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I'm curious - where does UK law stand on physically pushing people out of your house if they don't leave? In this case, a housemate brings round someone I despise - can I force them to leave?

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if someone paying the bills invites them in i don't think you should ethically. legally iunnoooo

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In this case it would only likely be legal if that person started touching you personal things. Ultimatly, if your room mate wants them in the house, there is little you can do afaik.

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[quote name='Panacik' date='06 June 2010 - 19:25' timestamp='1275848701' post='592716808']
In this case it would only likely be legal if that person started touching you personal things. Ultimatly, if your room mate wants them in the house, there is little you can do afaik.
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So frustrating. I am practically kept to my bedroom as I obviously don't want to see him/her when he/she's downstairs, and my friend/housemate [i]knows[/i] how much I hate him/her. Perhaps it's time to move on.

Cheers for the advice, guys (Y)

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you could always make them want to leave... start cooking something really horrible smelling, or turn up music/TV and have it on something terrible...

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[quote name='Buttus' date='06 June 2010 - 19:38' timestamp='1275849482' post='592716848']
you could always make them want to leave... start cooking something really horrible smelling, or turn up music/TV and have it on something terrible...
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I don't want to be childish about it.

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It depends - if the house is owned by you and your housemate pays only for the room, then you can deny him access to your property - your housemate pays for access for himself, not his friends. If you rent and your the only one on the tenancy agreement, then I believe the above applies, but if your both on the tenancy agreement, then you don't have a say.

As for removing him, you ask him to leave and if he refuses you call the police and ask them to remove him from your property.

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Well, you could perhaps just ask your room-mate nicely .. or deliver a ultimatum?

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[quote name='c3ntury' date='06 June 2010 - 19:41' timestamp='1275849682' post='592716866']
Well, you could perhaps just ask your room-mate nicely .. or deliver a ultimatum?
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What, either the person I dislike ("he/she") leaves or I do? My housemate will say I'm being silly and/or childish, and due to that, will just say I should leave. I'd rather be civilised and tell him that he's a mate and he knows how much trouble he/she is causing me and as a mate, I can only ask him to stop inviting he/she round (since it's practically making me not use my own living room). If my housemate declines, I can't do much and since our friendship obviously doesn't mean much, I may as well just leave.

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You ask them to leave, if they refuse you call the police and they remove them

It is your house, they have no rights in there.


Problems occur when it is someone you share the tenacy with

EDIT - just read someone you actually live with invited them, well first off would be to talk to that person, but I would expect if someone they are bringing round is causing you trouble, it would be in breach of their tenancy agreement, no matter how harsh that is, after all the people who live there have to feel safe in their own home

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[quote name='Phenom II' date='06 June 2010 - 19:49' timestamp='1275850147' post='592716906']
You ask them to leave, if they refuse you call the police and they remove them

It is your house, they have no rights in there.


Problems occur when it is someone you share the tenacy with
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We pay rent to a landlord, so I'm not sure I can ask the police to remove my housemates friend. We don't own the house, we have the same (renting) rights as each other.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 16:45' timestamp='1275839143' post='592716104']
I'm curious - where does UK law stand on physically pushing people out of your house if they don't leave? In this case, a housemate brings round someone I despise - can I force them to leave?
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find someone they don't like and bring them round then have the two people you both don't like fight it out.
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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 19:50' timestamp='1275850216' post='592716912']
We pay rent to a landlord, so I'm not sure I can ask the police to remove my housemates friend. We don't own the house, we have the same (renting) rights as each other.
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You have to grin and bare it then. Talk to your friend and let them know how you feel, they might not realised just how much you dislike this person, but if they tell you to grow up, then you don't have a say really.

The only way it will be different is if they become threatening or aggressive towards you.

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[quote name='XionUK' date='06 June 2010 - 19:59' timestamp='1275850752' post='592716940']
You have to grin and bare it then. Talk to your friend and let them know how you feel, they might not realised just how much you dislike this person, but if they tell you to grow up, then you don't have a say really.

