Is this a love triangle?

[ThePitt]

It's like, she wants me, but then she wants him.

most of the girls like that... Well actually all of them. They like to be the center of their universe. Not yours universe. The thing here is what you wanna do with her. In your place I would kick her ass off and go for the next.

And dont think about it that much. Kick her off.

[bloodrain]

I have a question, have you EVER offically made it clear you are boyfriend and girlfriend. I dont recall reading that anywhere. Maybe YOU think your her boyfriend, but she see's you as just a normal friend. And now she has a real boyfriend, you are getting jealous.

[NeoXY]

I have a question, have you EVER offically made it clear you are boyfriend and girlfriend. I dont recall reading that anywhere. Maybe YOU think your her boyfriend, but she see's you as just a normal friend. And now she has a real boyfriend, you are getting jealous.

Yep. I'm pretty sure this is the situation...

You may think your an item, she might not. What happened to having the "talk". Doesn't people do that anymore?

[tom01]

This is probs the most camp thread I've ever read. Sounds like your 13 and you need to find someone else to poke.

Still can't believe this thread :rolleyes:

[JackBauer87]

The crazy people like this are best dealt with by a simple ass kicking.

Take him to a place where you know your girl wont see. Then beat the crap outta him and say if he even thinks of trying to be her BF you will kick his ass on a daily basis.

Take extreme caution to avoid the face as this is a dead give away.

[FizzyChickenBroth]

In this situation, it is best to just let it be and distance yourself from her. What's the quickest way for a girl to know what she's missing? WHEN SHE IS MISSING IT!!! If she isn't missing it, you've done yourself a favor and gotten yourself away from a girl who doesn't want you as more than friends. You can now put your efforts towards a new girl will ask how high when you say jump.

I was in a situation where the girl I was in love with did not feel the same way about me, even though it seemed like it. In the end, I nearly lost a best friend because I was too blind to see that that's all we were. Luckily she talked to me again 8 months later after I came to my senses. Wouldn't want you to have to go through the same thing if this girl means something to you. It's better to have at least some part of her in your life than none of her.

[duritz]

so is this an online chat relationship?...

and don't talk to this guy over the internet go square him up at his house.

[ATGC]

Hang around another girl and see what her reaction is.

If she starts to pay attention, ditch her. Don't waste time on annoying ******* who plays stupid games.

If she doesn't care, ditch her. Obviously.

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[GreenMartian]

She might like you and was only testing whether you're sticking with her no matter what

Or she might be dating him behind your back.

Maybe she's dating someone else, and using him as a cover.

You'll never know what these women are up to.. :shifty: (not meant as a sexist comment. I truly find women to be some of the greatest mysteries on earth).

I'd say the best is to square it up with her. Ask her if the past 2 years really meant as much to her as they did to you. Dont chicken out just yet. As I said she may have reasons for doing so.

Or not.. Who knows?

[PixilEyes]

Comon now man, lets see pics of her!!!

[Izlude]

Thanks again all for your input. I'm glad I posted this because 2 people here reminded me of something very important, it might be the key.

@PermaSt0ne

To tell you the truth, she did leave me once before for another guy she met at her college. (reasons unknown) I didn't hear from her for a few months as she blocked me on her MSN too. She then wrote an email about how sorry she was and that he left her for another girl. She rambled on about how gentle I was and how caring I was to her, so I accepted her back. This leads me now to the next post to:

@WolfDV

I should let history repeat itself. Let her learn his true colors. She's not the type to go intimate, it scares the hell out of her. I know though that he is definately the type to want to get a girl's goods. My only concern is the four letter R word... Should I just let her find out what kind of person he is then?

Does that sound acceptable? But I definately won't accept a 3rd time. What do you think now?

[digitalsoft]

Just read this whole thread, is it actually an online relationship?! - from what i've read it must be... thats sad - my opinion i know but it is. Just ditch her, move on and find someone else.

[shakey]

anyone who cheats or messes around with another persons heart is a very low and dirty person. Best to forget about it and find someone who will respect you and treat you how you think you deserve to be treated. Dont let it go any further, or you will only end up hurting more. Also, dont let her the be one to end it, because then you might feel like you lost out, instead of maybe feeling like you are actually moving on to greener pastures.

Trust me though, its not worth the hassle of thinking someone is cheating on you. This is coming from experience. Tell her how it is, if it isnt, then walk away. end of story.

[NeoXY]

The crazy people like this are best dealt with by a simple ass kicking.

Take him to a place where you know your girl wont see. Then beat the crap outta him and say if he even thinks of trying to be her BF you will kick his ass on a daily basis.

