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Ashamed if your Child was gay?

Would you be ashamed if your child was gay?  

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Lexcyn    88

If anyone is ashamed of their child being gay, they have some serious issues. I mean, come on, what happened to supporting your children in whatever they do? I could care less if my kid was gay. And to those people saying that their childs image reflects back to their parents ... are you so worried about your image that you even have to mention that? You can't get mad at them for something they can't change, and even still, you should support them in whatever they do (unless it's bad like drugs and stealing and what-not). In my opinion that just makes you a bad parent if you do get angry at them. But hey, what do I know.

To all of those people hiding behind religion saying it's against it or whatever - I think you've completely forgotten what religion is all about. And for that, you should start reading more than your 'holy bible' or 'brainwashingmaterial'.

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remix17    0

If anyone is ashamed of their child being gay, they have some serious issues. I mean, come on, what happened to supporting your children in whatever they do? I could care less if my kid was gay. And to those people saying that their childs image reflects back to their parents ... are you so worried about your image that you even have to mention that? You can't get mad at them for something they can't change, and even still, you should support them in whatever they do (unless it's bad like drugs and stealing and what-not). In my opinion that just makes you a bad parent if you do get angry at them. But hey, what do I know.

To all of those people hiding behind religion saying it's against it or whatever - I think you've completely forgotten what religion is all about. And for that, you should start reading more than your 'holy bible' or 'brainwashingmaterial'.

Do people know the difference between "feeling shamed" and "not supporting"?? Doesn't seem to me like they do.

I would feel that I was a failure as a parent if my child became gay. I plan on telling my children at an early age about how wrong it is to be gay, so they understand it from a biblical perspective. If at a later time I find out that they are gay, yes they will be disowned, I will have no part in that. But do not get me wrong this would be the same if my child used drugs repeatedly or came back home pregnant or got someone pregnant. All of it is wrong, and I can have no part in that. My family has had a very bad history of drugs, having 5+ kids out of wedlock and domestic violence. My sister and I are the only ones in the family that did not go that route out of all my cousins. But to keep from falling into that trap I had to have goals for myself and alienate my self from them just to succeed. I do not think I am better than them I was just more determined to make something of myself. I will try to set the best example possible for my kids and I will use my family mistakes as a teaching tool. I will let them know this is what you will be come if you go down that path. So I hope the fear of failure and the possible loss of the love of parents will keep them from going down that path, whether it is being gay, doing drugs, pre-martial sex, or domestic violence. I can honestly say it comes from bad parenting and lack of having both parential units in the house hold. This accounts for about 80% of why kids turn bad like that. The other part is if you already have that in you since birth. Some people are born with a disposition that makes them weaker to those types of things or you will be strong against those things. Like my wife for instance did not have both parents, had an abusive controlling mother and yet she turned out to be a good person because it was not in her as a person to want to party, do drugs, engage in sex or other negative behaviors. Now the rest of my family had a bunch of single parent moms or they had abusive fathers when both parents lived together. This cycle repeated for several generations and has caused my family to be so screwed up. One of the more recent things that has happen is a cousin of mine came out of the closet and everyone found out she was a lesbian. I blame it own bad parenting and how her mother would always come home catching her father in bed with some new women like every other week but yet she refuse to divorce him. I think after seeing how it hurt her mother she has a dislike for men, which is why I feel she turned gay. Now on the opposite end of the spectrum I have had former friends that had good homes, parents were preachers at a church, they lived with both parents and had a good relationship with them. But it was just end them as a person to go down the wrong path regardless to how much you tried to help them. So really it is just a matter of whether you fall into that 80% that ≈10% that are just good by nature or that ≈10% that are just bad by nature.

People like you should be forbidden to have children or be a part of human society.

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Farstrider    298

People like you should be forbidden to have children or be a part of human society.

I could not have said it better!

Most of these sorts of responses to this topic are speculating about what they think they would feel. 95% of people here do not have children. How the hell do they know what they will feel, God knows! When children are born you can?t look at them and say, "Oh my goodness the little bugger is gay!" You will only find that out in 15 or 16 years and by then if you do not love that child unconditionally then you do not deserve to have children in the first place!

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qdave    159

difficult question really. right now i say i would be a bit ashamed since i have extremely anti gay views, but if i would have a child now i might have another look at this matter.

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Hitman2000    16

Hell yeah, I would be ashamed I'll beat the sh*t outa that little *** and his boyfriend.

Dunno right now im ver anti-gay but peopel change when they have kids and Ill probably have to accept him for who he is.

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rob.derosa    6

Hell yeah, I would be ashamed I'll beat the sh*t outa that little *** and his boyfriend.

wow. i hope you are never a father.... :blink:

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Hitman2000    16

I think the only ones that have a problem with homosexuals are latent homosexuals themselves.

I think it might be a good idea to start a thread entitled 'outing gay members at neowin'.

outing refers to members that won't admit to being homosexual.

Umm yeah, well my girlfirend and about couple of gigs of female porn will say that your wrong, sorry to dissapoint you but some people realy do think being gay(especially gay men) is wrong.

