Need Help! Easily worried and stressed; I feel sick


Recommended Posts

Hey guys! I was just wondering if anyone could help me or point to something that could help me. Please!

I get REALLY stressed and worried veryyy easily. I get so worried that it makes me feel nauseous and sick. Sometimes my legs will go start to go numbish and feel weird. This can trigger in a second. For instance, if I have final exam coming up and im worried, I will feel sick for days, sometimes a week. Sometimes it's really bad. Before I dropped a class I dreaded waking up the next day because i was just so worried for what my day will be. I just get so worried, stressed and anxious so fast. It's been like this for several years.

I currently have a girlfriend that I love sooo VERY much. I'm really worried about losing her (more so lately after we had a talk, BUT we JUST had another one so hopefully I wont be as worried). This makes me incredibly sad. I'm not the type of guy to feel sad or cry, but thinking about losing her makes me soooo sad. For instance, I was worried all day(it REALLY was like all day) today about losing her. I just kept thinking of bad thoughts.

For w/e reason, as soon as my brain is idle and not focused on something I will think about bad things happening to us, like us breaking up. This happens A LOT. I try to not think about and distract myself, but it's really hard. When I leave her to go somewhere, I will think bad things in about 5-10 seconds! My brain just defaults to bad thoughts. It makes me VERY sad, worried ans stressed out.

I was just talking to her about my worrying and she was comforting me and I asked if my worrying would push her away. She said she'd let me know if it did. So I now know that if I tell her about my worrying it could start to push her away. So NOW I'm worried that I can't tell her when I'm really worried or scared because I might lose her because of that. So I'm worried about my worrying. It's like this vicious cycle that consumes my brain.

A lot of this post was about my gf, just cause lately that's my thoughts. I trust her SO much and I know she loves me, so idk what to do about my these thoughts.

I desperately want this to stop. I'm so tired of it. I've never consulted a professional about this.

Thanks everyone!

  • Like 2

If you've been going on like this for years it might be time you mention it to your GP or similar so they can run a quick assessment and possibly refer you to consulting or so. Since you have bad thoughts all the time and anxiety I'd say you suffer from depression in some shape.

Try to be honest to people about your concerns, but more importantly, do try to question yourself whether it's rational or irrational. It's difficult but try. If you manage it'll be slightly easier to deal with it.

If you've been going on like this for years it might be time you mention it to your GP or similar so they can run a quick assessment and possibly refer you to consulting or so. Since you have bad thoughts all the time and anxiety I'd say you suffer from depression in some shape.

I see. I think the past 3-4 months I've been having bad thoughts during idle brain time, but I can't be sure (possibly longer). But being easily worried and anxious to the point of feeling sick has been around for years.

From reading your post it sounds to me like you are suffering from an anxiety disorder, when left untreated or without seeking help it can feel like your carrying the world on your shoulders, especially if you feel that you are unable to talk to those around you about the issue. Fortunately, most anxiety disorders can be treated and helped by talking to a professional about whats going on and also sometimes with medication. It's nothing to be ashamed of, many people suffer from this and you'd be suprised how common an issue it can be for people.

Make an appointment to see your Doctor and explain to him what you have explained in the above post and i'm sure it will be the beginning of getting yourself back to feeling you again.

http://www.nhs.uk/co...troduction.aspx

http://www.nhsdirect...elfCare/Anxiety

  • Like 2

From reading your post it sounds to me like you are suffering from an anxiety disorder, when left untreated or without seeking help it can feel like your carrying the world on your shoulders. Fortunately, most anxiety disorders can be treated and helped by talking to a professional about whats going on and also sometimes with medication. It's nothing to be ashamed of many people suffer from this and you'd be suprised how common an issue it can be for people.

Make an appointment to see your Doctor and explain to him what you have explained in the above post and i'm sure you will get yourself back on the road to feel less worried about things.

Thanks for the advice. I think I might just be a little ashamed or embarrassed. I don't really like that I might need to see a doctor or need medication. :/ But I understand it might be needed :)

It's perfectly natural to feel like that, everybody does at times, just not everybody will admit it. Don't let these things eat away at you, it's not worth it in the long run, as you state you have an amazing girlfriend who you love then what do you have to lose, by seeking help and making yourself feel better you will in turn make your relationship better too. It's a win-win situation.

