DrMetallica Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Imma need some advice. Keep reading I've had an Russian girlfriend (moved over here when she was 8, met her 2 years ago, she's 17) for almost forever (1 1/2 years) but something's messed up now... I went over to her house thursday night to help her with studying for a chemistry final, the session was kinda ho-hum. She threw a fit that I was throwing too much kino and being overtly sexual (well damn, there's something new for ya), and kicked me outside her room and locked herself in. She's done crazier stuff so I didn't think it was any big deal because she opened it a couple minutes later. We do some chem but all ova sudden she starts rubbing herself while I'm trying to explain thermochemistry to her. I get distracted and like any normal overtly sexual sexy guy start kissing her. She sorta gets ****ed again and talks about how she's gonna be a porn star or something when she grows up. Since it's getting kinda late and the Doc needs his sleep I leave. I called her that night around 3am and talk to her, she said she was really worried about finals the next day and I told her good night and she said I love you and then I told her I'd call her when I woke up. Woke up, called, no answer. Tried 5 more times. Waited a couple hours and called again. She picked up and I said "hey!" then automatically she hung up. Called her the next day saying the same thing "hey!" then automatically she hung up. I went over to her house to hopefully SPEAK to her but as soon as I announed I was home she ran into her room and locked the door. No crying, no "get outta my house before i call the cops!!", just calmly left and avoided eye contact. Her mom and sister were very warm so I stayed for an hour watching some crummy movie on Lifetime before I left. Havn't talked to her since Thurs. night. I'd really at least like to say good bye and stroke her hair for one last time because she leaves for New York City tomorrow and I won't even have a chance to see her until November. Imagine a healthy (at least since January) long term relationship just not taking any of your calls and avoiding you at all costs before a long departure. And these past three days were supposed to be the best days we've had together (hiking, camping, cuddling, doggy style, etc.) and she's made a big deal about how much she wants me to be the last person she sees at LA and how great it'll be once we see each other again etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
biorK Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Hmm maybe she ****** up at her finals because she stayed up for 3am when you called her? Maybe she's blaiming you? About the sexual thing.. I don't know what to think. Edit- What do you personally think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary_Player Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Girls are just mentally unstable :s between horomones and the inability to have purely physical relationships (mwahahaha) a very large % of them are incompatible with a very large %age of guys. Lucky me, mine is 99.9% stable...but during that .1% watch the **** out Not to sound like a sissy but I'd say talk to her. See wtf the deal is...My educaated guess (personal experience) shes just freaked out about not being around you for a few months. Good Luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vespaman Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 yep agree..she may becomes unstable because she's afraid not seeing you again... the ""hey" and hung up" part may be because it wasn't her who hung up the phone? go talk to her..you're still lucky having someone there for you..unlike me...*jealous* listening to tiesto - love comes again....but wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen *out of topic* :cry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterHaze Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Did you say you love her after she said it to you on the phone when you two last talked? Because you said " I told her good night and she said I love you and then I told her I'd call her when I woke up." Did you say that and just forgot to write that part in or did you just forget to tell her that you love her on the phone? If you can't get her to talk to you, I suggest you write her a letter letting her know how much you care and that you don't understand what's going on because she won't even talk to you about it. Slip the letter under her bedroom door or tape it to the knob of her bedroom door. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mistical Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Why is she going to new york? Also I would try and go see her before she leaves to go to NY, try talk talk with her, and not be sexual about anything. Not sure if you are a lot but just giving that advice, and be sweet I guess. And maybe use another word then "hey!" maybe like "hi name" I missed you, and so on, then start talking? just something different. Something could of happened or going on in her life that makes her like this, so try to see what is going on, or it could be because of finals and stressing out... like everyone gets like that, I had to deal with it with a few people .. sigh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ze-newie Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 It might be her very strange way of dealing with the fact that she won't be able to see you for a long time. Keep trying to contact her and talk to her. Best of luck...women can be very strange sometimes (well so can guys, but that's another topic) :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mistical Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 If you can't get her to talk to you, I suggest you write her a letter letting her know how much you care and that you don't understand what's going on because she won't even talk to you about it. Slip the letter under her bedroom door or tape it to the knob of her bedroom door. I agree with this. Also answer his other part so we can help you more, if I am even helping, not sure if I am at all, lol. Trying too. But that would be a good idea for you to do, if you can not get in contact with her any