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[DaDude]

I'm a shy person and am looking for exercises to get rid of it once and for all. After long hours of googling, many sites suggested that self-hypnosis CDs are a great treatment. I've read that shyness is caused by negative thoughts in the subconscious mind, which is true. I always worry that bad things will happen, that I'll look like a fool and that people will reject me for who I am. So, many sources said that with repeat listening to self-hypnosis CDs or MP3s, it will help change those negative thoughts in the subconscious mind and will turn them into positive thoughts. Thus, I will start feeling less nervous and more confident around others once those positive thoughts fully sink into the subconcious mind.

Is this really true? Do self-hypnosis CDs really work? If so, can someone recommend some good CDs I can try that are not too expensive?

Thanks!

[Hum]

It may.

Hypnotherapy would be better, tho more expensive.

A generic CD may not work, because your shyness can be based on deeper, unrecognized beliefs about yourself.

You may believe, for example that you are not 'good enough' for some reason.

You may not be comfortable with your looks.

You could feel guilty about some past event.

Hypnosis is a way to change one's Beliefs, which in turn change your experience.

Best of luck to you ...

[Growled]

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s this really true? Do self-hypnosis CDs really work?

Almost anything can work if you believe it will work. Your beliefs are the key. If you believe you can overcome shyness you can.

[DaDude]

Thanks guys! I'll give it a try. Can't hurt.

[tim_s]

Why don't you come update the forum after trying - let us know if you feel less shy.

[redvamp128]

DaDude, on 05 March 2013 - 14:42, said:

Thanks guys! I'll give it a try. Can't hurt.

Someone actually suggested to defeat shyness one must put one's self out there.
I would actually suggest looking into a course on Public Speaking.... start out with a small crowd then work your way up there.

[DaDude]

redvamp128, on 05 March 2013 - 19:35, said:

Someone actually suggested to defeat shyness one must put one's self out there.
I would actually suggest looking into a course on Public Speaking.... start out with a small crowd then work your way up there.

I can do public speaking. I had to do it countless times in college and still do it now at my job. I can do it as long as I have notes in front of me.

What I can't do is strike a conversation with people I just met or ask a girl out on a date. That's the issue I'm having.

tim_s, on 05 March 2013 - 18:49, said:

Why don't you come update the forum after trying - let us know if you feel less shy.

Will do. I'll report back in a month, since it takes about that time for the self hypnosis to take effect. Sometimes it's longer depending on the person. But yeah, I'll be happy to keep you guys updated.

[Growled]

DaDude, on 06 March 2013 - 00:30, said:

What I can't do is strike a conversation with people I just met or ask a girl out on a date. That's the issue I'm having.

A friend of mine had this issue and he made it his goal to talk to someone every day. He started with people he didn't know and worked up to friends he had a hard time talking to. After a few weeks he saw how easy it was.

[DaDude]

I can talk to someone if I happen to find something interesting to talk about. But when I just meet a stranger and don't know what his/her interests are or can't find something in common to talk about, then OMG, it's awkward silence between the two of us. Ever seen that episode of "Friends" where Ross and Mike (Phoebe's husband) get together at Ross' place. Both of them just sat there in awkward silence and couldn't find anything in common to talk about. Well, that's what it's like with me. Sometimes I try to bring up something to talk about, but the other person is not interested in talking about it. Very awkward.

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