Cookie mom shut down by complaint


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CHANHASSEN, Minn. ?  A Chanhassen mother who has been baking cookies for the kids on her children's bus for 15 years has been shut down by an anonymous complaint.

Every Friday, Anne Tabat has met the school bus in her subdivision with a basket of cookies. It began as a thank you to the bus driver. And, Tabat said, she couldn't give the driver a cookie without giving one to every child on the bus.

Tabat said the cookies were also a way to get to know her neighbors.

"I didn't live in the suburbs until I turned 40," she said. "Look at the way these houses are designed here. They're not designed with a friendly neighborliness community in mind. I haven't been in most of the houses in my neighborhood. People live such busy lives; you don't talk to your neighbors, you don't know your neighbors."

Tabat won't be at the bus stop Friday. She received a phone call from the school this week telling her someone had complained and that she should cease and desist the dispensing of cookies. She said she never really had a straight answer about the specifics of the complaint.

 

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Just wow. How stupid. All this because of one, little complaint? 

 

Well, y'know.. Kids and allergies are a bit of a worry, and possibly some parent worried there was something dodgy in the cookies...  I can see the reason for the complaint, even if I don't necessarily agree with it.

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Well, y'know.. Kids and allergies are a bit of a worry, and possibly some parent worried there was something dodgy in the cookies...  I can see the reason for the complaint, even if I don't necessarily agree with it.

 

If the person has a complaint they should grow a pair and talk the person making the cookies, all could be resolved with a simple conversation. 

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Well, y'know.. Kids and allergies are a bit of a worry, and possibly some parent worried there was something dodgy in the cookies...  I can see the reason for the complaint, even if I don't necessarily agree with it.

 

Don't rule out the ingredients not being halal or kosher!

 

Seems lame, but not entirely surprising. Little Jimmy has an allergic reaction and the whole district ends up sued. Like it or lump it, them the breaks.

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This is just irresposible for ALL parties, the bus driver, all the parents knowing, and the woman giving food to children not her own. You can put so many negitive possible senios to this act.

Just wow. How stupid. All this because of one, little complaint? 

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Well, y'know.. Kids and allergies are a bit of a worry, and possibly some parent worried there was something dodgy in the cookies...  I can see the reason for the complaint, even if I don't necessarily agree with it.

 

You have a point about the allergies but seeing as this has been going on with no issue and the parents fully aware why a fuss all of a sudden? Growing up I experienced similar situations where a parent would give out stuff to all the kids in a class, granted in those days everyone knew everyone and it was a close knit community. It feels to me that the simple joys of being a kid are being taken away bit by bit everyday with overly complex "what if" scenarios. Not saying our parents weren't protective and cautious mind you, but sometimes the things I see these days go a bit overboard.  I'm thankful for growing up when I did. It wasn't perfect but it was enjoyable.

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Probably a new parent in the area.

Your idea makes sense, but I wonder if the parent's child has eaten the cookies before...

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 If the mom gave the children cookies for 15 consecutive years without a problem, shouldn't the cookies be fine?

 

Just takes one allergic reaction, one choking kid, some ingredient the parents don't approve of and everyone'll gets sued.

 

It's surprising no one raised an issue earlier, especially some pencil pusher at the school worrying about lawsuits.

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Probably a new parent in the area.

I think this was probably it.

 

Peanut allergies are a huge problem.  At my daughter's school, even though they bring their own snacks and sometimes lunch (for themselves), they are not allowed to bring anything that contains peanuts or peanut butter.  Probably because kids tend to share and you cannot trust that a child will know what not to eat to avoid a potentially deadly allergy.

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Well, y'know.. Kids and allergies are a bit of a worry, and possibly some parent worried there was something dodgy in the cookies...  I can see the reason for the complaint, even if I don't necessarily agree with it.

 

Might as well ensure that all kids are Bubble Boys I guess?

 

Just takes one allergic reaction, one choking kid, some ingredient the parents don't approve of and everyone'll gets sued.

 

It's surprising no one raised an issue earlier, especially some pencil pusher at the school worrying about lawsuits.

 

Isn't it the job of the parent to ensure that their kid either understands their allergies or doesn't eat anything that isn't from a person their parent instructed? I can understand not wanting your kid to eat them, but that should be as simple as telling your kid not to eat them. One parent shouldn't be able to unilaterally decide for the children of other parents what they can and can't have. With this having gone on for so long I'm sure there are many kids who appreciated it and looked forward to those cookies. Kids appreciate nice gestures too.

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Might as well ensure that all kids are Bubble Boys I guess?

 

 

Isn't it the job of the parent to ensure that their kid either understands their allergies or doesn't eat anything that isn't from a person their parent instructed? I can understand not wanting your kid to eat them, but that should be as simple as telling your kid not to eat them. One parent shouldn't be able to unilaterally decide for the children of other parents what they can and can't have. With this having gone on for so long I'm sure there are many kids who appreciated it and looked forward to those cookies. Kids appreciate nice gestures too.

 

You must not have kids if you think just telling them is enough to make it happen. I mean, do you always not do something just because your parents told you not to? yeah, didn't think so. That is the problem. Plus high school kids are a lot different than elementary ones.

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 If the mom gave the children cookies for 15 consecutive years without a problem, shouldn't the cookies be fine?

yes, I agree this is absolutely absurd. Even if your child has allegies, then take her/him to the nurse. No one is going to die. This is just another case of some parent being over the top when it comes to safety.

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You must not have kids if you think just telling them is enough to make it happen. I mean, do you always not do something just because your parents told you not to? yeah, didn't think so. That is the problem. Plus high school kids are a lot different than elementary ones.

Correct, I don't have kids, but I do remember being younger at a not too distant point in my past...

 

The list of things that can cause injury to a kid, even fatally, are immense. We don't try to shield the child from harm by eliminating every possible danger in the world. I'd argue that doing so does them a huge disservice if we even considered this route (after all, there comes a point where they are no longer a kid and need to understand how to navigate around these hazards)...

 

A good example was my mom claimed that people put razors into fruit on Halloween and poisoned candy for the trick or treating kids. We weren't to eat any open candy and any fruit we were given was to be discarded. My six siblings nor I ever violated this rule because my mom stressed that violating it would kill us. It is a rule that translated well into my older age. I am almost certain to reject opened food from a stranger.

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yes, I agree this is absolutely absurd. Even if your child has allegies, then take her/him to the nurse. No one is going to die. This is just another case of some parent being over the top when it comes to safety.

 

Nut allergies can kill in mere minutes.

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considering none died at this point, i doubt it was about nut allergies ...

 

Like I said before, it was probably a new parent in the area.

 

Some people just like to ruin things for everyone else. Life is like that.

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Isn't it the job of the parent to ensure that their kid either understands their allergies or doesn't eat anything that isn't from a person their parent instructed? I can understand not wanting your kid to eat them, but that should be as simple as telling your kid not to eat them. One parent shouldn't be able to unilaterally decide for the children of other parents what they can and can't have. With this having gone on for so long I'm sure there are many kids who appreciated it and looked forward to those cookies. Kids appreciate nice gestures too.

 

 

I don't disagree. It seems like a sweet lady doing a nice thing. But that simply isn't the world we live in or the culture, especially in the U.S., of "sue, sue, sue" we have.

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