If you ever need any advice, or just somebody to talk to then feel free to MSG me on here. Gareth.

There really is no need to feel ashamed or embarrassed, I suffer(ed) from social anxiety disorder when I was younger and just talking to a doctor about it was enough to control the feelings of anxiety and start to better understand the reasons & reactions. As corny as it sounds, that first step is the hardest.

Good luck.

  • Like 2

I know what you feel. I'd recommend hypnotherapy if you really need to talk, I know for a fact that it works you just need to find a real professional. I hope you're not taking any pills for anxiety or something like that, what ever you do don't, it will just make the situation worse by temporarily masking the problem, making it harder when you are not on them and literally making you a drug addict.

I can tell you a bit how I went from a really nervous to a pretty confident guy... I stopped worrying so much. I used to always be scared of things going bad and that made things go bad. If you always think and talk of something it's almost as if you want it to happen. When your mind is set that way the bad things in your life will overshadow the good stuff and dominate your thoughts no matter how small or insignificant they may be. If you always worry about your girlfriend leaving you and talk to her constantly about it will get on her nerves eventually (if it doesn't already) and she may leave you.

Instead of thinking of how bad things can turn out think of how good and really focus hard on what you want and don't forget that failures happens to everyone, even the greatest, it's how you become greater and wiser.

I hope this helps. I know it's not easy, as tenpoundmouse said, the first step is the hardest. But everything will feel so easy after that :)

This does sound like some kind of anxiety problem - and I'd suggest that you're really not alone. The numb leg feeling is something I've experienced in moments of shock, like after a near miss in a car.. so would make sense that it's all related.

As has been said I'd suggest going to talk to a doctor about your problem. Being reassured that it's not an uncommon problem would help I'm sure but I suspect they may be able to give you some natural remedies to help relax you somewhat.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I think I might just be a little ashamed or embarrassed. I don't really like that I might need to see a doctor or need medication. :/ But I understand it might be needed :)

I've suffered from anxiety for about a year now. It's crippling for me, and I've ended up changing the way I do things because of it. For example, I now walk everywhere if it's possible because I get incredibly nauseous if I take the bus or train. This has an added problem for me since I use the train pretty much every other weekend to head home and see the family.

When I started my job here in October, I remember a couple of meetings where I stood up halfway through and said, "excuse me" before leaving the room due to Nausea. It came to our evaluation period and the boss ended up asking me about my performance. When I explained my occasional absences, he was good enough to be understanding and we've been able to work around it.

I've not been to the doctor yet. Partly because I hate going to the doctors, but also for the reason you made: it feels embarassing to think that I need medication to sort this out. Instead, I've found this homeopathic stuff, Similasan. It's supposed to combat anxiety, and I've got to admit that - whether it be a placebo or not - it has worked really well for me.

For myself, if my problem continues then I eventually will go and see a doctor. For you...well, it's up to you what you want to do. But at least you can take some comfort in knowing that you're not the only one here suffering. :)

One of the problems by not going to the doctor is that it's near impossible to find out what it is that's bothering you, so to speak. You really need a mental assessment and diagnosis. It's the first step when it comes to dealing with these kind of issues. And try not to read too much on the Internet, believe me, at some point every mental disorder in the world fits you right in.

Also, don't be embarrassed about going to the doctor. They are used to dealing with these issues, they are not going to judge you, and no one in the waiting room is going to know what you were talking about. You don't even have to mention it to anybody else. It took me over a decade to see help, a decade I can never get back? so don't do the same mistake as I. It's really not that much to it, apart from the feeling of improvement or relief.

And you most likely won't need medication. They might want to give it to you just to get you out of the way, so to say, but tell them you don't want it - unless you can't actually cope. You should only accept and take medication if you feel that you can't function anymore, or after a psychologist or similar recommends it along with therapy.

Anyway, ultimately, I only know what I've experienced? it's better to let medical professionals help you. Talk to your doc, really.

