Andrew Lyle Global Moderator Posted December 15, 2005 Global Moderator Share Posted December 15, 2005 there is a girl i will always have feelings for, and i miss her alot....but at the same time i brutaly hate her. its confusing as hell. i know what your going through... but think if you had a relationship, would you stay together, or just fight a lot.. and not live happily ever after? i am sorta stuck in your shoes, but i want to move on.. but at the sametime, my mind is saying.. "what if..." Back on topic.. Neowin has spoken! kick her to the curb! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ficman Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Caught her once, gave her a 2nd chance... Found out she she 4 more affairs in the divorce 7 years later, I won't make that mistake again. :no: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fr8t Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Never... Once would be enough for me not to trust her and if u don't have that, what do u have? sex, good conversationalist, someone to keep u from being alone? LMAO, no thx.. i would rather take my chances being alone or starting a new w/ someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrCobra Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 i am posting here because i want feed back is all, and yes had sex with him. see i am in the coast guard and gone 2-3 days out of the week. so she has free reign ya know, but i jjust feel lost without her, and there is always love i think Once a cheater, always a cheater. There may always be love but it will be one sided. If she took love and her marriage seriously she wouldn't have cheated in the first place. Whether you're gone 2-3 days out of the week, or 2-3 months out of the year, it is no excuse. I voted no, but I still wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
christracy Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Caught her once, gave her a 2nd chance... Found out she she 4 more affairs in the divorce 7 years later, I won't make that mistake again. :no: DAMN i know your not the tread starter but DAAAAAMN. back on topic, dont go back. she will do it again almost guaranteed, it just gets easier for them do it because they figure, he will always take me back. take the rug from under her feet and she will have to make it on their own. maybe she will manage maybe she wont, but at least u dont have to worry about her banging some other guy while your at work. you will have your piece of mind and after the pain and hurt passes. love AND trust you can find in someone else, all she can give you now is love and without trust thats nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mitch00 Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 how much more $$ does she make then you? haha just kiddin, ditch that.. rhymes with ditch... you get the point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rudy Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 get rid of her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HPMCommander Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 It'll hurt... But get rid of her. Destruction is a form of creation. Count your blessings and move on. You'll be MUCH happier in the long run if you maintain an optimistic attitude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psybapunk Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 bite you once, shame on her, bite you twice, shame on you. Dont do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IK47 Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 you need to sense your inner feelings, and think about the outcomes of your decisions. If you still love her, and want to forgive her, tell her that you do. If you don't, then maybe it is time to move on. I'm sorry to hear about this, may our lord guide you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RightfulSpire Posted December 15, 2005 Author Share Posted December 15, 2005 It'll hurt... But get rid of her. Destruction is a form of creation. Count your blessings and move on. You'll be MUCH happier in the long run if you maintain an optimistic attitude. when i use to count my blessings she was the main one, all i got left is a damn dog and my dell...ohh and a lottery ticket she left in her pants today florida lottery worth 30 mill...lets hope that pays off huh you need to sense your inner feelings, and think about the outcomes of your decisions. If you still love her, and want to forgive her, tell her that you do. If you don't, then maybe it is time to move on. I'm sorry to hear about this, may our lord guide you. ty for that..in hopes that he will Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tuffgong4 Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 well you can't trust her and that leaves not much for a relationship (so there's one), if she did it once she'll probably do it again (that's two), she probably has an underserved low opinion of you (that's three [why would you want someone like that]) if you give in to this she will see you probably will stick around no matter what she does and that means she will treat you probably worse than before and keep taking advantage of you...(four) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miran Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 If she cheated, she will do it again. If you stay together and have kids you won't ever know 100% (without a test of course) that the kid is yours. No one wants to bring up some other guys genes. We are only here for one reason so make sure you get the job done right - dump her ass and get with someone who has integrity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Decryptor Veteran Posted December 15, 2005 Veteran Share Posted December 15, 2005 You might love her, but she obviously doesn't love you in return, kick her to the curb and be happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valerus Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Count it as a blessing and move forward, don't look back. Trust is like a glass. You might be able to glue it back together once it's broken, but it will always be flawed....and depending on the glue, it's likely to fall apart again. That's a cool way to put it. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Napalm Frog Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Never. Two things I can't stand, cheaters and druggies. And once either of them, one always is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Subaru Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Caught her once, gave her a 2nd chance... Found out she she 4 more affairs in the divorce 7 years later, I won't make that mistake again. :no: :| That's just plain sad :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amnesia Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 not to sound sexist but in situations such as these I believe it is always the woman's fault. A man goes after a woman when he wants her, if the woman is 'taken' then she should refuse the man's advancements. After all, a woman can reject sex more easily than a man (although it's arguable that their sex drive is higher). However, if she is your wife, it means you love her (or loved her) enough to get married in the first place. I say, discuss it, and if you do stay with her, make sure that you remind her of that day for the rest of her life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HPMCommander Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 when i use to count my blessings she was the main one, all i got left is a damn dog and my dell...ohh and a lottery ticket she left in her pants today florida lottery worth 30 mill...lets hope that pays off huh Somehow I find that hard to believe. I think in the grand scheme of things, you have many things to be thankful for, even if it doesn't seem like it. Example: You have all your appendages (I'm assuming). You woke up on the right side of the grass this morning (above rather than below). It's more than some people can say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djames Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Sorry to hear whats going on, Ive been cheated on before, but I couldnt even imagine a cheating wife. Honestly, what I'd do is make her believe your giving her a second chance. Go to a bar, pick up a woman, bring her home. Get caught, then ask your wife - "How does the second chance feel?" :devil: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lighthalzen Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 I would never suggest getting back at someone as that is wrong, which makes you the same level as them. If not worse. If you do feel that love will win in the end, by all means, give her a second chance. But chances are, that second chance will lead to another broken heart. If she is 27 and still cheat..... obviously not worth your time, let alone money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaded Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Seriously dude, it all really depends. What I did once on a girlfriend who cheated, and who wanted to stay together, was say prove to me that you are sorry and that I can trust you again. As for what that proof was, she had to come up with that herself. If she cant come up with anything besides saying 'im sorry, and it wont happen again', then obviously shes not putting much thought into the relationship and wanting to stay together. If that happens, then, even though it will hurt, you should let her go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leedogg Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Ask her what she wants to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plumranger Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 I am truly sorry you're going through this. Go with your heart, but you'll really never be able to trust her again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ring0 Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 can you say that without a doubt, every time you look at her, you'll be able to avoid thinking about her gargling with some other dude's ballsack? doubtful. i'd give her the boot. once somebody betrays my trust, i don't give them a chance to do it to me a second time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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