SimplySchizo Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Man, sorry to hear your loss, but truth is that no matter what any of us says, it seems by what i read that you are going to end being a fool by giving her a second chance. the way i see it... quit while your ahead by letting go. you have no REAL commitment (kids i mean). Focus on your career and i promise better things will come. People ask me, how is it that i can let women go at the drop of a hat. My answer is always... "as easy as you asked the question" Well, to finish up my babbling... If you have to question yourself as to whether to stay with a person or not, chances are you DON'T need to be with them in the first place. Good Luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoneAvail Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 nah... i wouldnt go back to her at all. i'd just leave her. let her go marry that guy. what? she doesnt apperate you? thats a total b**** right there... hmmm.. what do you think she sees in him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Jorge Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Uhh, why are people posting real-life issues on an Internet forum? :blink: Anywho, if she's cheating on you, chances are the relationship is over. Go your separate ways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted December 15, 2005 MVC Share Posted December 15, 2005 Uhh, why are people posting real-life issues on an Internet forum:blink:k: Why not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimplySchizo Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Uhh, why are people posting real-life issues on an Internet forum? :blink: Umm, last I checked every topic in this forum has something to do with some sort of real life issue. whether its help with a real life computer problem, school, or a personal problem as it is in this case.Its a help forum last i checked. If you don't agree with the topic, just click on another, simple as that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thagame Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 how hot is she? and does she easily give it up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Veteran Posted December 15, 2005 Veteran Share Posted December 15, 2005 Personally, I'd kick her out. She's not worth it any longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnMarsten Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Dude, you gotta leave, honestly this might sound like a stupid analogy but its as close to the truth as possible regarding this situation, its like you have a mirror and she broke it, all your gonna do is get brutally hurt trying to put it back together. You say your fit and have everything together while she on the other hand is doing a lowlife white trash guy who abuses drugs .. if she cheated on you with her best friend since high school cause she might still have feelings for him is one thing, but she went after the bottom of the barrel clearly she doesn't value you at all, its definately time to move on. And about soul mates and all that stuff, man I used to believe in that when i was young, but the honest truth is you can be just as happy with any other girl in the world you just have to find her thas all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freedom77 Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 ok Well you love her, but you need to find out does she love you, and since she cheated on you Iam leaning towards No. best thing to do is to talk to her i guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Jorge Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Why not? I guess. Umm, last I checked every topic in this forum has something to do with some sort of real life issue. whether its help with a real life computer problem, school, or a personal problem as it is in this case.Its a help forum last i checked. If you don't agree with the topic, just click on another, simple as that. There are some bizarre posts. Most recently, someone posted about possibly having an STD. A bit inappropriate, I think. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Favvi Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 do you have kids? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Dude love hurts, but there is no love if she cheated on you, free reign or not, she should be loyal, i know it hurts right now, but the best thing for you to do is cut your losses and move on, there is someone out there who will treat you right and is the right person for you. It sounds like your a young guy, there are plenty of women out there for you. You say you feel lost but really think down to it, does she really care about you? the answer is no, she wasnt think too much of you when she was %@#% some other guy.. As i said, dont forgive her, move on and cut your losses, you dont want to end up with a disease ya know.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen Veteran Posted December 15, 2005 Veteran Share Posted December 15, 2005 ask her if she is sorry, try to forgive her because i remember reading some research that about 70% of peole wont do it again if you give them another chance, talk to her ask her weather he loves you still. but hey what do i know. im only a 15 (just turned 16 less than half an hour ago :p) 16 year old Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Troll Subscriber¹ Posted December 15, 2005 Subscriber¹ Share Posted December 15, 2005 I'm currently engaged. Throughout our classes, we were taught that being married and in love we should be able to forgive the other person for anything. No matter how much we are hurt by the other, we should be able to forgive that person through unconditional love. As much as it hurts, if you love the person, then you should stay together. Sit down and talk about it - but don't try to accept blame for it - and see how she feels towards you etc... If she still loves you, and