spedanden Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 Well this girl and I have been working together for about 2 years. I've always thought she was very beautiful and cool but one day she opened up around me. She started acting crazy like I do and just not caring what people thought which turned me on. THe way she acts around kids and talks of marriage drives me crazy because its exactly what i want. She, like me, doesnt know what she want's to do with her life, but she want's to just let it ride. Well she has a boyfriend in Chicago (im in mich. btw) that she says she loves, but everytime they talk it doesn't seem right. Last week she spilled to one of our co-workers that she has had a huge crush on me for about the same time as I've one on her. And since she spilled that we've talked and shes been sleeping in my bed for the last week...talking, mind you, because I'm not out to hurt anyone(even the f*** who has the girl of my dreams). Iv'e told her to an extent what I feel and she was blown away, telling me things like shes never been told the things i've said, that this is the only time shes wished she was single. In bed at night and everytime I see her i can only just stare at her thinking of nothing in particular but just the simple fact to look at her, which makes her smile and cover her face. She doesnt know but at night when shes sleeping i sit up for hours just watching her sleep, thinking of what could be. I think this girl is "it". I want her to have my kids and be with me forever. I wont come out and say that, unless you guys think it would be ok. But im gonna take her a rose and the water she wanted me to bring her and tell her this while shes at work, which is spencers gifts in the mall (i work with her at suncoast). She doesnt get a break today but it's usually slow in there. Should I just bring the rose and water and ask her if she want's to talk now or later? Or should i go in there give them and ask her if she sees me as someone she want's to be with for a long time and not just to be with someone (which i think she does). Any suggestions would be great, preferrably from adults or people with maturity. Oh im turning 23 very soon and shes turning 21 soon. Thanks for any replies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empty Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 To be honest, until she breaks up with him i think its really insensitive and unfair to put such a burden on her. Plus, if she only "thinks" she really likes you as your such a constant in her life then when she realises she doesnt it could really **** up you guys friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spedanden Posted August 7, 2003 Author Share Posted August 7, 2003 yah it could be a burden on her, but shes the one making it a point to want to be around me before I even get the chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empty Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 maybe cos shes your friend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spike101M69 Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 hmmmm . . .wow, sounds complicated but it seems like your'e the one she likes over other guy. depending on how professional she is with her job (yes, i do realize it's spencer's gifts, which by the way. . .rocks) that'll depend on if you should disturb her at work. i know some people who are very scared of losing their jobs by having personal conversation during their shift. anywyas. . . i feel it's totally up to you, but it all depends on if she wants you to come to her work, otherwise. . . just go out to dinner. . . ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steven P. Administrators Posted August 7, 2003 Administrators Share Posted August 7, 2003 You only live once, make your move - time is short! edit: but don't make her rush into anything, I meant go for what you believe in and have no regrets! :D Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spike101M69 Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 by the way . . . good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spedanden Posted August 7, 2003 Author Share Posted August 7, 2003 well th other night she kissed ME while we were in bed talking, and im talking about pornstar kissing. lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spike101M69 Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 well th other night she kissed ME while we were in bed talking, and im talking about pornstar kissing. lol. :p yeahhhhhhhhh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empty Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 heh, well tell her how you feel but dont go over the top with flowers etc. if you just say it casually then she will be less inclined to take it the wrong way, whatever happens good luck mate :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malechai Veteran Posted August 7, 2003 Veteran Share Posted August 7, 2003 You only live once, make your move - time is short! agreed. do it regardless of the bf. normally i wouldn't say that, but i'm starting to look at it this way... if she's happy with the person she's with, you don't have a chance. if shes not.. well, it can only get better for her then right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spacey Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 sounds very nice for you guys. but, i mean... i dont' think she should be sleeping in your bed if she's "going out" with this other guy. i mean, how would you feel if you were him? i think if you really want this to work, as it sounds like you do. you have to consider everyones feelings and play it right like a real gent. have patience and wait till she's single again. best wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaRSightxc2 Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 Go for it mate! Like Neobond said, you only live once....don't regret not saying anything. Its better, in the long run, to get your true feelings out. Good luck! (Y) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malechai Veteran Posted August 7, 2003 Veteran Share Posted August 7, 2003 ..... ok that was odd. i was going to say "why? he's not ranting?" but looks like that's been realized Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spedanden Posted August 7, 2003 Author Share Posted August 7, 2003 yeah I am a gentleman. but during our talks she said she thinks she'd be happier with me because she knows id never hurt her and she can tell me anything. which she has told me things her best friends dont know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
altezza Veteran Posted August 7, 2003 Veteran Share Posted August 7, 2003 Just be yourself and have your confidence. Good luck! (Y) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ceminess Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 when the time comes you will know what to say. Good luck. normally i would say this might ruin a relastionship but the way you make it sound like she has been acting towards you and the fact that she has been sleeping in your bed..... i say go for it. do you know what kind of flowers she likes (and make sure she isn't allergic) ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spedanden Posted August 7, 2003 Author Share Posted August 7, 2003 alright wel...im watin for my clothes to dry and im gonna head out. thanks for input guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Man Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 yeap just go for it man sounds like she aint too much in love with this guy if shes bin in ure bed for the last week! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uniacidz Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 Sounds like she wants you but scared to break it of with the other guy. Dont rush, see the progress you making now, let it happen in time. When in bed, stroke her hair and softly glide fingers over the sides of her face ever so gently. This shows signs of loving and compassion without being pushy. Girls love it also. Also pull her closer to you when you do this, the human touch is a powerful thing and is a known fact that 10 mins of compasionate talk is as powerful as one minute of human touch. When she is enjoying it, kiss her softly on the forehead, dont kiss anywhere else, just the forehead. She should respond maybe not immediately but will respond quite nicely. Good luck, dont rush and dont do the rose at work thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empty Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 i only need 13 seconds of human interaction :shifty: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monkey Man Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 lol empty! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empty Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 this is actually a second by second account of my sexual prowess: :uberhump: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaRSightxc2 Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 Lmao@Empty......a whole 13 seconds?? You legend :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gam_EZ Posted August 7, 2003 Share Posted August 7, 2003 I always say that cheating is just wrong...even if its not you who is doing it. ********************************** If you love someone set them free, if they return, its yours if not it was never meant to be ********************************** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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