A terrible experience.

[Nikv]

Ok so last night, I got really drunk before I went out.

As we were out, I drank some more, then did a **** load of weed.

Now, two things were wrong here. Smoking while being drunk, and the fact I promised my gf I wouldn't smoke weed.

Later on I was feeling soooo ****ed. Got home and just threw up everywhere. All over the floor, on myself. I then thought i was texting my mate, but I was actually texting my gf saying **** about the night/doing weed.

Now she's << racial epithet >>' hating me for it bigggg time. I just dont know what to do!

Tip for everyone: Do NOT get drunk, and smoke.

[_bobcat_ Veteran]

I guess an apology is the best you can do? How angry is she likely to be?

It's always hard to be in a relationship with someone with radically different ideas about drugs/alcohol etc. Cutting out things you enjoy is always hard, you could point out that you've made a big sacrifice for her beliefs, which you don't share. One slip up is hardly the crime of the century - you didn't get arrested, kill yourself/anyone else. I wouldn't say that when you apologise though, only if she starts arguing about it!

Keep the apology itself pure and simple and resist arguing/whatever unless she really pushes it. If you say "sorry but...excuses" the excuses nullify the apology and make it seem less genuine. How can you be sorry if you are trying to justify yourself?

[Nikv]

Its the fact that I broke a promise that I shouldn't have.

She's really owning me.

[_bobcat_ Veteran]

I guess all you can do is say sorry and ask if you can make it up to her?

[MR_Candyman]

Honestly, either you're going to openly do what you want to do, aka smoke weed, or you are going to do it behind her back. You can apologise but you should know it will keep happening and you should tell her that it will. The only reason she's justified in being upset with you is that you promised you wouldn't. You should really be more open. If she's against weed enough to leave you for doing it, then your relationship's not very good in the first place. Be open about yourself because you will likely not change yourself.

[exotoxic]

learn the lesson

[Nikv]

Honestly, either you're going to openly do what you want to do, aka smoke weed, or you are going to do it behind her back. You can apologise but you should know it will keep happening and you should tell her that it will. The only reason she's justified in being upset with you is that you promised you wouldn't. You should really be more open. If she's against weed enough to leave you for doing it, then your relationship's not very good in the first place. Be open about yourself because you will likely not change yourself.

Nah she's not leaving me for it, just really upset with me. Gunna catch up with her a bit later on to talk about it, but like. the way i see it. What I do when she's not with me, is upto me.. right?

[psybapunk]

how about you just don't drink so much you puke next time?

[Stephen Veteran]

Nah she's not leaving me for it, just really upset with me. Gunna catch up with her a bit later on to talk about it, but like. the way i see it. What I do when she's not with me, is upto me.. right?

hmm, the way I see it is she can get laid my Joe Bloggs, take heroine, maybe prostitute, gamble away her money, but hey, what she does when your not with her is upto her right?

I don't think you have this relationship thing right now.

[»X«]

Secret txt's will always come back to haunt you. Was there sick on the screen? Thats why you sent it to the wrong person?

Or did you slip on the aforementioned sick and while airborne, select her name by mistake in your address book?

Right, im off to eat beans.

[Nikv]

Secret txt's will always come back to haunt you. Was there sick on the screen? Thats why you sent it to the wrong person?

Or did you slip on the aforementioned sick and while airborne, select her name by mistake in your address book?

Right, im off to eat beans.

ahaha, i'm just so used to sending her text it was like natural for me to select her name.. i think.

and yeah, Ste, if you think about it like that i guess youre right.

[_bobcat_ Veteran]

Nah she's not leaving me for it, just really upset with me. Gunna catch up with her a bit later on to talk about it, but like. the way i see it. What I do when she's not with me, is upto me.. right?

Well kind of.. but would that hold if you were screwing someone else? And as you said, you promised not to, which is a breach of trust.

If you want to do something and you believe it's ok, then I think you need to be honest with her. As MR_Candyman said, unless you really believe you should give up weed (you agree with her reasoning for example), you will very likely do it again - or just get resentful.

Relationships are about compromise - sometimes you need to compromise, and sometimes she should be compromising. Unless your relationship/life suffer, I do agree it is pretty much up to you what you do when she's not there.

[Stephen Veteran]

ahaha, i'm just so used to sending her text it was like natural for me to select her name.. i think.

and yeah, Ste, if you think about it like that i guess youre right.

i'm not saying that your a worthless piece of crap, who doesnt deserve her, just you probably need to talk to her about it, listen to what she has to say.

*can a mod fix the spelling error in the title, it bugs me

**nods at Persephone, for reply

[_bobcat_ Veteran]

Heh, done, hope OP doesn't mind (I can always change it back :p )

[tsupersonic]

[GuJu]

if she's still with you after this

please don't reproduce.

[Demersynth]

You cannot do anything. You just have to say you are sorry, mean it, and ask if you can make it up to her somehow. That's all you can do. But damn dude, what made you want to do that? Haha.

[psybapunk]

so the problem isn't that you smoked weed, the problem is that you drank too much. If you didn't drink as much as you did, you wouldn't have been puking and then texting your friend about it.