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rob.derosa    6

Umm yeah, well my girlfirend and about couple of gigs of female porn will say that your wrong, sorry to dissapoint you but some people realy do think being gay(especially gay men) is wrong.

not even a bit of lesbian action in there? :whistle: :laugh:

its so hypocritical when people take differing views if its 2 men or 2 women.. i mean they are both as 'un-natural' as each other, right?

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Hitman2000    16

Well Im slightly hypocritical I still think that men gayness is more disgusting than women but still both are disgusting nonetheless.

The only reason I watch lesbian porn is because its just acting and that im still a hetrosexual if i watch lesbian porn, however If i watched gay porn and got turned on it would make me homo.

* edit I better leave it at this otherwise I might get more warn level if I stay here longer.

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mickfarrar    0

live & let live. Too many people in this world already trying to impose their beliefs & prejudices on others.

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Quintok    0

I'd actually be happy that I had a relationship strong enough with either a son or daughter so that they could share something that is, in some circles riddiculed with a parent. Also incase this hasn't been said before there's a lot of grey between the two extremes, disagree if you wish but I'd bet, judging by the people I know (of course, this is a seriously flawed analysis) most of the population is in the grey area

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Lozza    0

Hm... interesting question as ashamed doesn't actually mean that you are offended by it. I personally wouldn't be ashamed, because it is their right to be whatever they want to be without being discriminated against and I wouldn't be ashamed of this because its part of what would make them, them.

All the people arguing religion aren't really arguing at all; they are simply stating their religious views without a way for people to argue back, because their religion is what they believe in. I personally won't introduce my child to religion, I will let him/her discover it for themselves and let them get involved on it instead of forcing it upon them.

People arguing that it doesn't lead to anything productive as they don't reproduce have point but its not valid; a lot of things people do don't have a good purpose but they still do it.

I believe a good parallel to this question would you be ashamed if your child smoked? Smoking is addictive and can be eventually stopped through preventative means but ignoring that it is the same argument. Its not really a choice (at least for an addicted smoker), its not really productive but it does something for the smoker. So would you be ashamed if your child took up smoking and got addicted?

Ps. I would be ashamed if my child took up smoking.

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Guest jgrodri   

there should be a couple more choices in that poll...

I voted yes, but i would not be ashamed... just dissapointed, but as long as he is a complete person, he will have my support.

I'd still far rather have a straight son though.

btw, for all those critics of religion that want to show how "anti" they are... religion is one of the biggest builders of social capital... without it, society would not function as we know it, the problem is religious fanatism and extremism, not religion itself.

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quixos    0

So that guy sleeping with another guy... he can do the same thing with a girl if im not mistaken. Why he's doing it with another guy n not a girl? Thats bcoz he has chosen a different kind of pleasure. He HAS chosen it.

if he can manage to maintain an erection. most gay folks i know can't do the same thing with a girl. they'd just as likely become aroused examining a flower or a clock.

think of it this way. you could do the same thing with a guy you do with a girl. probably not, your tool just wouldn't function.

if you are bisexually inclined, that is a different story.

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remix17    0
the problem is religious fanatism and extremism, not religion itself.

Personally I don't see any difference between religion and religious fanatism/extremism.

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lhnz    0

Personally I don't see any difference between religion and religious fanatism/extremism.

I presume you also don't see the difference between swimming and drowning.

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Raven    0

I would not be ashamed any more than a parent should feel when their child has a sickness. I would be ashamed of any parent not seeking to help the child become normal. Child molesters and rapists can be helped with counselling and so can people who believe they are gay.

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n3wt    0
Child molesters and rapists can be helped with counselling and so can people who believe they are gay.

No matter how many times thats proven to be untrue, people keep saying it huh. A homosexual's brain reacts differently than a heterosexuals, thats been proven, they are attracted to people of the same sex, and there is nothing they can do about it.

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remix17    0

I presume you also don't see the difference between swimming and drowning.

Well if you are so smart, what is the difference then ?

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kingkong118    0

I guess all the ones who chose "YES" are religious or under 18. :)

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JK1150    0

I wish people like you did not exist. I swear to God.

believe me, the feeling's mutual.

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goheels681    0

I'm pro gay-marriage, so don't get me wrong, but if my child came out and told me he was gay, I admit I've have a "well, damn" moment for a few minutes, but after the shock I'd be totally supportive of him and his life style :yes:

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savourymonkey    6

I would not be ashamed any more than a parent should feel when their child has a sickness. I would be ashamed of any parent not seeking to help the child become normal. Child molesters and rapists can be helped with counselling and so can people who believe they are gay.

Strange thet you believe that, because I am 99% sure that no amount of counselling could come to your assistance. In the face of all logical and scientific argument, the weight of 1000's of case studies and just plain, old common sense, you choose to make an assertion that is unprovable, improbable and idiotic. Aside from the very real truth that homosexuality is no more of a sickness that your willingness to blind yourself to truth and present flawed arguments as some kind of 'fix all', I really believe that your suggestion is more damaging that the unfounded and unthinking homophobic responses that litter this thread, because yours attempts to take on the well-meaning, self-righteous tone of the enlightened and wise, whereas I suspect that image could not be further from the reality of what you are.

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