mega_death2005 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 hello am 19 male i have a little problem which is troubling me... i blush in class when i speak or when the teacher speaks to me... does this happened with any of u ?? how can i get over it? need ur help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninjagowoowoo Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 learn to live with it... thats all you can do. Just laugh at yourself :laugh: EDIT: Or, on a less serious note, get a huge(cancer inducing) tan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kerm Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Relax. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RudyJ Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 No need to avoid it, and here's why. Blushing is healthy for your skin because blood rushes to and through it and probably the most important reason: Most girls think it's damn cute when a guy blushes. But if you really think you must avoid it, just relax, don't worry too much about what others might think of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yiakoumis Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 take a deep breath and try to relax and focus this will also give u a few seconds to think which will boost your confidence Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ranta Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Look at whoever you are talking to in the eye when speaking. Once you've finished speaking smile, then (if in class) lean back in your chair relaxed like the other people in the class who are not speaking. Don't look down right after speaking or look round at other people to see if they are looking at you. Edit: If anybody ever says anything about it reply with "Well at least you'll know if I ever lie". Having quick (but funny) comebacks to situations helped me a lot at school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
game_over Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 i am with you! Infact i was known round school for 'going red' people would even say 'ya going red...' just to make me go red, i still blush when someone speaks 2 me at work. i dont see it can be overcame jsut try n have more confiendence i did and it works, however i still blush just not as much, i learned to live with it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hum Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 :blush: Sit naked in front of a crowd -- the blushing will pass. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurë Veteran Posted March 2, 2006 Veteran Share Posted March 2, 2006 I go through phases of blushing all over the place. In fact, there was a time when the people at work could say "blush" and I would blush on cue, but we made a joke of it. I know it's hard to deal with because you worry that you blush, which makes you more self conscious which makes you blush more. I find that when I'm feeling more confident and more importantly not thinking about blushing, it is less of a problem. It is possible to blag confidence and brazen it out which will probably help after a while. Whatever you do, don't give in to any desire to hide and stop speaking up in class because this will make it harder for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blacklotus Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 mega_death2005 blushing at school. TEH IRONY. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pmac1328 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 i had the same problem at one point in my life, and of course when i was in highschool, everyone HAD to point it out. :) Blushing is simply an involuntary nervous system response. You're simply just a little anxious about public speaking, and there's really no cure for this except to get up and do it more such to the point that you feel comfortable doing it. Here are the steps i took, part of it being mental and part of it being physical. First and foremost, control your breathing when you have to speak. Take longer slower breaths. When this was an issue for me, i noticed myself panicing to the point where my heart would be beating faster and my breathing sped up a bit. Control this... just be calm and collected. You're in charge of the situation, so dont let yourself get the best of you. Secondly, you need to condition yourself mentally to understand that all you're doing is speaking to a class of peers. It's as simple as that. These people aren't here to judge you :) They're likely interested in what you have to say as long as you're able to present yourself with confidence. This is really something that comes with practice and conditioning. My advice, every chance you have to speak publically, do it so you can get over the anxiety. Lastly, and this was a big point for me, is preparation. If you know you're going to give a presentation, be sure you know what you're presenting. Practice the presentation itself and understand the topics you're speaking about such that you can answer questions knowledgably and with confidence. There was a point where i got over blushing during the presentation, but once it got to Q&A from my peers, i would lock up and blush once i didnt know the answer to one of their questions. Preparedness helped with this as well as a willingness to admit with confidence when i didnt have an answer. I started college the worst public speaker i knew and graduated as someone who was invited to multiple Business School events to speak based on my abilities. It's honestly all about controlling yourself physically and understanding that as long as you know what you're speaking about and are willing to put yourself out there and present with confidence, that there's really nothing to be anxious about. Hope this helps a bit :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fudgetunnel Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Take a class on public speaking. That'll get you over it real quick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jokeripa Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Its funny how you signed up to a tech forum to ask this! Also funny that your called Mega Death! Anyway, just dont give a **** what others think about you, end of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matrix XII Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 There is a sort of "disorder" that can make people blush all the time, maybe you have that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
illicit Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 take a deep breath and try to relax and focus this will also give u a few seconds to think which will boost your confidence Yeah, try to relax and don't worry too much about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JMann Veteran Posted March 2, 2006 Veteran Share Posted March 2, 2006 As everyone said relax, and yes most girls do dig it. ;) Also, if that doesn't help just imagine someone massively ugly you know, and imagine them naked and standing in front of you instead of the person your blushing at. That will make anything go down. :laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
installerd10 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 i have a little problem which is troubling me... i blush in class when i speak or when the teacher speaks to me... Stop masturbating where the teacher can see you. :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
costanza007 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but the key is to not worry. Don't think about blushing, don't imagine everyone looking at you, act confident and you *will be* confident. It takes a little practice, but you'll grow into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chopyaedoff Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 The worst thing to do is say something really stupid infront of a girl you like (i.e. it would be better if the top wasn't there), when standing by your mates (they all know I like her but I haven't said anything to her). :blush: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barney T. Administrators Posted March 2, 2006 Administrators Share Posted March 2, 2006 Hey, Most of the responses here are pretty good....... although I have to tell you that blushing is an autonomic response (an involuntary response). Sort of like "fight or flight" syndrome that makes your heart speed up when you are scared. You can not really control that. If there is a specific situation that causes it (like public speaking) then, by all means, take some classes to get over your worst fears. But there will always be that ONE situation that may trigger this. With experience in most social situations, you should be able to be less stressed....... Barney (Registered Nurse) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shetland Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 i blush too much also, its embaressing hehe. i am confident and i am not embaressed when talking but i go bright red sometimes. also like i go red faster than anyone else if im in like a play headlock or sommat, i dunno guess some people go redfaster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clandestine Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 Its funny how you signed up to a tech forum to ask this! Neowin.net > General & Off Topic Discussion > General Discussion why oh why must there always be somebody who says this ... About the blushing, interesting problem ... Blushing would be cool as if you could control it, girls love it ! Yeh just anxiety you need to overcome i guess ... So as long as you just keep speaking and trying it should pass unless its really serious... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ring0 Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 and probably the most important reason: Most girls think it's damn cute when a guy blushes. are you 12? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runningking7 Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 :blush: Sit naked in front of a crowd -- the blushing will pass. :) Yes, very funny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy07 Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 Relax and think your perfect and have no faults and everyone should be looking and paying attention to everything you say :laugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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