Hum Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 A 64-year-old Belgian man wants to have his marriage annulled after he discovered that his Indonesian wife of 19 years had been born a man and had later undergone a sex change. The man, named Jan, married Monica in 1993 despite legal difficulties raised by the Belgian immigration authorities, the Telegraph reported. But it was only recently that he discovered that his 48-year-old wife had originally been a man. "I feel I've been assaulted," he told the Het Nieuwsblad newspaper. "I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits," the Telegraph quoted him as saying. Jan said he and his wife had decided not to have children because he had two by his previous marriage and she fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels, "to conceal the truth". "Even during sex, I never noticed anything," he said. Jan found "amorous messages" from other men on her computer. He confronted her and a row ensued that led to police being called. more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick H. Supervisor Posted November 27, 2012 Supervisor Share Posted November 27, 2012 I remember when the lady boys of Bangkok visited Derby a few years back. Everyone - myself included - was checking them out. You wouldn't have known the difference...well, you would have eventually, but just from looking at them walking down the street you wouldn't. 19 years is a heck of a long time, though. I don't know how I would feel about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaP Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 The Crying Game Gladiatorus, Seahorsepip, Aaron Olive and 1 other 4 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theyarecomingforyou Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 I remember when the lady boys of Bangkok visited Derby a few years back. Everyone - myself included - was checking them out. You wouldn't have known the difference...well, you would have eventually, but just from looking at them walking down the street you wouldn't. This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere. Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done. oliver182, Seahorsepip, -T- and 1 other 4 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rippleman Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 This may be a dangerous thing to accept on a public forum, but even if your not gay, I believe its possible to fall in love with a guy if not knowing for a long time. Your brain would view them as a girl with a defect (a penis). May not be true with everyone but is for the most part the general population. Love is like a drug and makes you believe things in ways that you can accept. Hum, Seahorsepip, Shane Ekanayake and 1 other 4 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Draconian Guppy Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 How did they have sex and him not notice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charisma Veteran Posted November 27, 2012 Veteran Share Posted November 27, 2012 This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere. Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done. This is kind of what I was thinking. After a shorter time, sure, but nearly two decades? Did he really have no feelings for her (him?) as a person? Of course he has a right to feel deceived and lied to, but... I dunno. I've seen couples who really care about each other get through worse things than this and stay together. -T- 1 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hum Posted November 27, 2012 Author Share Posted November 27, 2012 How did they have sex and him not notice? ^ .... undergone a sex change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hckngrtfakt Posted November 27, 2012 Share Posted November 27, 2012 This is kind of what I was thinking. After a shorter time, sure, but nearly two decades? Did he really have no feelings for her (him?) as a person? Of course he has a right to feel deceived and lied to, but... I dunno. I've seen couples who really care about each other get through worse things than this and stay together. This is why im holding off on letting my GF know in my past lifes, i was actually a girl ... :rofl: :shiftyninja: Seahorsepip and Charisma 2 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hum Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 ^ I let all my boyfriends know .... :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Warwagon MVC Posted November 28, 2012 MVC Share Posted November 28, 2012 Tuishimi, Duffydemon, Franklin Lee and 2 others 5 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myxomatosis Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Well, that's sick... :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightScreams Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 either it was an awesome job on the sex change or he was an idiot virgin when he met this her/him person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Poster Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 This. Many ladyboys are considerably more attractive than the average woman. With the couple having been married for 19yrs you would have thought their relationship would be able to withstand such a revelation. Yes, her behaviour was deceptive but I assume their feelings towards each other were sincere. Considering they had both agreed not to have children I don't think any harm was done. surely it wouldnt matter .... the feelings were for the woman he pretended to be ....not the man he is Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
123456789A Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Belgian Wifles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Poster Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 either it was an awesome job on the sex change or he was an idiot virgin when he met this her/him person. hey .... hey .... even real women can have a bit of lip hair going on.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Knife Party Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 man on man action - urgh, makes me wanna vomit :/ seriously how stupid is this guy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Growled Member Posted November 28, 2012 Member Share Posted November 28, 2012 I am pretty old fashioned by if he loved her before the revelation, he should love her the same after. She is the same person she has been for the last 19 years. Seahorsepip, -T-, Rippleman and 1 other 4 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chsoriano Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I'd beat the **** out of her. Not really, I could never hit a woman... oh wait. Knife Party 1 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Edrick Smith Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 man on man action - urgh, makes me wanna vomit :/ seriously how stupid is this guy? Does girl on girl action make you want to vomit too or is it a one way street? Brandon H 1 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Knife Party Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Does girl on girl action make you want to vomit too or is it a one way street? GIRL ON GIRL action :woot: never!! dudes on dudes, absolutely disgusting, always :s Anyways how does this guy not notice his wife s vagina being all not normal or is he just a plain moron. What only now he notices>? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArialBlue Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 (edited) I would be like, "Oh you are a man, uh, so that means no more sex or something?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myxomatosis Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I am pretty old fashioned by if he loved her before the revelation, he should love her the same after. She is the same person she has been for the last 19 years. Yup, he/she has been lying for the last 19 years. Not a big deal :p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Copernic Reporter Posted November 28, 2012 Reporter Share Posted November 28, 2012 The Crying Game lol, that scene is epic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twiddle Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Yup, he/she has been lying for the last 19 years. Not a big deal :p Isn't that normal in any marriage? <--Honestly not joking here. Couples lie to each other all the time. I've watched friends and family come to me and tell me things their other half haven't known in the entirety of the marriage. I always feel everyone should be honest, but being real, that just doesn't happen. Whereas, I do not know how I would react in this situation, if I was 68 and my life was closing in on its ends, I think I would just enjoy the time I spent with the person since he obviously fell in love with her when he thought she was a woman. She obviously pulled a woman off well for 19 years. Also, I am a confident heterosexual, but even in this situation, it would make things difficult, seeing as how he fell for the person, not the attraction. Charisma and Glassed Silver 2 Share Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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