claims she will not cheat again, then give her another chance. Turn the scenario around and ask yourself if you would like forgiveness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted December 15, 2005 MVC Share Posted December 15, 2005 I guess. There are some bizarre posts. Most recently, someone posted about possibly having an STD. A bit inappropriate, I think. :| maby that person has no one else to talk to, and if posting online on a Internet community forum helps, the thats awsome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lighthalzen Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 If you have kids.... confront your wife and settle the problem. If you don't, I would leave her, Why? Because once they cheat and you are going away again, things bound to happen again. I am sure you will find someone that you can love. In the end, you are the one to decide. *Don't you just hate it when this happens? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted December 15, 2005 MVC Share Posted December 15, 2005 *Don't you just hate it when this happens? What would be more depressing is if the guy she cheated with him on was a dirt ball! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RightfulSpire Posted December 15, 2005 Author Share Posted December 15, 2005 we have talked, she says she still does love me very much and her and that guy were friends lalala and she just felt connected and he alows her to be herself(drinmking and partying all the time) which i attemtpted to stop(thought i was doing the right thing, but guess not now that i lost her) and i am 27 been around a few but this one had me hook line and sinker, but i cant aloww all the partying hell she is 27 bout to turn 28 she needs to quit but ya know....and to those who asked she is hot half korean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted December 15, 2005 MVC Share Posted December 15, 2005 we have talked, she says she still does love me very much and her and that guy were friends lalala and she just felt connected and he alows her to be herself(drinmking and partying all the time) which i attemtpted to stop(thought i was doing the right thing, but guess not now that i lost her) and i am 27 been around a few but this one had me hook line and sinker, but i cant aloww all the partying hell she is 27 bout to turn 28 she needs to quit but ya know....and to those who asked she is hot half korean. Gotta ask yourself "what would the man show tell me to do?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
360player Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Nope I would Not Give Secound Chance IT Was her Fault To Do It In The First Place Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToneKnee Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 May i ask how old you both are and you's (well the marriage) has lasted? Point is, if the marriage hasn't been that long and you are both still young, i would just ditch her and get with someone else. Or just ditch her and wait awhile. But, if you want, you can give her the choice. Get the deforce papers, and give them to her, and make her decide. Then you'll know if you can forgive her. EDIT!: Just read your post, ummmm. Why stop her from partying etc? Its good that she is still like that, in a couple of years she'll probably stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RightfulSpire Posted December 15, 2005 Author Share Posted December 15, 2005 Sucks man I am going through the same thing except my wife all out left me for another guy...after doing stuff behind my back and lying to me about everything for a couple weeks. I know a lot of people would think I am crazy for saying this but I would take her back....but I would not be stupid about it. The most fundamental aspect of a relationship is trust. I would take her back as in work on restoring things, but trust has to be established again before I could truely take her back. So anyway just saying if you truely still love her (the way I still love my wife) leaving the door open I think is the best thing, but be careful, you need to see a drastic change in her before you can really trust her again. here is the link to a post I made about stuff if you are interested https://www.neowin.net/forum/index.php?showtopic=405737 read your post, sounds like we got the exact same prob, holidays wife cheating, question is what did we do wrong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blowMeNeo Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 LOL.. you caught your wife cheating on you.. and your posting it here? It's probably why she cheated. Too much time spent on the computer and not enough time with her. Not that thats ok though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aberflasm Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 You should seperate for awhile. If she loves you then she will want you to come back. Try dating each other again. go with the old adage (sp) if you love her let her go, if she comes back it was meant to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blowMeNeo Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 I'm currently engaged. Throughout our classes, we were taught that being married and in love we should be able to forgive the other person for anything. No matter how much we are hurt by the other, we should be able to forgive that person through unconditional love. As much as it hurts, if you love the person, then you should stay together. Sit down and talk about it - but don't try to accept blame for it - and see how she feels towards you etc... If she still loves you, and claims she will not cheat again, then give her another chance. Turn the scenario around and ask yourself if you would like forgiveness. What a load! :laugh: OK, forgive her as soon as you break off the engagement. :yes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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