What do women/girls want in a guy?


Girl's desires?!  

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  1. 1. What do they want?!

    • His wealth/fame
      29
    • His body
      3
    • His "manhood"
      15
    • His sense of humor
      18
    • His supportivness/kindness
      43
    • Him being an a-hole to people
      5
    • His looks
      15
    • His intellect
      9
    • Other (specify)
      12


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I'd think girls are mostly into looks....

By the way, in each of the choices, assume that theperson is only superior in this trait ONLY. All others should be considered inferior or below average...meaning; take choice 1 for example, wealth/fame, assume the guy is wealthy but not any of the other choices...he's below average in looks, body physique etc....

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As a female, I tend to go for intelligence over other traits however....

this poll is really stupid because

All women are different and want different things in men!!!!

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Totally dependant on the woman.

Anyways while I think looks or money definately isn't a strike by anymeans I think self confidence is number one. Self-confidence breeds inner strength as well which is important since it goes together. Not only do you need to be confident with yourself and others but you have to stand up for yourself and what you want.

Everyone worries about what the other person wants but you have to want something too and you have to be man enough to pursue that. I find that most women want an equal, someone who'll both give and take in a relationship.

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As a female, I tend to go for intelligence over other traits however....

this poll is really stupid because

All women are different and want different things in men!!!!

actually, this is th 2nd time I make this poll. First time, I made it a thread by mistake and I did mention that point and I said to overcome this problem, think of an average girl's desires...coz ppl have different wants/needs. Plus, I never thought there were any girls here :p

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No offense to the girl in this thread, but a lot of girls who think deep down inside that they want their ideal man to be humorous or intelligent will leave that intelligent or humorous man in a heartbeat if they find someone that fullfils their lustfull ramantic desire. In other words, women dont know what they really want until they see it in front of them. That's how most people are though.

Thats just what ive seen from my experiences. girls would tell me "i want my guy to be dreamy and romantic" blah blah horse****, then they ask if they should sleep with some cigarette smoking scum bag 'bad boy' and i tell them no, but they do it anyway. Then they come to me crying, "he only wanted to have sex with me."

Hmmm... im not taking out any anger or anything, it just seems kinda stupid to ask what girls want. Nobody really knows, not even the girls.

Oh yeah. Whoever says looks dont count...thats a total crock of shiznit. Granted in many cases you can hook up with some bus station skank if you have a good charming personality, girls dont go around looking for someone with a good personality. Whens the last time you heard a girl say "WOW! Look at the personality on THAT guy!" or "Girls! lets go out and find us someone intelligent!". PSSHT! They're like "We ned to find us some hotties." There is some truth to the ersonality thing though. What the above posters meant to say was, "You need a good personality to back up good looks." Girls are attracted to good looks first, then they check the personality.

im no expert....but cmon and think about it

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I think girls should have a mandatory "Having sex with someone will not make them love you" class before reaching puberty.

If they could get this through their head, nice guys like me who ae supportive friends would have a far less redundant job.

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As you could probably imagine there has been tons of research conducted on this question for both males and females. In essence the category of desired traits that most women prefer over all else are those traits that make a mate a good provider, loyal, and easy to get along with. Physical attractiveness tends to fall only at about 3rd or 4th most important. For men, good looks is most always #1.

Why? It is easy to see why if you look at it from a biological position. What does a woman require in a mate? Well, to have children she will need a mate that will support her, provide food and shelter for her, not leave her while she is straddled with a baby. How about men? What do men need in a mate? A good genetic specimen from which to blend his DNA and produce a healthy offspring - then goodbye.

Now obviously, we have evolved with societal mores that tell us how we 'should' act, but is is easy to see why some girls go for less attractive, but better providing and loyal partners and why men will go with the first hottie that bats an eyelash at him.

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@Raum: haha too right. I know someone who could do with that.

I never said looks aren't at all important, of course they are. But how important (to me) depends on what kind of relationship I'm looking for i.e. sex & lust or loving and cosy.

I said intelligence because I could not stand spending any amount of time with someone I can't have a proper conversation with and I'm not interested in casual sex. Also, I did fall for someone based more on personality than looks because I spent time getting to know them etc.

As for average girl....she doesn't exist. I have one friend who drops her pants at every opportunity and probably goes for looks and another who is more like me...wants someone to have a decent conversation with.

