all perspective...why did you ask this question in the first place?

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:46

I dont think its so much for a reason... just sets a path... 2 good things would have come out of it....i would of had her... or i would of become buff.... either is good personally i would rather have her...either way there is no happy ending just less sad ones :p if i was with her... wouldnt of added to my list... wouldnt of gone to the nest party ever.. wouldnt be closer to my friends... its all perspective...why did you ask this question in the first place?


I don't know why, sometimes I remember past relationships and wonder if they happened again if they would have lasted better now than they did back then

If you love this girl so much, there must have been something about you she liked back then, you won her heart then, can't you be that person again and attract her again ?

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 22:53

all of my exes ended up missing.....or dead..... hmmmmmm

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 23:06

I kept seeing an ex after we 'broke up'. That was a really dumb move because whilst it was ME that broke things off, and she didn't have a problem with post-breakup sex, even though I wanted it it really messed with my head. Also, she was a bit crazy and I thought she'd stop taking the pill...

Thus I learned my lesson. Sex with an Ex is a bad move, a breakup a few months ago resulted in no contact whatsoever.

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Posted 22 January 2013 - 23:19

I don't know why, sometimes I remember past relationships and wonder if they happened again if they would have lasted better now than they did back then

If you love this girl so much, there must have been something about you she liked back then, you won her heart then, can't you be that person again and attract her again ?


its a really backwards ****ed up story where she tried never to lose me and she ended up losing me for good....I could try, I could get her back... but i am turning bitter and also telling my self she does not deserve me especially not now... I really do want her back but I am fighting with my self all the way.. .I had to stop all contact and delete her numbers and emails etc because I just could not take knowing I could give in at any moment ..... my fav quote ever (which just recently got inked on my arm) "when a man learns to love, he bears the risk of hatred"