Dude, it's an anxiety related issue (in my non-qualified opinion). I would certainly talk to your GP and suggest you'd be more keen to go down a non-medicated route if possibly.

My current GF has an anxiety situation, and in like 5 weeks of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) she's 99% overcome it, and is about half way through her course. It's totally changed her view on life and made her calmer and happier without the need for any pills. I don't mean we need to pussyfoot around her in case she has an issue, they are just gone.

Dude, no need for embarassment, no stigma here! One in four people have some sort of mental issue, myself included and I'm a "successful", "high functioning" - "normal" person. Really mate, you're just fine, you just need a damned good chat with the right people :)

Far be it for me to contradict Neobond, but...

Pills MAY not be the answer. I'm a fan of couselling and holistic therapy - the mind is something that doctors are nowhere near fully understanding, so try those things before medicinal solutions.

There are times when the use of medicines if 100% legitimate. Then again, I would say the same of placebos.

Either way, if you need to talk or support, here's as good a place as any :)

Hey guys! I was just wondering if anyone could help me or point to something that could help me. Please!

I get REALLY stressed and worried veryyy easily. I get so worried that it makes me feel nauseous and sick. Sometimes my legs will go start to go numbish and feel weird. This can trigger in a second. For instance, if I have final exam coming up and im worried, I will feel sick for days, sometimes a week. Sometimes it's really bad. Before I dropped a class I dreaded waking up the next day because i was just so worried for what my day will be. I just get so worried, stressed and anxious so fast. It's been like this for several years.

I currently have a girlfriend that I love sooo VERY much. I'm really worried about losing her (more so lately after we had a talk, BUT we JUST had another one so hopefully I wont be as worried). This makes me incredibly sad. I'm not the type of guy to feel sad or cry, but thinking about losing her makes me soooo sad. For instance, I was worried all day(it REALLY was like all day) today about losing her. I just kept thinking of bad thoughts.

For w/e reason, as soon as my brain is idle and not focused on something I will think about bad things happening to us, like us breaking up. This happens A LOT. I try to not think about and distract myself, but it's really hard. When I leave her to go somewhere, I will think bad things in about 5-10 seconds! My brain just defaults to bad thoughts. It makes me VERY sad, worried ans stressed out.

I was just talking to her about my worrying and she was comforting me and I asked if my worrying would push her away. She said she'd let me know if it did. So I now know that if I tell her about my worrying it could start to push her away. So NOW I'm worried that I can't tell her when I'm really worried or scared because I might lose her because of that. So I'm worried about my worrying. It's like this vicious cycle that consumes my brain.

A lot of this post was about my gf, just cause lately that's my thoughts. I trust her SO much and I know she loves me, so idk what to do about my these thoughts.

I desperately want this to stop. I'm so tired of it. I've never consulted a professional about this.

Thanks everyone!

omg, exact same thing here...

only started to happen a couple of months ago..

anyone help?

I had a huge problem with anxiety and panic attacks. They would seemingly strike at any moment, any time. The numbness in my hands, legs, and face. The fear of losing control in some way. The fear of embarrassing myself in front of people. Such attacks are frightening and debilitating. Thankfully, I've managed to get them under control.

This website has a lot of information about this issue. I've practically memorized every article as I read them many times when I was having an attack. The information brought comfort and reassurance that this was a mental issue for me and that I could "re-train" my mind to stop triggering the symptoms that triggered my anxiety. Every situation is different, of course, but I thought I'd share that with you because it might help you, too.

There are materials you can buy from the site, but I never did. The free articles were sufficient to help me curtail this problem in my life.

Good luck!

I want to ask something about panic attacks. I don't know if what I experience is a panic attack. One time my girlfriend and I had this serious talk about our relationship she was thinking we needed to break up and it reallllly scared me. She was on the phone with her friend and I was worried that after the call she was about to break up with me (i was in the room with her) and my heart starting beating realllly fast, my legs got numbish, I was breathing in and out really fast, I felt kinda dizzy, my stomach was upset and I felt reallyyyyy scared. Is that a panic attack?

