Friends who drink too much


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I have a friend that drinks wayy too much, and once drunk refuses to accept the fact he/she is drunk. (i'm leaving the person anonymous) If something doesn't go the way he/she thinks it should, stuff gets.. broken... not violent towards other people just towards things... on top of that they make references to thats how their dad/mom was etc...

I'll give you an example.. we ask the person if they want anything from McDonalds while we are gone, they say no, we come back and they ask what we got them.. and it things get broken...

Usually its small things like that, it gets triggered then they fall asleep...

How do I reach this person while they are sober without causing a fight?

Thanks!

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:omg: are you talkin about me :blush: j/k

well anyway you must talk to this person fast this usually means that he/she is using alcohol to get rid of his/her problems dont let them do that if worse comes to worse you can get that person some counseling, and if that person hasnt been violent toward people trust me that person eventualy will ;)

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That sounds like a problem that only they can really solve. The best thing you can do is show your concern for their behavior and their health. But they're not going to really help themselves unless they want it. Personally, as hard as it would be, I wouldn't hang out with them anymore. Someone's going to get into a lot of trouble, or seriously hurt :(

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"hey, do you remember how you act when youre drunk?"

I don't allow myself to get drunk.... for some reason (call me weird if you want) I don't like puking and getting a headache...

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,Jun 29 2004, 17:47] With friends like that you have to ask yourself - are they're worthy of your friendship?

Just cause they have a drinking problem is no reason to just end the friendship. Now if it's just a mutual friend, sure. But a good friend I'd feel obligated to talk to them about it and try to help out.

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I don't allow myself to get drunk.... for some reason (call me weird if you want) I don't like puking and getting a headache...

nono, just bring it up like that with your friend, if they can admit how they are its a good thing, if not, you can explain what its like.

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videotape him while he's drunk and show him the tape when he's sober.

a guy i knew turned to priesthood and quit drinking cold turkey after seeing the type of things he did intoxicated. no joke, the man turned to God.

:yes:

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But the problem is they know what they are doing.. to be honest I think the person is just tryng to be like their parents... i've been around his/her parents and they act exactly the same way (except they don't break stuff)....

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i think he meant ask him if he remembers when he's drunk... not you... i think...

Well look, it's that simple.

You're usually with friends right? Make sure your friends can "control" him/her.

Bring your digicam/a digicam/a videocam/smthg to make a movie/pictures with.

Have fun.

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i think he meant ask him if he remembers when he's drunk... not you... i think...

Well look, it's that simple.

You're usually with friends right? Make sure your friends can "control" him/her.

Bring your digicam/a digicam/a videocam/smthg to make a movie/pictures with.

Have fun.

..thats a good idea... I will try that.

But the problem with that is they will just find what triggered it and use that as an excuse.. he/she already told me "alcohol doesn't alter the truth, it just exaggerates it" and I said thats total bull****...

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i think he meant ask him if he remembers when he's drunk... not you... i think...

Well look, it's that simple.

You're usually with friends right? Make sure your friends can "control" him/her.

Bring your digicam/a digicam/a videocam/smthg to make a movie/pictures with.

Have fun.

yup, what i meant. :yes:

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Thats easier said than done.. :(

I left my entire former group of friends because of that, I was alone for months untill I meet the people that today are my friends, believe me, its easier when you know you dont need such crap in your life

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But the problem is they know what they are doing.. to be honest I think the person is just tryng to be like their parents... i've been around his/her parents and they act exactly the same way (except they don't break stuff)....

:o he's doing it purposefully?

kick him in the groin and move on..

who needs ###### friends?

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Lets pretend (ok truthfully) its a member of the family, not closely related, but they are living with us right now, the rest of the family understands it is a problem, but i'm the only one who really wants to take action...

I can't really kick him and leave..

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,Jun 29 2004, 18:57] I left my entire former group of friends because of that, I was alone for months untill I meet the people that today are my friends, believe me, its easier when you know you dont need such crap in your life

same here man.. i left my entire group of high school friends, even a person who was supposed to be my best friend.. we were always tight, for years..

then something changed.. i started noticing little things.. hipocrisy is a bitch.. hell, even i changed.. they were simply not something i wanted to be associated with.... anymore..

i'm glad i did it..

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same here man.. i left my entire group of high school friends, even a person who was supposed to be my best friend.. we were always tight, for years..

then something changed.. i started noticing little things.. hipocrisy is a bitch.. hell, even i changed.. they were simply not something i wanted to be associated with.... anymore..

i'm glad i did it..

thats the same thing that happened to me, now Im happy with that decission

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Lets pretend (ok truthfully) its a member of the family, not closely related, but they are living with us right now, the rest of the family understands it is a problem, but i'm the only one who really wants to take action...

I can't really kick him and leave..

if its really that bad then yes, you can just leave, you cant let something like that slowing down your life rythm

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