Is the mall a good place to meet women?

[DaDude]

I really want to meet some women whether it be to gain female friends, one night stands, or find a girl to date. I just have a crazy urge to meet women. Is the mall a good place? If not, then what are some good places in NYC to meet women? ..... besides a bar; I don't drink.

Thanks.

[Hum]

Only if you want to get arrested by the Security guard. :p

No -- you don't sound like a stalker or anything.

[moloko]

Umm sounds like the bar would be better for what you want. You do not have to DRINK at the bar. But that is the scene you need.

[VincentM]

If he's asking on a public forum, about whether the mall is a place to meet women, i suggest all women avoid this guy.....creepy..

[DaDude]

If he's asking on a public forum, about whether the mall is a place to meet women, i suggest all women avoid this guy.....creepy..

What's creepy? I'm a nice guy. Nothing to get creeped out about.

[Crisp]

Hums a woman.

[+primortal Subscriber²]

Weather is getting good, there are plenty of parks.

[DaDude]

Weather is getting good, there are plenty of parks.

What am I going to do at the park? Play at the swings and monkey bars? I'm in my late 20s!!!

[Hum]

I've read that a grocery store is the best place to 'meet' women.

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/03/27/where-to-meet-women/

[+primortal Subscriber²]

What am I going to do at the park? Play at the swings and monkey bars? I'm in my late 20s!!!

Dude there is more to a park than swings and monkey bars.... Just walking around, bike ride if you have a bike, rollerblade of you have blades. You need to be creative.

[Crisp]

Get arrested for perving at the park :laugh:

[Astra.Xtreme]

You need to go someplace where the females are also looking to meet people. They usually don't go to the mall to meet guys...

Check out social gatherings like clubs, concerts, bars (you don't need to drink alcohol), beaches, etc.

Perhaps the easiest place to start is on an online dating website.

[+Xinok Subscriber²]

What am I going to do at the park? Play at the swings and monkey bars? I'm in my late 20s!!!

A public park doesn't automatically equal a playground for children. I live in the city where parks have tennis, basketball, volleyball, and lots of other facilities at your disposal. My brother used to check on Craigslist to find girls to play tennis with.

[DaDude]

Get arrested for perving at the park :laugh:

Would it make me a creep if I went to park with binoculars? Hey, they may come in handy as there are a lot of girls that like to tan there in the summer. :D

[Tigurinn]

You can totally go to a bar even though you don't drink - people are selfabsorbed (which isn't a bad thing) and aren't paying much attention to anyone besides themselves and perhaps the other gender they are trying to get lucky with :)

You can always ask for a glass of water and say that it's a straight vodka, or just tell the truth and say that it's water. If the girl isn't fine with it - then it's not a woman you would want to be with for the long run. But then again, I'm assuming you can order water in a bar, seeing as I'm not a night life man myself.

But in all honesty, I recommend trying to get more self confident - that is a biggie. That is actually the best thing you can do for yourself, because it's really nerve wrecking talking to a stranger, and - unless you do it every single day - you have to have quite a bit of self confidence when you see a women giving you the green light (sadly I don't have much of it, but if I see a girl giving me the green light to talk to her then I try to pump a little inside of me ...oooeeerrrr)

And that's my next point - learning to identify the flirting signals women give out. Then you can approach them everywhere.

I don't approach everyday, frankly I don't do it very often and only in my college environment, and I've had three kinds of experiences so far; the girls that light up like christmas trees when you speak to them (that is very rewarding in it self; those girls I had been observing for a while and they were always giving me the green light to appraoch them for a long time); the second one can be best described as the "deer in headlights look" when they don't believe that you are talking to them (again, those are girls that I had been noticing their signals for quite a while). And my third observation is in regards to only one girl - she got so nervous when I approached her that she only gave me one-worded answers; I hadn't seen her before but she gave me very strongs signals to approach her (she even had her female friend walking behind her when they two walked in front of me (I was seated) just to see if I was paying attention to her); I had to go to the bathroom and pump myself up in front of the mirror to try to get some courage to approach her, so maybe I came on too strong when I approached her, but she was nervous.