This topic is now closed to further replies.
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Posts

    • Segra 1.6.2 by Razvan Serea Segra is a free, open-source OBS-powered game recorder offering fast gameplay capture, instant clips, AI highlights, deep game integration, and seamless uploads—perfect for gamers, streamers, and content creators. Lightweight, fast, zero bloat. Segra key features: Automatic Game Recording: Begin capturing gameplay the moment your game launches, with zero manual setup. Instant Clipping: Save important moments instantly using a customizable hotkey—perfect for highlights, montages, or quick shares. Segra AI Highlights: Let Segra automatically detect kills, assists, deaths, and key events to generate polished highlight reels without manual editing. Gameplay Uploads: Upload recordings and clips directly to Segra.tv for fast sharing and cloud access. Deep Game Integration: Enjoy advanced game-data tracking across hundreds of supported titles, enabling smart highlight generation and stat-informed clipping. High-Performance Capture: Record up to 4K at 144 FPS using OBS-powered technology with minimal performance impact, supporting NVENC, AMD VCE, and custom quality controls. Segra Editor: Edit recordings easily with timeline controls, segment management, and event-based navigation to build the perfect clip. Customization Options: Adjust hotkeys, output formats, storage paths, codecs, capture quality, and performance settings for a tailored recording experience. Segra 1.6.2 changelog: UI: Improved the transition from the loading skeleton to the real content card. Security: Added Segra.dll code signing and automatic VirusTotal upload. Settings: Fixed the settings header to highlight Account when scrolled to the top. Recording: Updated OBSKit.NET to 1.4.1. Download: Segra 1.6.2 | 74.5 MB (Open Source) View: Segra Homepage | Github | Screenshot Get alerted to all of our Software updates on Twitter at @NeowinSoftware
    • Hey Google, these are the Gemini features I want in 2026 by Aditya Tiwari Google Gemini has been around for over three years. The AI chatbot started its journey back in 2023 (as Bard) when ChatGPT was already a talk of the town. However, it quickly attracted criticism after misrepresenting facts about the James Webb Space Telescope. The search giant spent a year fine-tuning Bard before rebranding the chatbot and its underlying generative AI model to Gemini, drawing inspiration from NASA's first human spaceflight program. Note that Bard was initially powered by LaMDA and PaLM 2; Google has since added several new features and integrations to Gemini. That said, there is scope for improvement and a gap for new features. I have been using Gemini for a while now and have realized that the chatbot lacks several features, making it harder for me to research across topics. These are mostly function-over-form updates that can improve the overall experience. Delete individual messages from a conversation Image via DepositPhotos.com One good thing about Gemini is that it can maintain context throughout the conversation. But things might get chaotic when you want to ask a related question, but don't want it to be part of your conversation in the long run. You can't ask that related question in a fresh chat because Gemini will lose the active conversation context of what you're trying to research. If Google allowed you to delete individual question/answer pairs, you could simply ask about a sub-topic and remove it from the conversation to create a smooth flow of important stuff. Offline mode Image via DepositPhotos.com A big pain of using Gemini daily is that everything loads from the cloud. It takes time for your chats to appear, and you can't view your conversation history while offline. To get a better idea, you can open the Gemini app and see how it looks without an internet connection. While Gemini models run in the cloud, it wouldn't hurt if Google could store chats (at least the text part) on the device so we can refer to them when offline. Google can also offer a lightweight version of its AI model to help with basic drafting, summarization, and other tasks. It has the Gemini Nano model, which can perform on-device processing on Google Pixel, Samsung, and some other Android brands, but it's a system feature and not related to the cloud-based Gemini app. Make temporary chats permanent I can't thank Google enough for taking the time and effort to add incognito mode or temporary chat mode to the Gemini app. It lets you have conversations without worrying that the topics will end up in your chat history or used for model training (at least on paper). Google claims that it doesn't use your temporary chats to "personalize your Gemini experience or train Google’s AI models." However, the data is stored "up to 72 hours to respond to you and to process any feedback you choose to provide." That said, I often start researching something in a temporary chat, only to realize the chatbot's answer is good enough to refer to later. Sadly, Gemini doesn't have an option to make such temporary chats permanent. In other words, I won't be able to follow up on