Hawkeye Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 "umm.. yeah.. I have to go pick my wife up from high school" 586277099[/snapback] It's not impossible to get married while in high school or just after high school. I knew a young couple back in high school who had known each other for about 8 years already (since they were both 9-10) who had agreed to marry shortly after their high school graduation. The guy was 18 and the girl was 17 on the day of the wedding. Both sets of parents wholeheartedly approved in this case, and the couple is still happily married now 4 years later. Yes, I know that the two cases are rather different, but don't assume that a high school student cannot get married. It is indeed possible. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Server.System Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Have you seen the survey results from that story? Currently 57% think the state shouldn't prosecute, do that many people really condone paedophilia? Married or not she's a kid. 586277089[/snapback] Kid or not shes still his wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glassofwater Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Kid or not shes still his wife. 586277182[/snapback] And? Still makes him a paedophile. What would you say if they weren't married? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
insurektion Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 If the parents consented to the marriage, and dont mind their daughter being with a 22 year old and the daughter is ok with it then I wonder really whos business is this anyway? I personally dont agree with 13 and 22 year olds doing their thing but if they're married legally and they're happy leave them too it. 586277160[/snapback] Right :blink: :x Whats 9 years when your in Love? :x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geo Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Wife or not, something should have been done about the original situation in reasonable time, it shouldn't have got to this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlibbyFlobby Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Right :blink: :x Whats 9 years when your in Love? :x 586277195[/snapback] Like I said I dont agree with sexy between 13 yr olds and 22yr olds and I believe 16 is a good age for sex, but I also dont see whos business it is either. They all consent, their marriage was legal and sex was always going to follow. Perhaps they should change the marriage laws instead if they want to prevent this. After all if you can legally marry then shouldnt you be able to have sex, otherwise its pretty stupid. :wacko: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kupo-Cheer Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 If they are able to be legally married, then why create a law contradicting that saying they cannot have sex with their 13 (now 14) year old spouse? This is another one of these weird situations I just want no part of... but still, they *are* married, their families back them, so let it slide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stanneh Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 dunno which part of that story is least suprising to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trance Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Hell I was engaged in High School when I was 16... She was 18. Here are the issues as I see it... 22 year old (21 at the time probably) had sex with a 13 year old. That is Stat rape. He should have been prosecuted then. However that didn't happen, and all parties involved, including parents agreed to a marriage. At that point, since she is a minor, but the parents agreed (legal guardianship) the law should have been satisfied. The girl wasn't coerced into the marriage (I think, no proof to the contrary). So, age has now gone out the window. The gov't should not have any say into their personal lives. Every possible person in the family has consented knowing all the info. I completely agree that it is... icky for someone that age to be with someone that young... ok, too bad, it happened. It is over. Oh yeah, and the gov't should be applauding the guy for at least sticking with the girl and marrying her instead of dumping her like he could have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrew Lyle Global Moderator Posted July 27, 2005 Global Moderator Share Posted July 27, 2005 woody allen comes to mind :p thats sick people actually marry 13 year old girls :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deathray Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 This just demonstrates the flaws in the system... legally married in one state... illegal in another state essentially Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nexus Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Is he really to blame. One set of laws says it's ok, while another contradicts that and says NO. The only way would be to move back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ceminess Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Hell I was engaged in High School when I was 16... She was 18.Here are the issues as I see it... 22 year old (21 at the time probably) had sex with a 13 year old. That is Stat rape. He should have been prosecuted then. However that didn't happen, and all parties involved, including parents agreed to a marriage. At that point, since she is a minor, but the parents agreed (legal guardianship) the law should have been satisfied. The girl wasn't coerced into the marriage (I think, no proof to the contrary). So, age has now gone out the window. The gov't should not have any say into their personal lives. Every possible person in the family has consented knowing all the info. I completely agree that it is... icky for someone that age to be with someone that young... ok, too bad, it happened. It is over. Oh yeah, and the gov't should be applauding the guy for at least sticking with the girl and marrying her instead of dumping her like he could have. 586277240[/snapback] (Y) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jooface Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 This just demonstrates the flaws in the system... legally married in one state... illegal in another state essentially 586277259[/snapback] Actually its a benefit of federalism, your views may be complete different from another, but it doesn't mean that you're right. As a result, different communities have different standards to taper towards certain people. I quite frankly don't really care, the age difference isn't THAT bad, I mean it's not like its a child molestor since it was a mutual agreement to get married. Hey this was pretty common during the colonial era (that is the age difference was even 'worse' 16 to a 30 year old). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deathray Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Actually its a benefit of federalism, your views may be complete different from another, but it doesn't mean that you're right. As a result, different communities have different standards to taper towards certain people.I quite frankly don't really care, the age difference isn't THAT bad, I mean it's not like its a child molestor since it was a mutual agreement to get married. Hey this was pretty common during the colonial era (that is the age difference was even 'worse' 16 to a 30 year old). 