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As you could probably imagine there has been tons of research conducted on this question for both males and females. In essence the category of desired traits that most women prefer over all else are those traits that make a mate a good provider, loyal, and easy to get along with. Physical attractiveness tends to fall only at about 3rd or 4th most important. For men, good looks is most always #1.

Why? It is easy to see why if you look at it from a biological position. What does a woman require in a mate? Well, to have children she will need a mate that will support her, provide food and shelter for her, not leave her while she is straddled with a baby. How about men? What do men need in a mate? A good genetic specimen from which to blend his DNA and produce a healthy offspring - then goodbye.

Now obviously, we have evolved with societal mores that tell us how we 'should' act, but is is easy to see why some girls go for less attractive, but better providing and loyal partners and why men will go with the first hottie that bats an eyelash at him.

What you say in terms of a provider is true.

However, I disagree with the fact that good looks for men is mostly always #1, of course they have to look at least reasonably good for the most part, but for them being really, really hot is just, lets say, an "extra". I like girls that are responsible, mature, have a good personality, are friendly. Basically for me a decent personality is a must. I wouldn't date a girl thats super-hot thats a right bitch.

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I'm with Persephone... there is no answer for everyone, of course. For me it also depends on what I'm looking for at the time.

Money isn't ever really an issue for me, although someone with initiative and who isn't a total lazy arse is a plus. But, I earn quite a bit of money anyway. Intelligence, humour, and looks are more important.

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women or girls will love you by heart after they give birth to your one child.

most likely they need your support and safety for everything.and it includes support by money by emotianlly etc...

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it would also depend on the maturity level of the girl...from the choices u have given....all my gf asks from me is:

His sense of humor

His supportivness/kindness

His intellect

Other (trust/honesty)

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What you say in terms of a provider is true.

However, I disagree with the fact that good looks for men is mostly always #1, of course they have to look at least reasonably good for the most part, but for them being really, really hot is just, lets say, an "extra". I like girls that are responsible, mature, have a good personality, are friendly. Basically for me a decent personality is a must. I wouldn't date a girl thats super-hot thats a right bitch.

To an extent I agree with you as well. But we also need to seprate the requirements for short term and long term relationships. Long term, then yes men will also require certain traits for longevity. But if we are talking about initial attractions and short term viability in a relationship, personality tends to fall below physical attractiveness.

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I dont think ther eis any straight forward answer, its different for every girl ,and its different for each girl at different stages of their lives too.

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Looks and/or wallet in no particular order, but each is essential. However... guys want a woman with looks too. It is the nature of the beast. But a guy will go for a "poor" woman before any woman goes for a poor guy. A woman will also go for a good looking poor guy, or a very rich, unattractive guy, but never (or if they do they are an anomoly) an unattractive and poor guy. But that's ok. I ain't complaining. Women are women, guys are guys, ain't gonna change, just gotta get used to it.

So ugly guys out there... there is hope... be smart, make tons of money and buy your women. They are always willing for you to be their sugar daddy.

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Lol, seems some of you must just be doing bad in the field of dating. If you look at it there's tons of poor families where women have married poor guys and a lot of those girls are lookers too.

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Speaking as one of those guys that always gets stuck as the one whose female friends all confide in them, but could never be interested in them, i feel i've got a decent perspective on this since i'm on the other side of the gender fence.

There are way too many variables in this issue to make a poll like this valuable. You'd need demographic information to go along with it. Primarily, it would depend on a woman's maturity and where she is in life (HS, College, Professional, etc). But it also depends on the woman, her upbringing, her relationships with her brothers/father, her previous relationships, her goals, etc. There's just too many factors to make a gross generalization.

However, i'll go ahead and make a generalization. I'd say that women, just like men, are looking for a good balance of all of the above listed things. The factors i listed above will bring one (or more) of the above traits to the foreground and make it more important on a case-by-case basis. But behind that, the other things need balance. Rich guy who is ugly as sin, dumb as a rock and has a 1" penis? Brainiac, no social skills, no money? Those may work for some women at certain points in their lives. But probably not most. Balance is important.

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Why do all you fools think money is so important to women?

To some yes, it is; it's the only reason they're with their bloke.

But most of the girls I know are independant and have career aspirations. I.e. they will or do have jobs with which to support themselves. Perhaps American women are lazy b*tches who can't be bothered to work?

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