ernicoats Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Here is a ? for everyone, how long after the first date should a guy call the girl? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prof. Frink Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 You should call her when you want to. Don't be a stooge and do the wait a couple days thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nosnhojm Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 i would say you should call her before she even gets home that evening, and leave a message on her machine...and get her all paranoid and stuff.... at least, thats what i'd tell you to do :-) I of course wouldnt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silvorgold Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 phone her!!! :D lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PabUK Veteran Posted March 26, 2002 Veteran Share Posted March 26, 2002 Whenever it feels right to you. Nobody else can tell you this as like so many things there is no exact answer, no right or wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thecoz Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 I normally call a girl the next day if you say you are going to call. if you just have her number then wait one more day. Hey but if you have the stuff to talk about and you reallly like her and all then go for it call whenever you want. I called my girlfriend the same night as our first date casue we still had so much to talk about and really had a good time and all. I have been with her for a while now so you anythign can work but its best to go by your heart. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vinh Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 http://askmen.com/ use that, i have never used it befor but i came past it in a google search and its on the same question your asking. Search for it their. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PM5K Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 You know it's really a guessing game, take your best bet based on the kind of person you think she is. Either: Calling too soon will make her think you are too serious and taking the pace too quick. Or calling too late will make her think you aren't interested. Calling soon makes her think you are interested Calling later can make her think you are interested but not too serious. It's basically just a craps game, hopefully you make the right decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superbeast Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Call her? You have to call a woman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PM5K Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Yes, unless you already got some on the first date, I suppose you wouldn't have to. Trust me chap, I am the man when it comes to ladies, and for this one just follow your instincts, and if you call and the line is busy, or you get the machine, take it as a sign to call later, rather than earlier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnaBonger Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 you gotta wait 4.7 days... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superbeast Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 My question is "Why didn't you ask when you could call her?". This clears the air for you, let's her know you're interested (and if she's not, she'll make certain you shouldn't waste your time), and it makes certain you won't miss her. Other than the fact it helps open a good line of communication (I'm not being funny here) for a relationship, which is very important. Think about it, right now, you don't know when to call. If you'd asked. you'd know. Right now you aren't certain she wants you to call. If you'd asked, you'd know. And right now, even if SHE wants you to call, you may miss her because she has a life. And damn if that wouldn't suck. Remember, women are people...treat them like people and talk to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ernicoats Posted March 26, 2002 Author Share Posted March 26, 2002 so far thats the best one that i have heard since i started this tread. good post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshie Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Eh, just call whenever the hell you want. If you really have to play the little games just to keep her, she ain't worth it. Compromise is overrated. :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PM5K Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Yes, it's a good one, but just the same some women like men who are forward and don't beat around the bush and some women who don't like that. It's really a no-win situation, makes you wonderhow we seem to win sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ernicoats Posted March 26, 2002 Author Share Posted March 26, 2002 females are not meant for men to understand i have found that out by all of your posts and replys. lets just put it that way. Females need to not be as confussing as they are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corpse Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 I like your style superbeast ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrunkenMaster Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Yes. Wait for her to call. [sarcasm] If you can this is the best way. This way you find out if she's interested as well. Find someone else to go out with while you're waiting for her to call back. Compare the two and decide who's better. Ideally, you'll want to find someone else within a 2-4 day grace period. If not call the girl back. Otherwise, she might have found someone. [/sarcasm] I wish [sarcasm] was an html tag. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steamer Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 If she seemed interested in you on the date, than u have to wait for a few days and let her wonder if you are interested in her. That way she will be thinking about you. Never leave a message if you get the machine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomis_nehc Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 It's all about the bait thing. Like Steamer said, if she's intersted, then bait her. Women very much likes the mystery/hard to get type. Dunno why, but that is "the way". :) But all in all, call if you have that URGE. hehe ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keldyn Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 I think you people should stop being so weak. It is my experience that women enjoy being chased. Call her as soon as you can. ( not the same night though )Nothing wrong with enthusiasm. I am sure she will be all the more flattered. The next day is nice. Sort of a follow up, make sure she enjoyed the date, etc... then you can introduce the suggestion of a following date perhaps. If you don't call, the girl, most likely will assume you are not interested. :ermm: Don't make the mistake of getting the idea into your head that she does not like you, or she probably did not enjoy herself. (unless it is blatantly obvious that she didnt lol). Call her. She will appreciate it. It will let her know you had a good time and are interested in her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steamer Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Just an after thought after my last posting...Calling right after a date is a no no.......If she is realy interested in you and you don't call in a few days ...she will be calling you in no time at all...Get caller ID so you know who is calling and don't always answer when they call...let her wonder what you are up to...Women in general like to do the chaseing. Keep it light for the first three mounths. I don't know your age, but I am 50 and it has work for a long time. I never find myself without a date or a good nights rest:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomis_nehc Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 Originally posted by Steamer ... or a good nights rest:) :D wow, must be tiring havin' some everyday! j/k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superbeast Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... Some of you guys kill me. Listen, my wife is hot. She's smart, and not only does she make ALOT of money and used to be a professional dancer (Dallas Ballet) she's my best friend! And trust me - I used to own an indoor tanning salon - women paid me hundreds of dollars to come undress with me! I know women - just ask her when you should call, it's no big deal! ...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, no offense, this is just REALLY funny... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LunaC Posted March 26, 2002 Share Posted March 26, 2002 I have to agree with the post above in a way... Did she say when to call? Did you ask? Did you give her your number? I think perhaps women are a lot less complicated than men think, and vice versa... I've listened to this exact same conversation coming from women... and heard a lot of the same advice... amazing we ever end up calling with both sides so nervous :) My advice, call her when it feels right. If you really like her, maybe do something more interesting than just a phone call, perhaps leave a flower... or a small gift that reminds you of your date, (something you both laughed about, something that you saw... whatever as long as it will remind her of something fun or romantic) by her door with a note telling her that when you saw it you thought of her and why... and don't forget to sign your name and number. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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