Powerworks Posted June 29, 2004 Author Share Posted June 29, 2004 ,Jun 29 2004, 17:06] if its really that bad then yes, you can just leave, you cant let something like that slowing down your life rythm lol, i'm 16, where am I supposed to go? I would rather not just LEAVE I love my family and want to be with them...but this is becoming a real bitch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanctified Veteran Posted June 29, 2004 Veteran Share Posted June 29, 2004 lol, i'm 16, where am I supposed to go? I would rather not just LEAVE I love my family and want to be with them...but this is becoming a real bitch. what I mean with leave is to kick and leave that person alone :) You cant help somebody who doesnt want to help himself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
matt74441 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I'm not much of a drinker, in fact I hardly get drunk at parties. This is mostly due to some family issues in the past with alcohol, so I avoid it whenever possible. I've had some friends end up in the hospital from drinking too much, and whenever I try to talk to them about it they ###### foot around the issue or tell me stuff like I'm boring or something. Personally I don't know how fun it would be to drink myself to the point of me ****ing myself and barfing all over myself (happened to a friend). When I go to school this fall, I'm living with 3 other people in my room (its an apartment style residence), so I'm looking forward to seeing how many of them are heavy drinkers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Powerworks Posted June 29, 2004 Author Share Posted June 29, 2004 ,Jun 29 2004, 17:09] what I mean with leave is to kick and leave that person alone :)You cant help somebody who doesnt want to help himself Can't do that, the rest of the family has sympathy and wants to put up wtih the ######.... Also the person acts as though we (the family) don't care but obviously we do, and after they throw a fit, I guess they expect us to do what they wanted to start with.. but afterwards I honestly DON'T care about the person and would rather the person leave my life... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hypoxiaicon Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Do they all know how you feel? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Powerworks Posted June 29, 2004 Author Share Posted June 29, 2004 Do they all know how you feel? Yea, but my opinion is like a fart in the wind with them... i'm only 16.. what the hell do I know.. or so they say... I'm the only one with logic around here... :crazy: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
memNOC Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I can't really kick him and leave.. throw him out then.. believe me, i know what alcohol can do to a person.. in fact, i've experienced something real close to what i think you're going through right now.. my uncle is an alcoholic.. he was living with us for about a year, and every other night he either fought (umm verbally) with my mom, or threw a scene and proceeded to go out and get p*ss drunk, come back at like 3-4am, wake everybody up and go to sleep.. the next day, it's like nothing hapenned.. if that's not hipocrisy, i don't know what is.. the point is, my mom had enough of his bullsh*t, so one night, at one of his usual hissy fits, she threw him out of the house.. he was gone the next day.. after all we've done for him, gave him a place to live, and be extremely patient with him, he had the nerve to insult and offend my mother, calling her all sorts of things i won't even be bothered to remember.. he even tried to get physical with her.. i usually disconnect myself and let them deal with it on their own.. after all, she was the one who actually let him crash despite of knowing the type of sh*t he was capable of, so i used to think of it as him being her problem.. he never seemed to get with me personally, but by God, had he layed a hand on her that night, i would've made sure he doesn't leave walking.. well, anyway.. do what you gotta do.. talk to your parents and let them know how you feel, at least.. until something happens, just make sure you ignore him to the best of your abilities.. that's what i did.. good luck (Y) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Powerworks Posted June 29, 2004 Author Share Posted June 29, 2004 thanks for the advice.. i'm going to have to think this through pretty hard.. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Armada Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 definately sit them down and talk to them straight up and i bet that will knock some sence into them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longsiege Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 If they get drunk and start breaking crap, just give um more until they pass out. This is the time where you shave their eyebrows and colour their face with permenant marker. They'll regret drinking... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivand Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 videotape him while he's drunk and show him the tape when he's sober.a guy i knew turned to priesthood and quit drinking cold turkey after seeing the type of things he did intoxicated. no joke, the man turned to God. :yes: We did that to my dad once, he left and came drunkest than ever :crazy: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aem4162 Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 my father was a mean alcoholic and he almost wrecked our family. mom kicked him out in 1975 because it was the only thing she could do. in contrast, his father's solution was to get him to go to church. mom's solution was far better. you can't be nice to an alcoholic because you'll regret it later. do what you can to have him kicked out or distance yourself from him. you aren't doing yourself or anyone else a favor by putting up with it. good luck :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hum Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 :rolleyes: He/she needs some improved beliefs about themself. If you can't help, get a pro -- psycologist or other shrink. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivand Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 my father was a mean alcoholic and he almost wrecked our family. mom kicked him out in 1975 because it was the only thing she could do. in contrast, his father's solution was to get him to go to church. mom's solution was far better.you can't be nice to an alcoholic because you'll regret it later. do what you can to have him kicked out or distance yourself from him. you aren't doing yourself or anyone else a favor by putting up with it. good luck :) Yeah, you cant be good with them. Finally afer 10 years of alcoholism my parents divorced last week, we are all feeling better than ever ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fred Derf Veteran Posted July 1, 2004 Veteran Share Posted July 1, 2004 If you are going to a movie or something that doesn't involve alcohol then invite them. If you are going to a party then don't invite them. If they ask why then tell them that you don't like how they act when they drink. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myria Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 I wouldn't call that kind of a person a friend... But still talking is the best option around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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