nexess Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 Before I posted, I deeply thought about what you, johngalt, are saying. I also have in consideration, those "points" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johngalt Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Indeed. I know that you were looking for a true answer, and I also noticed that some of the answers left a lot to be desired. The unfortunate truth is that, more often than not, Men and Women will continue to lead unsatisfying lives, constantly at each others throats, rather than living in harmony as two people who are complements of each other should. The main reason I am still single is that, of all the women I have dated, only 2 really have measured up to my potential - and of those 2, both relationships were "forced" apart due to unforeseen circumstances that barred the pursuit of happiness. Even now I have the conviction that another (or possibly one of those same 2) is still out there and I am content in knowing that. It is a lot like religious faith - you have to believe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aem4162 Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 It's a delicate balance. Women who are good looking are usually stupid. Women who are smart are usually ugly. Women who are both are usually bitchy and conceded. Don't blow your load on any of them. Find a well rounded woman who will go down on you. what a stupid post. i bet your hand is your best friend :angry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FatCat Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 AAAAND LET THE FLAME WARS BEGIN!!! HAVE AT IT!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sin-ergy Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 AAAAND LET THE FLAME WARS BEGIN!!! HAVE AT IT!! :rofl: i do have a feeling this thread will go on for a while ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prozak Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 its like the monster of lake ness, everybody knows it exists, some people claim they have seen it, but no one knows for reals if its just a mith or a tale. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HPMCommander Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 hahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doodle Head Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 It's a delicate balance. Women who are good looking are usually stupid. Women who are smart are usually ugly. Women who are both are usually bitchy and conceded. Don't blow your load on any of them. Find a well rounded woman who will go down on you. I pity you. :rolleyes: I will leave you with one last quote: "Don't judge a book by it's cover." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
memNOC Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 beautiful, inteligent women? yea, i know one. :( and i love her to death. ha ha sucks to be you. she makes me smile. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaron901 Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 its like the monster of lake ness, everybody knows it exists, some people claim they have seen it, but no one knows for reals if its just a mith or a tale. you mean loch ness. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trance Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 And too many of us realists as well.I want several things in a woman: 1) Intelligence - she has to be able to keep up with me in intellectual discussions, and by that I do not mean that she has to agree with me - but if she has her own viewpoints / opinions / theories, she needs to have the intelligence and knowledge to support her ideas with facts. 2) She needs to be relatively good looking, and I am not necessarily speaking about attributes so much as I am speaking of genuine beauty. I have seen some rather plain looking women who are almost magically transformed when their faces become animated as with a smile or other facial expression. An intelligent woman (in my experience) tends to be more expressive through gestures and mannerism than a dumb one, but again, since I am attracted to that sort of thing, my experience may be skewed in that general direction. 3) She needs to be balanced - she can be adventurous, but not suicidal, she can be spontaneous, but not *always* on the spur of the moment, etc. 4) She needs to love me for who I am and not try to make me her next "fix-it" case. I accept her for who she is and will not try to change her - I tried that before with disastrous results. Anything else, such as nymphomania, a predilection toward her own sex, the color of her hair, her national origin, etc is stuff that I can deal with - I will willingly date a blonde if I thin she has the first four qualities, and I will readily break up with a sexy redhead if she is lacking in any of those. Not all of us are sexist - and I hope that more than a simple majority of us have actually provided real insight here to this thread. That's what any of us wants... You grow up when you learn she doesn't exist. You are looking for the perfect woman. She ain't there. Get used to it. However, if you are lucky enough to find someone with even 50% of that... never let her go. It's all about comprimise and changing with the times. And changing for the one you love and loving the changes. However, people are not in it for that anymore. It's all about the now and feeding all the appetites... no regard to others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoult01 Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 It's easy to find women that are intelligent, funny, and good looking. Hell i've been chasing this one @ work for god knows how long. Pity the ones you always want are attracted to that "bad boy" image, or blokes that will treat them bad. Really ****in hate that :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xRKx Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 In my experience, you encounter many many more of them once you get to your later years of college (plan on going to grad school,) or else, get out of college completely. I meet them all the time - they just usually happen to be in their late-20's or 30's. Good thing that's my age group! ^_~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nexess Posted December 24, 2003 Author Share Posted December 24, 2003 trance, why is that men always complain about women not being perfect? i think its just that most [idiotic] (i dont mean you, by any chance) men out there are not "perfect", and therefore blame their wife/gf/whatever. For anything to work, you need an equal and balanced amount of effort... favoring man over woman or woman over man just doesnt work. For some of us, it will be hard to find a woman, because our mental maturity is a lot older than our actual age. And that also holds true for a lot of women. It is true that some Men and Women still live in a bubble, but we're not of the caliber (i hope) that would fall for them anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trance Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 trance, why is that men always complain about women not being perfect? i think its just that most [idiotic] (i dont mean you, by any chance) men out there are not "perfect", and therefore blame their wife/gf/whatever. For