do you find it harder to make friends/associate


do you find it harder to make friends/associate with minorities?  

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  1. 1. do you find it harder to make friends/associate with minorities?

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FIRSTLY: I dont mean to offend anyone, if you are offended i'm sorry but this is just my opinion and not a statement from everyone or whatever

sometimes I wish I was white bcause my entire life would be better. i dont get racist remarks AT ALL (except for jokes) but you just know when someone treats you differently (even in a nice way) because of your skin colour and it sucks, becuase you just focus your mind on that for a long long time.

PLEASE BE HONEST while replying

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FIRSTLY: I dont mean to offend anyone, if you are offended i'm sorry but this is just my opinion and not a statement from everyone or whatever

sometimes I wish I was white bcause my entire life would be better. i dont get racist remarks AT ALL (except for jokes) but you just know when someone treats you differently (even in a nice way) because of your skin colour and it sucks, becuase you just focus your mind on that for a long long time.

PLEASE BE HONEST while replying

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If I may ask, what race are you?

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You forgot a 'White people' option. And maybe a 'non-White Hispanic' option, since i think the number of Hispanics in most English-speaking countries is higher than (or at least comparable to) the number of 'Asians'. :shrug:

Anyway. There are very few Black people where i live (i think only like 3% of Iowa's entire population is Black), but the vast majority of the ones i have met are part of what i consider the stereotypical Black culture, where they're into BET and expensive cars and they all speak ebonics and stuff like that. I don't know if that's necessarily bad, but it's not for me, either way. So that's why i don't have any Black friends. I don't dislike Black people, i just don't think our cultures are compatible.

When i was little, though, my best friend was a Black kid. He was pretty rad.

I don't have any Asian friends in real life, but i have several on-line. The number of Asians in Iowa is smaller than the number of Blacks, i think, so that explains why i don't know many here. There's usually nothing culture-wise preventing me from being friends with Asians, though, so i suppose i wouldn't have any trouble making friends (beyond the normal things that you take into account when making friends regardless of race).

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I'm not really sure where you are going with all of these minority posts. Also, you haven't really defined minority. am I a minority because I'm muslim, but I am not muslim minority because I'm american? People are people, and sorry if someone treats you badly. I got called a yesterday. Does that make me want to be Christian? No.

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sorry

By minority in this case I mean: non-White people in the western/european world. more specifically asian/black people. I'm not being mean leaving out other minorities, but these are the ones that concern ME most.

do people think if they saw someone of a different ethnic background/race/skin colour walking down the street "oh there's soemone with a different race/skin coolor" or just "oh there's someone"?

if you know what I mean.

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I personally have little trouble interacting with all races I encounter (or atleast no more trouble than I would have with white people).

I am white myself, though I grew up in neighborhoods that were diverse to say the least, which is a nice way of saying we were all poor and had to live near each other.

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do people think if they saw someone of a different ethnic background/race/skin colour walking down the street "oh there's soemone with a different race/skin coolor" or just "oh there's someone"?

if you know what I mean.

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I take in both. It is hard not to be aware of a person's ethnicity. That doesn't mean that it has to come into play but it can be an important part of that person's identity. I don't think you can totally ignore it.

If I am introduced to a black person, I do tend to want to know whether they are Jamacian, African or African-American. Usually it is pretty obvious. The same thing goes for Asians. Are they Chinese, Japanese, Korean or Vietnamese? I can usually tell.

At least then I know which stories to tell. i.e. My Chinese friend who refuses to date Chinese women. The whole debate whether Koreans have wavier hair (it drives one of my friends nuts). Or my attempt to create a Zen garden on my property using all Japanese plants until new neighbours moved in who really were Japanese and then I felt like a poser. :D

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You wish you were white because you think that ALL white people just dont get treated badly? The U.S is far less racist as it was in the 60's and before.

Someone should judge you on the content of your character, not by the color of your skin and if they choose to then the hell with them, as long as you know that you are of sound mind and body and you are a contributing member of society who cares what the brain damaged fools think.

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I've never had a problem because I grew up in Miami, FL. I would have to say that is one of the most culturally diverse cities in this country. On top of that I am Cuban-American (a minority... well maybe not in Miami ;)) as well.

I have friends of many ethnic backgrounds and we get along very well!