586277306[/snapback] But the thing is now the guy and the girl are gonna be embarassed for what they and their families most likely thought was legal... hence now they suffer :s ... and then this goes into the last statement trance made, that guy did the right thing by staying with her, now he suffers. Regardless, that's just how i see it ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotwire Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 this is justs sooo omfg omfg wtf it's so stupid if she had sex with him already which apparently yes therefore why would they be permitted to marry in the first place instead of sending him to jail? or charge him? :ninja: :ninja: :ninja: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aristotle-dude Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Why is it legal to marry at such yong age in AMERICA? I don't care if it's just one state it's just silly. 586276849[/snapback] Who are you to judge. I personally think that it is wrong but I don't go around judging other cultures. It's funny how everyone is going around telling everyone to be tolerant of gays but it seems to be perfectly Politically Correct to do what you are doing eh? Double standards? :rolleyes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicedreams Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Wasn't Mary the mother of Jesus only like 14 when she gave birth? Back in the past, people got married in their teens and had families also. Read the history books. Of course people didn't live long back in the day though. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicedreams Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Even though I disagree with a man of that age with a minor, it seems like the family worked it out and so the government needs to step back. I hate how the government regardless of what it is has to control people's life even if they are fine with what and how they live. The family has them married and it seems like they are fine with it, so be it. They worked it out. That's one of the points of life anyways. Having problems and working them out. I've heard that in Central America, if a man rapes a woman and then offers her parents to marry her, then he's off the hook. Now that's weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doli Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Wasn't Mary the mother of Jesus only like 14 when she gave birth?Back in the past, people got married in their teens and had families also. Read the history books. Of course people didn't live long back in the day though. LOL 586277781[/snapback] I dont see what that has to do with what is going on now, she didnt live under Nebraska's state laws. :p They got married in Kansas because of its state law that allows it. While the marriage is valid in Nebraska, their state law says she is a minor and thats that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninjamunky Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 So stupid to charge this man! 586276848[/snapback] So stupid to marry this man... Wasn't Mary the mother of Jesus only like 14 when she gave birth?Back in the past, people got married in their teens and had families also. Read the history books. Of course people didn't live long back in the day though. LOL 586277781[/snapback] Even if she was, she didn't have intercourse with anyone. You have convieniently left out the whole virgin part ;) And just because they used to do it in the past, and some people do it now, doesn't mean it's right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitch409 Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Hell I was engaged in High School when I was 16... She was 18.Here are the issues as I see it... 22 year old (21 at the time probably) had sex with a 13 year old. That is Stat rape. He should have been prosecuted then. However that didn't happen, and all parties involved, including parents agreed to a marriage. At that point, since she is a minor, but the parents agreed (legal guardianship) the law should have been satisfied. The girl wasn't coerced into the marriage (I think, no proof to the contrary). So, age has now gone out the window. The gov't should not have any say into their personal lives. Every possible person in the family has consented knowing all the info. I completely agree that it is... icky for someone that age to be with someone that young... ok, too bad, it happened. It is over. Oh yeah, and the gov't should be applauding the guy for at least sticking with the girl and marrying her instead of dumping her like he could have. 586277240[/snapback] agreed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aristotle-dude Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Guys, you know what it sick? The way young girls are sexualized in the media while at the same time your society treats teenagers like "children". They are not children but "young adults" and parents should be teaching them to be responsible. People used to get married because the human life span was shorter but at the same time, they did not coddle their children for as long as they do now. How old are a lot of kids now when they move out of their parents home these days? Look at the teenage pregnancy issue. They have not been prepared emotionally/psychologically to deal with their own changing bodies because they have been treated by parents and society in general as children on the one hand and bombarded with all sorts of sexual imagery on the other. I personally think it is wrong precisely because that girl was not prepared for the realities of adulthood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
42n81 Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 Guys, you know what it sick? The way young girls are sexualized in the media while at the same time your society treats teenagers like "children". They are not children but "young adults" and parents should be teaching them to be responsible.People used to get married because the human life span was shorter but at the same time, they did not coddle their children for as long as they do now. How old are a lot of kids now when they move out of their parents home these days? Look at the teenage pregnancy issue. They have not been prepared emotionally/psychologically to deal with their own changing bodies because they have been treated by parents and society in general as children on the one hand and bombarded with all sorts of sexual imagery on the other. I personally think it is wrong precisely because that girl was not prepared for the realities of adulthood. 586277952[/snapback] Wise man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kriz Posted July 27, 2005 Share Posted July 27, 2005 If he married her after he found out she was pregnant, surely he had sex with her before they where married, hence the reason why he was charged. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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