People are so wrapped up in what they have going on at the minute in THEIR life's that they don't have time for you simple.
Now that is something we could all stand to appreciate. We're all caught in the situation of "me." Plenty of times I have had friends approach me with a problem of their own, and while I sit there and listen to them I'm also possibly thinking, "I feel for your situation, but I have my own problems right now."
Would you want to talk to a complete stranger if you had just been dumped, Sat there all alone trying to figure out what went wrong, not knowing where to go or who to turn to, I mean I would but then I am weird like that and I love talking to people (Most of the time )
Heh, we seem to be similar in that respect. A small anecdote of mine happened the other day: I flew with my sister to the UK to help her set up her classroom for her first year as a teacher. When we got done with preparing the classroom I said, "let's go and get a drink. Where do you suggest?" Her response was that she hadn't been out yet. I took her in to town and we found a lovely pub to have a beer. When I stepped outside for a smoke, a couple of people asked me a quick question because they hadn't seen me before. After a few minutes I dragged my sister outside to join us, and these people had some great information about the area that she has moved in to. How did it happen? I enjoy making random conversation with people I don't know.
Laugh it off.
It's advice that I always offer, but I only seem to be able to follow it in the worst situations (namely confrontation), certainly not this particular type of scenario.
But still, it always applies. You have to have a sense of humour about yourself to get through some situations. Give it a go, and if you fail just laugh about it and continue on.
Actually, time for another small anecdote that ties in nicely to this situation: I have a friend who is...a tad socially awkward when it comes to speaking in English. His language skills are perfect, he just doesn't necessarily read the situation right. Anyway, one evening myself, him and another friend were in the pub when it was quite busy and he turned to my friend and said, "I don't understand. How do you start a conversation with someone that you're interested in?" My friend turned to me and said, "Nick, give him an example."
I scanned the room and saw a table of attractive girls. I counted the numbers, turned to the bar and said, "Eddie, get me...10 shots of baby guinness." The shot is important to remember, because it has a nice sweet taste and isn't threatening in the slightest. The barman passed me the tray and I walked over, set them down and said, "here you go girls, compliments of the bar." The girls thanked me, and we all took a shot. Finishing, I said, "so, you girls must be university students from round the corner, right?"
"Yep, we sure are" they all replied.
"Excellent stuff, what are you studying?" I asked.
"Bugger," I said. I wished them well and walked back to my friends laughing.
As an aside, congrats on the new place. I'm sat in my sister's new apartment at the moment, and I'm envious of her. Why couldn't my first flat have been this nice?!