I welcome diversity with open arms...

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nope, though where I grew up and went to public school/highschool there were very few minorities, I can hang out and be friends with anyone. I go about it on a person to person basis, not a group to group basis; because every group has their idiots, but no one group is entirely idiotic.

Being into languages/culture I actually enjoy hanging out with the so-called minorities because I can learn things too.

edit: waiting for a Gunnery Sergeant Hartman-esque 'I hate everyone equally!' :p

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Even caucasian people experience some sort of 'hatred'. Whether it be because of your age, education, beliefs, looks...it doesn't stop at the color of ones skin. Being white certainly isn't the end-all be-all to live a hate free life.

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Even caucasian people experience some sort of 'hatred'.  Whether it be because of your age, education, beliefs, looks...it doesn't stop at the color of ones skin.  Being white certainly isn't the end-all be-all to live a hate free life.

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yes - every so called " minority" group (which in case of asians are really a majority) is just as discriminating toward other as the others.

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I don't really know.  Hawaii is really diverse; everyone claims they're like 6 different races.

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You forgot that white people are the minority here. Try going through grade school with the tradition of kill haole day.

For those that dont know.... Haole is a hawaiian word that actually means foreigner but has been evolved into a derogatory definition of white person. Caused a lot of fights back in my day. What ****es me off most is when real foreigners who were not born and raised in Hawaii calls white folks haole.

btw... Im pretty damn diverse when it comes to races. My children are Portuguese, Swedish, Irish, Spanish, and Laotian. Good enough.

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I find barriers not in race but culture. I'm sure many will find that friends are easier to find in those with mutual personalities. I have a mix of friends, a majority being white, but some having Aboriginal, Chinese, or Arabian blood. However, these friends have no cultural ties to their heritage, and are products of North American culture. Some say they are white guys in brown bodies.

There is huge diversification in the Greater Vancouver Regional District. In a few municipalities, caucasians are the largest group, but not a majority. Richmond, for example, has a mere 46% caucasian population, in a country that many consider white. Many Asian and Indian communities have established themselves in Vancouver. There is some violence that could be called racial-based, but generally it is peaceful. Nearly all have no problem seeing a multiracial community, and many have multiracial associations.

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Hey, don't wish you were white, we have negro college funds.

Anyway, I'm black, and I live in Cocoa Beach, so it's predominantly white. I catch alot of things that people do around me, and especially when I'm with a white girl at her parent's house. People can say that there's far less racism, but I just think people don't show it as much as they used to. I'm in IB so I have all kinds of friends, I usually don't have a hard time making friends though..

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Yes, I'm white and living here in San Francisco, it's hard to make friends with the main minority group--other whites. Not that I really care....

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I only find it hard to befriend people who are walking stereotypes, no matter what race they are. I'm white, if that even matters. And my hometown is just outside New Orleans, so I'm actually a minority in these parts.

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nope, dont have issues. although most, not all, of my friends (people i chill with) are chinese, i have no problems speaking/associating with people of other ethnic backgrounds.

and, similar to lav, i too dont have many black friends, the hip-hop culture and me dont mix. i dont mind if you listen to that music, but when you start trying to act like what they portray in music vids, whether you black, white, asian etc... i probably wouldnt want to be your friend.

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I take in both. It is hard not to be aware of a person's ethnicity. That doesn't mean that it has to come into play but it can be an important part of that person's identity. I don't think you can totally ignore it.

If I am introduced to a black person, I do tend to want to know whether they are Jamacian, African or African-American. Usually it is pretty obvious. The same thing goes for Asians. Are they Chinese, Japanese, Korean or Vietnamese?  I can usually tell.

At least then I know which stories to tell.  i.e. My Chinese friend who refuses to date Chinese women.  The whole debate whether Koreans have wavier hair (it drives one of my friends nuts).  Or my attempt to create a Zen garden on my property using all Japanese plants until new neighbours moved in who really were Japanese and then I felt like a poser. :D

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haha nice stories! :D

i'm an asian-american, and while most of my friends now are also asian-americans, i do have some non-asian friends.

generally, i don't encounter racial issues, but sometimes, people look at me as though i wasn't born here.

example:

other people: "oh..my..god. you have such good english!"

me: "i was born in jersey." :rolleyes:

other people: "oh."

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