anything to work, you need an equal and balanced amount of effort... favoring man over woman or woman over man just doesnt work. For some of us, it will be hard to find a woman, because our mental maturity is a lot older than our actual age. And that also holds true for a lot of women. It is true that some Men and Women still live in a bubble, but we're not of the caliber (i hope) that would fall for them anyway. I am not complaining, and I am by no means saying men are perfect either. I should have clarified and been gender neutral in my response. Both men and women are far from perfect, but it seems like many people would rather not even try to better themselves than grow up and take responsibility anymore. I for one require someone very emotionaly mature, someone that can at least understand my experience if not relate to it. Unfortunately, that is not possible. However, rather than whine about, I've come to terms with it, and am fully aware that I am alone in the universe. I wish all of you the best of luck... you'll need it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sin-ergy Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 That's what any of us wants... You grow up when you learn she doesn't exist. You are looking for the perfect woman. She ain't there. Get used to it.However, if you are lucky enough to find someone with even 50% of that... never let her go. It's all about comprimise and changing with the times. And changing for the one you love and loving the changes. However, people are not in it for that anymore. It's all about the now and feeding all the appetites... no regard to others. people hurt each other too much these days :no: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ze-newie Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Maybe the reason there aren't that many "beautiful, intelligent women" is because our society places too much emphasis on looks and not enough on personality. Some so-called beautiful women feel that just because they are good-looking that they don't have to "be" anything else; they feel they can get by on looks alone and they'll always find some guy that only likes them for their looks so there really isn't any reason for them to develop a real personality. There are a lot of guys that are like this too :rolleyes: Sometimes it's better to re-evaluate your standards...I mean what if you met a wonderful girl that wasn't up to your standards physically? Why should that stop you from getting involved in a relationship with her? You can't have a conversation with just a pretty face. It pays to look deeper than the surface. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vincent Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 And too many of us realists as well.I want several things in a woman: 1) Intelligence - she has to be able to keep up with me in intellectual discussions, and by that I do not mean that she has to agree with me - but if she has her own viewpoints / opinions / theories, she needs to have the intelligence and knowledge to support her ideas with facts. 2) She needs to be relatively good looking, and I am not necessarily speaking about attributes so much as I am speaking of genuine beauty. I have seen some rather plain looking women who are almost magically transformed when their faces become animated as with a smile or other facial expression. An intelligent woman (in my experience) tends to be more expressive through gestures and mannerism than a dumb one, but again, since I am attracted to that sort of thing, my experience may be skewed in that general direction. 3) She needs to be balanced - she can be adventurous, but not suicidal, she can be spontaneous, but not *always* on the spur of the moment, etc. 4) She needs to love me for who I am and not try to make me her next "fix-it" case. I accept her for who she is and will not try to change her - I tried that before with disastrous results. Anything else, such as nymphomania, a predilection toward her own sex, the color of her hair, her national origin, etc is stuff that I can deal with - I will willingly date a blonde if I thin she has the first four qualities, and I will readily break up with a sexy redhead if she is lacking in any of those. Not all of us are sexist - and I hope that more than a simple majority of us have actually provided real insight here to this thread. www.match.com go here and dont waste neowin's time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+John Teacake MVC Posted December 24, 2003 MVC Share Posted December 24, 2003 There was this girl.... she had penguin socks, and knew what linux was.I asked her out.... the rest is history :happy: good example of pretty + intellegent! thats a nice story :blush: penguin socks . . . how cute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+John Teacake MVC Posted December 24, 2003 MVC Share Posted December 24, 2003 it takes all sorts to make the world go around. There are stupid, smart, stuck up, snotty, down to earth, etc. very true most of the nice ones are stuck up and snotty. Those are the worst ones :angry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanctified Veteran Posted December 24, 2003 Veteran Share Posted December 24, 2003 thank you so much for saying that well, look at some of the replies here, I have the women image in a very high place and I hate with passion sexism Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CyberKewl Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 Indeed. I know that you were looking for a true answer, and I also noticed that some of the answers left a lot to be desired.The unfortunate truth is that, more often than not, Men and Women will continue to lead unsatisfying lives, constantly at each others throats, rather than living in harmony as two people who are complements of each other should. The main reason I am still single is that, of all the women I have dated, only 2 really have measured up to my potential - and of those 2, both relationships were "forced" apart due to unforeseen circumstances that barred the pursuit of happiness. Even now I have the conviction that another (or possibly one of those same 2) is still out there and I am content in knowing that. It is a lot like religious faith - you have to believe. I agree with you on this one. Most couples tend to blame each other, call each other names and stuff like that instead of going to the root of the problem and solving it together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vincent Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 being single and meeting lesbians(freaky fine ass ones) is like the best of both worlds Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
giga Veteran Posted December 24, 2003 Veteran Share Posted December 24, 2003 what a stupid post. i bet your hand is your best friend :angry: LOL :laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimplyPotatoes Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 I'm a college freshman. And in 18 years of my life, i've come across very few intelligent and good looking women. Where are all these womens? If you all are out there, could you give us guys a clue? pleasse? give up and go for guys, maybe you will have better luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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