it if I close the temporary chat. I'm left with alternatives like copying the answers into notes or another app. My digital life will get a lot better if Gemini gets a button to make temporary chats permanent. Collapse answers for a cleaner view You're heavily invested in your research game and suddenly feel the need to go up in the chat to recall something. This is when the conversation thread starts to feel like an overwhelming, unending wall of questions and answers. What if Google added a way to collapse Q&A pairs in the Gemini chat thread? It would look quite clean and easy to navigate. You'll quickly get an overview of everything you have discussed with the chatbot. Add buttons to jump between messages Suggested mockup of the feature. This reminds me of a small but useful Gemini feature that Google could add to its chatbot: the ability to hop between prompts in a conversation. Just add simple up- and down-arrow buttons, similar to YouTube Shorts, so people can quickly scroll through the messages. A table of contents or Chat Overview It's hard to get a bird's-eye view of everything you have discussed with the chatbot during a lengthy conversation. This is where a table of contents, or Chat Overview, displayed at the top of the screen, possibly in a drop-down button, might come in handy. You'll be able to get an overview of the chat and jump between messages, serving as an alternative to the up/down arrow buttons. Temporary mode for Gemini Live Image: Google You can use Gemini Live to have real-time conversations with the chatbot, which feels like you're talking to someone in the same room. However, a downside is that Gemini Live doesn't work in Temporary Chat mode, so all your conversations end up in the chat history. Google should consider expanding the temporary chat mode to include Gemini Live. Default to a specific chat One thing that feels somewhat annoying to me is that Gemini always opens in a new chat, whether on web or mobile. Sometimes, you want to return to your last chat. Google can take cues from web browsers, which let you choose whether you want to go to a new tab or a specific web page(s). Gemini can also have options to default to a specific chat when reopened. That said, generative AI chatbots have endless possibilities given the vagueness of their work. You can mold them the way you want by attaching different connectors, adding custom instructions, and including source files. It remains to be seen what Google has in store for future updates and whether anything from this wishlist gets the green light. The search giant released a stream of new Gemini updates in recent months, including Gemini 3.5 Flash and Gemini Omni Spark, adding that it now has 13 products with more than a billion users each. What do you want to see in the Gemini app? Tell us in the comments.
    • Thank you for the post. Just a FYI that links to an outside site or promoting specific software is considered spamming here. Asking general questions is fine.
    • I have been thinking about AI detector tools as a software workflow rather than a single "AI score" widget. When someone pastes text or uploads a document, the UI can return a report with a probability-style score, sentence highlights, reliability notes, and limitations. The useful part is that it can point a reviewer toward passages worth reading again. The risky part is that a polished score can look more certain than it really is. For people who build or review web apps, what should happen before the user copies or exports that kind of report? The minimum I would expect is: A clear input boundary for pasted text versus document files. Limits shown near the workflow, including minimum text length and maximum file size. A report label that says the result is a signal, not proof of who wrote the text. Sentence highlights and evidence notes alongside the global score. Reliability notes when the sample is too short or lacks enough sentence variety. False-positive and false-negative caveats that remain visible in copied/exported summaries. I am trying to avoid the pattern where a clean report card becomes the whole product story. For AI detection, "review this evidence in context" seems more honest than "trust this score." Would you keep the warning text visible on every report, or make it collapsible so the main result stays easier to scan? Disclosure: I work on a small AI detector/reporting workflow, but I am intentionally not linking it here. I am asking about software and report design, not promoting a site.
  • Recent Achievements

    • Conversation Starter
      sumytbe earned a badge
      Conversation Starter
    • One Year In
      B4dM1k3 earned a badge
      One Year In
    • One Year In
      DarkWun earned a badge
      One Year In
    • Dedicated
      Almohandis earned a badge
      Dedicated
    • Dedicated
      JuvenileDelinquent earned a badge
      Dedicated
  • Popular Contributors

    1. 1
      +primortal
      507
    2. 2
      +Edouard
      181
    3. 3
      PsYcHoKiLLa
      86
    4. 4
      Michael Scrip
      78
    5. 5
      Steven P.
      76
  • Tell a friend

    Love Neowin? Tell a friend!