Facebook makes you jealous

A study from the University of Guelph has linked Facebook usage with an increase in relationship jealousy. It is reported that certain "triggers" can increase relationship friction.

The leader of the study, Amy Muise, said that one such trigger occurs with the mere viewing of our partner's Facebook page. We may do so often, and if while doing so we see a post that says, "Had a great time last night", we are prone to feelings of jealousy. The issue escalates when those who have found potentially revealing information seek to find more, assuming the role of a "Facebook creeper".

Muise pointed out that real life has many triggers as well, but often there are contexts in which they can be reconciled. There is no such context on Facebook.

A real-life example of said jealousy occurred when Georgina Hobbs-Meyer became a victim of divorce due to Facebook. She found lusty messages between her husband and some other woman and ultimately decided to end the relationship.

We have seen the current age of technology become increasingly prevalent in job application processes with managers checking up on potential employees through various social networking means. This new study shows the encroachment of Facebook, not only into our professional lives, but our relationships as well.

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I used to be on Facebook, but I deleted my account, got bored of it. Same old crap, so and so did this or that, or took some stupid test, and the result is splattered on the homepage...and many more. So just left it, much to the surprise of some of my friends, I might add!

So dang true! It was fun for a minute to see what all the fuss was about but after a few minutes it got old and stale and I don't get the point of having a wall and sending crap to people, same thing with myspace. Myspacers are nowadays more known for cruising for casual sex than getting anything worthwhile out of the site. Twitter is much the same time suck. Do you really care knowing inane things like what someone had for lunch or that they headed out with Jessica? Social networking is for LEWSERS!

Oh, please. Facebook makes people jealous as much as owning a gun makes you a homicidal maniac.

People make people jealous. Just like people shoot people. The gun (Facebook) is just the tool of choice.

Facebook does not contribute to this. The people who do it contribute to it. They would do the same if they didn't have Facebook. It's just a social medium that makes it easier if you are a dishonest person.

Seriously.. I'm surprised about all the posts in this thread. :S We have none of these problems, and my gf knows I have a number of friends of mixed genders, and it's working out here despite even currently being a distance relationship... Jeez, if you have problems with a girl/guy being so easily jealous, I'd get out of it regardless Facebook. That can't form a lasting relationship anyway. If someone can't even trust a friendly reply on something simply being... a friendly reply.

.beta said,
I don't like social networking sites..the are so complicated. :/


Same here, these social networking sites are made for stupid people that trying to socially in from of a PC. Try the real world people and get some sun!

cabron said,
Same here, these social networking sites are made for stupid people that trying to socially in from of a PC. Try the real world people and get some sun!

Facebook connects you with all your friends the same time.

I wonder if you go out in real life with 500+ friends or more at once.

Glendi said,
Facebook connects you with all your friends the same time.

I wonder if you go out in real life with 500+ friends or more at once.

It's just too easy. Gosh.

cabron said,
Same here, these social networking sites are made for stupid people that trying to socially in from of a PC. Try the real world people and get some sun!


I totally agree. I dont see the point of facebook, except maybe meeting up with "friends" I haven't seen in a while...But that being said, there is a reason I don't see them in the first place.

Sometimes, it seems some of friends that are on facebook like collecting "friends" like they are some kind of pokemon!

My girlfriend gets quite upset whenever an old school friend (from 20 years ago) adds me. At this point I've just given up on Facebook.

lunarworks said,
My girlfriend gets quite upset whenever an old school friend (from 20 years ago) adds me. At this point I've just given up on Facebook.

your girlfriend has some serious jealousy issue. old ex girlfriend i can see, but old school friends???

Keep in mind that it's not just Facebook; All social networking sites can have this effect on people. But it's not the sites that make people jealous or insecure. It's the users themselves that do that. People control relationships, not websites. I'm sorry for anyone who gets upset or insecure about their relationship from Facebook or any social networking site. If a website challenges your relationship, maybe its time to log off and call your girlfriend.

Remember, it's just a website. If Facebook ruined my relationship, I'd submit a bug report.

She found lusty messages between her husband and some other woman and ultimately decided to end the relationship.

That was nothing to do with Facebook. They could have been sms / email / face-to-face flirting

Um, yes, but the evidence was the Facebook flirting, therefore it relates to Facebook. It's not Facebook's fault directly but that is how it links to Facebook...

Facebook feeds peoples need for social interaction. Its a natural human drive to seek out interaction. Facebook provides this but on a level that produces situations in which are far different from the norm and humans cant really cope with. Its understandable that many people can read things online and make the wrong assumptions, especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships (like boyfriends/girlfriends, ect), assuming the worst (like someone is cheating on you).

A real-life example of said jealousy occurred when Georgina Hobbs-Meyer became a victim of divorce due to Facebook. She found lusty messages between her husband and some other woman and ultimately decided to end the relationship.

If there is a problem in a relationship, I do not want to find out about through an online website. I myself do not use facebook on a regular basis. I find exactly this thing happens far to often, to me and other people, and prefer to do my social interactions away from it.

Didn't need a study to prove this. You can tell some people get jealous on it so easily if they missed out on a night out or a party or whatever.

Andrew Lyle said,
This is very true! Facebook makes and breaks relationships..

Can't be very tight relationships, in that case... :S I have never felt anything like what's described when reading my new gf's page.