The fourth response is that girls will walk away. That I saw on a "pua" youtube-video; I've never approached a girl in the street, but that is one behaviour that one can and should expect.

I'm listing these four down for you as I've done some studying on how to approach girls, and not one of the literature has tried to describe what to expect in the first few seconds - except for that YouTube video.

But I highly recommend learning about female flirting signals; bound to be loads of reading material online. I actually read a book about that, which I highly recommend and can send you the title of in a pm; don't know if there's an ebook version on torrentz but there probably is if you want it for free.

[vcfan]

one time a 40+ year old woman at Costco tried to pick me up. She was pretty desperate too,wouldn't let it go. Could have destroyed that but I'm not into older women,plus she could have been some nut.

[Hum]

Wear one of these:

[Draconian Guppy]

Well, I would grab some liquid courage and go out with a friend or to! A mall to be honest is a bit creepy... Maybe the foodcourt area, but would want to be interrumpted by a stranger whilst eating?

[TAZMINATOR]

Bars, Nightclubs, Amusement Parks, Parks, Car shows, and other places you can imagine. That you can find a woman to hang out with anyplace. Even at the church which there are some single women at church to find single men to talk with. Maybe go out for a coffee afterwards...

Depends on what type of woman you are looking for... For example, you want a nice woman, you go to church. You want a wild/crazy woman, go to nightclub... Fast car girls, then go to the car shows or car cruising depends on the area and permits.

You do NOT have to drink if you go to the bar/nightclub to meet a woman... if you drink water, girls think you are drinking Vodka as other posters say. Even they have coke as well if you are not interested in drinking beer or mixed drinks. If you are drinking coke, so the girls will think you are drinking mixed drink such as Coke and JD or Coke and Rum, something like that.

I met a woman at the amusement park years ago... she came up to me and asking for a ride home.... So I gave her a ride and dropped her off at her place and we went out from time to time. Then later, we moved on for better things..

Good luck

[DirtyLarry Veteran]

I am sure if you look it up, there has to be PLENTY of events in NYC meant for single people to meet other single people.

With that said, bars would be a decent place. The fact you do not drink could very well be the starting point for the conversation.

When I lived their for college, I met quite a few girls in the area of Washington Square Park and the actual park itself. NYU is right there. It is the village area as well. Especially summer time, NYC is LOADED with women. Just have to muster up the courage to talk to them.

Also bookstores, which there are a ton of in the city. GREAT place.

Hum is also onto something with the supermarket being a good place. Just hard not to look like a creep hanging around a supermarket, but perhaps you can purposely make your trips daily to it.

But seriously, look up singles events in NYC. There will probably be so many you will find one just for your ethnic or religious group if you wanted to.

really just takes a confidence. That is what I have found women are attracted to the most. Not being arrogant, but being confident. There is a big difference. But if you are confident in yourself, they usually tend to be confident in you as well.

[thechronic]

You should really meet in a public place and take them somewhere that is far away (at knife point and in spite of their objections) and isolated where their screams won't be heard. This will enable you to achieve the goals you have in mind.

[Draconian Guppy]

. For example, you want a nice woman, you go to church. You want a wild/crazy woman, go to nightclub... Fast car girls, then go to the car shows or car cruising depends on the area and permits.

Define "nice"... Cause i've met bible lovers that are, let me put it this way, CRAzyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :p

[DaDude]

Define "nice"... Cause i've met bible lovers that are, let me put it this way, CRAzyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy :p

I go to church and 99% of the people there are old, i.e. age 70+. Let's face it, young people today don't go to church.

[Draconian Guppy]

I go to church and 99% of the people there are old, i.e. age 70+. Let's face it, young people today don't go to church.

Oh you should visit Honduras, Central America... or just out, Central America... The amount of young women there is well, making want to go to church :devil: LOL, seriously, we joke around with a friend saying "Oh No dear Lord, YES YES" :shifty: they say "no" with their legs wide open.

[DaDude]

one time a 40+ year old woman at Costco tried to pick me up. She was pretty desperate too,wouldn't let it go. Could have destroyed that but I'm not into older women,plus she could have been some nut.

You're lucky!! I wish women would go after me like that and wouldn't let me go.