other way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeoSigma Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Welcome to the world of women. :laugh: (no offense to any women out here on Neowin :p) They're an interesting bunch to try to understand aren't they. All I can offer to you is to say sorry because remember... YOU are always wrong; even when you're right... you're still wrong. Tell her you're sorry even if there is no reason to be sorry. Here's something that I see often when it comes to relationships like this; the more you keep chasing her about it, the more the she will try to ignore you but once to stop paying any attention to her and she realizes you are not around anymore she's gonna start looking for you because she's going to confused and want to know why you're not coming after her and she'll come to you for the answer. It's weird but I've seen it happen so many times. :p :laugh: In your case it may not be a good idea if you're really short on time and if she will be leaving soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joseph B Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 From my personal expirence. Don't get involved until you think you have found the perfect match for you. I do not believe in all the love at first sight ****. Truthfully, just forget about her. She is trying to forget about you. So don't make it harder on her. I am telling you, u'll thank yourself. And yeah, I am not a woman. But I kind of am... Please do not ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearded Kirklander Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Sorry for your troubles. But I will say this. I would bail on her and the situation as fast as I could. Give her plenty of distance, don't try to contact her and if she wants to get ahold of you, then let her. Psycho chicks are not worth the exposure. They can drag you into some pretty messed up stuff and you could end up holding the bag. If you have any doubts, just back off and let her figure it out. If she comes back to you and things are ok, then it was meant to be. If she does not, then maybe it is for the best. Good luck though, no matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterHaze Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 From my personal expirence. Don't get involved until you think you have found the perfect match for you. Truthfully, just forget about her. She is trying to forget about you. So don't make it harder on her. I am telling you, u'll thank yourself. And yeah, I am not a woman. But I kind of am... Please do not ask. uhh :blink: How can you find what you think is the perfect match if you don't put some involvement in it? :blink: That is the worse advice I ever heard. You want him to forget about her and not even give things a chance when it could be any number of reasons and he shouldn't find out what's going on? Everyone has problems from time to time. By your logic whenever the girl expresses strong emotion he should get rid of her. You don't know that is what she is trying to do. I don't see how you can say you are kind of one even because you don't even know anything about them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted June 29, 2004 MVC Share Posted June 29, 2004 you need some good bye sex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
insurektion Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 ya she def freakin cause she wont see you. show up like 5 min b4 her plane or whatever leaves for NY. I dunno what to say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeoSigma Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 you need some good bye sex right after some make up sex. :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearded Kirklander Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 uhh :blink: How can you find what you think is the perfect match if you don't put some involvement in it? :blink: That is the worse advice I ever heard. You want him to forget about her and not even give things a chance when it could be any number of reasons and he shouldn't find out what's going on? Everyone has problems from time to time. By your logic whenever the girl expresses strong emotion he should get rid of her. You don't know that is what she is trying to do. I don't see how you can say you are kind of one even because you don't even know anything about them. I think this one is not that typical. My point is that it seems she needs space to sort things out. That's what I'm trying to get at. And yes, sometimes freak-outs like this are a sign that it is time to just back off and let her work out her issues. If she comes around later, then maybe see what up. But until then, backing off and giving her breathing room sounds like a good idea. Getting rid of her is not the same thing as giver her space to work out her problems. Be there for her if she wants help but don't push her while she sorts out her issues, I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterHaze Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 My point is that it seems she needs space to sort things out. That's what I'm trying to get at. And yes, sometimes freak-outs like this are a sign that it is time to just back off and let her work out her issues. Getting rid of her is not the same thing as giver her space to work out her problems. er why are you telling me this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearded Kirklander Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 er why are you telling me this? I had thought you were responding to my earlier post. If I am mistaken, I apologize. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterHaze Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I had thought you were responding to my earlier post. If I am mistaken, I apologize. I had quoted the guy before you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
p0welly Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 My advice is as follows Women: you cant live with em, and you cant beat them to death with a blunt instrument and bury them in the back garden. :devil: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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