The only way it will be different is if they become threatening or aggressive towards you.
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It's just frustrating that I can't use the living room, kitchen etc. in my own house. I [i]really[/i] hate this person, I can't be in there.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 19:47' timestamp='1275850020' post='592716890']
What, either the person I dislike ("he/she") leaves or I do? My housemate will say I'm being silly and/or childish, and due to that, will just say I should leave. I'd rather be civilised and tell him that he's a mate and he knows how much trouble he/she is causing me and as a mate, I can only ask him to stop inviting he/she round (since it's practically making me not use my own living room). If my housemate declines, I can't do much and since our friendship obviously doesn't mean much, I may as well just leave.
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Just sit them down and explain the situation to your room-mate, tell her to talk to this annoying person and perhaps it will solve itself from there.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 20:00' timestamp='1275850823' post='592716946']
It's just frustrating that I can't use the living room, kitchen etc. in my own house. I [i]really[/i] hate this person, I can't be in there.
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I dont know the circumstances but that is more your problem than your friends, if you cant talk to him about it you either have to put up with it or move.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 20:00' timestamp='1275850823' post='592716946']
It's just frustrating that I can't use the living room, kitchen etc. in my own house. I [i]really[/i] hate this person, I can't be in there.
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That's not true, you can use them - you just don't want to. There's a difference. ;)

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[quote name='c3ntury' date='06 June 2010 - 20:02' timestamp='1275850963' post='592716954']
Just sit them down and explain the situation to your room-mate, tell her to talk to this annoying person and perhaps it will solve itself from there.
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My housemate talking to him/her will solve nothing. Since I can't even go downstairs in my own house (I don't mean physically, obviously), I'm going to have to tell my housemate it's either he/she or me. It all sounds [i]so[/i] drastic I know, but I don't want to be here for another few months whilst he/shes down there.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 20:00' timestamp='1275850823' post='592716946']
It's just frustrating that I can't use the living room, kitchen etc. in my own house. I [i]really[/i] hate this person, I can't be in there.
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I understand how you fell, having to feel you have to stay to your room when the person is there. Personally I would just ignore the persons presence. Not like you have a legal right to communicate to the person. It's your home so try and avoid feeling your held hostage.

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[quote name='King Mustard' date='06 June 2010 - 19:47' timestamp='1275850020' post='592716890']
What, either the person I dislike ("he/she") leaves or I do? [b]My housemate will say I'm being silly and/or childish[/b], and due to that, will just say I should leave. I'd rather be civilised and tell him that he's a mate and he knows how much trouble he/she is causing me and as a mate, I can only ask him to stop inviting he/she round (since it's practically making me not use my own living room). If my housemate declines, I can't do much and since our friendship obviously doesn't mean much, I may as well just leave.
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Don't take this the wrong way but if that's the most likely response from your housemate then maybe you are being silly and/or childish. I think you need to discuss this with your housemate and be open to the possibility that maybe your attitude needs to change.

Anyway, it's summer now so why don't you get out of the house and enjoy yourself :)

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I'd suggest you talk to them about the "problem" friend. If the housemate is not interested or simply does not share your concerns, you don't even have to put it confrontationally like "It's them or me" - you just have to say that you have a real problem with them, and if they're not willing to prevent this person coming over in the future, you don't feel that you can continue to co-habit with your current housemate and you need to move on. Edited by Chicane-UK

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[quote name='Richard Hammond' date='06 June 2010 - 20:03' timestamp='1275851037' post='592716956']
I dont know the circumstances but that is more your problem than your friends, if you cant talk to him about it you either have to put up with it or move.
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As I said, I can talk to him and I will when he's home, but I have a feeling he'll still ask him/her round. I've stopped talking to people if they've hurt a mate or really angered one, so I wish good mates would consider it for me - but I doubt it will happen. It's not like I'm asking him to stop talking to him/her, just to stop asking them round.

[quote name='StevenNT' date='06 June 2010 - 20:05' timestamp='1275851155' post='592716964']
I understand how you fell, having to feel you have to stay to your room when the person is there. Personally I would just ignore the persons presence. Not like you have a legal right to communicate to the person. It's your home so try and avoid feeling your held hostage.
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That's exactly how I feel. I can avoid him/her outside of my home easily enough (because if I don't, I know I'd punch them if it wasn't illegal).

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[quote name='Richard Hammond' date='06 June 2010 - 20:03' timestamp='1275851037' post='592716956']
I dont know the circumstances but that is more your problem than your friends, if you cant talk to him about it you either have to put up with it or move.
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I love your sig, for some annoying people in my town, I wish I could use such a thing :p

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[quote name='Chicane-UK' date='06 June 2010 - 20:08' timestamp='1275851300' post='592716972']
I'd suggest you talk to them about the "problem" friend. If the housemate is not interested or simply does not share your concerns, you don't even have to put it confrontationally like "It's them or me" - you just have to say that you have a real problem with them, and if they're not willing to prevent this person coming over in the future, you don't feel that you can continue to co-habit with your current housemate and you need to move on.
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Well I wouldn't literally say "it's them or me", but I mean that's basically what it would mean.

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I was in the same situation a long time ago. It got to the point where i knew i would snap and really hurt my roommate, so i left.

I think you should leave before it gets to that point.

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