Take extreme caution to avoid the face as this is a dead give away.

I take it with Jack Bauer in your display picture, it is the ONLY way to solve a problem isn't it?

:laugh:

[JackBauer87]

I take it with Jack Bauer in your display picture, it is the ONLY way to solve a problem isn't it?

:laugh:

Exactly!

[+Warwagon MVC]

just finished watching the movie "Sidekicks" about 30 mins ago.

That movie has all the answers. :laugh: :yes:

[hjf288]

Serious the guy is fronting with you like that and you havent roughed him up already? Jesus

Once you get a warning, do it again and it's going down - Wouldnt let my honour be insulted like that and the guy be screwing things up with the girl your seeing?

Best advice was before, out of sight of your girl - turf him up but try to avoid facial otherwise its a dead giveaway, ribs/stomach/legs (Knees)/groin are good choices.

I'm not usually an advocate of fighting but situations like that I would..

[MrKuro]

I have a question, have you EVER offically made it clear you are boyfriend and girlfriend. I dont recall reading that anywhere. Maybe YOU think your her boyfriend, but she see's you as just a normal friend. And now she has a real boyfriend, you are getting jealous.

thats what i'm starting to think.... He mentioned they were an "item" but he needs to elaborate on that a bit; were they actually dating? boy/girlfriend? physically intimate .. or what? or is this just some sorta weird online thing?

I think our poster thinks they were "in a relationship" , but the more i read the thread, it sounds more like that's not quite the case; and the other guy is actually in that meaningful relationship, while the poster is just the nice friend that wishes there was more.

Unless you've been together for a while, regularly having sex, and are quite in tune with each others thoughts, then you're not a couple.... without those levels of intimacy you're nothing more than just good friends.

just curious, how old is the original poster btw?

[hjf288]

thats what i'm starting to think.... He mentioned they were an "item" but he needs to elaborate on that a bit; were they actually dating? boy/girlfriend? physically intimate .. or what? or is this just some sorta weird online thing?

I think our poster thinks they were "in a relationship" , but the more i read the thread, it sounds more like that's not quite the case; and the other guy is actually in that meaningful relationship, while the poster is just the nice friend that wishes there was more.

Unless you've been together for a while, regularly having sex, and are quite in tune with each others thoughts, then you're not a couple.... without those levels of intimacy you're nothing more than just good friends.

just curious, how old is the original poster btw?

Izlude

Resident Fanatic

23 years old

Gender Not Set

Location Unknown

Born Sep-1-1984

[Izlude]

ya it was officially announced on day 1 that we're bf/gf. officially announced again when she came back after the first guy left her. just read up a lil, or on the last page, i said it before.

[hjf288]

ya it was officially announced on day 1 that we're bf/gf. officially announced again when she came back after the first guy left her. just read up a lil, or on the last page, i said it before.

Definately calls for a bit of a "Talk" with this guy then...

If he aint gonna back off, guess you need to make him back off...

[Izlude]

Here's some emails. Check it out.

First letter is when the "first" problem started (before the random disappearance)

http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/8601/86902458xf1.jpg

This second letter is when she returned.

http://img528.imageshack.us/img528/6619/35752947bo1.jpg

I grow depressed. I guess it's time to close topic, I already now know what I'll do. Thanks again everyone! It was a good read, lots of opinions that made me think hard.

oh ps - it was in chat that she asked me to be her boyfriend again. i said yes.

[+Warwagon MVC]

Here's some emails. Check it out.

First letter is when the "first" problem started (before the random disappearance)

http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/8601/86902458xf1.jpg

This second letter is when she returned.

http://img528.imageshack.us/img528/6619/35752947bo1.jpg

I grow depressed. I guess it's time to close topic, I already now know what I'll do. Thanks again everyone! It was a good read, lots of opinions that made me think hard.

oh ps - it was in chat that she asked me to be her boyfriend again. i said yes.

Is your GF Asian?

[Izlude]

Is your GF Asian?

yeaaa.... she is. i love the way she talks, it's so... well you know. you can't resist their accents!

[WooSH]

seriously, you should fade yourself out for the time being. when she realises that shes the one who is going to have to earn you and not the other way around then it will be apparent. also i would highly suggest not taking her back as easily this time. make sure u let her know that you are definately not playing around. the first time you took her back, you let her know that she could do it again, and get away with it.

simply, dont confront her, and dont be friendly with her. just fade out. also, stop being her "friend". she only seems to want to have you as that side friend whom she can always let out and be emotional with. dont let it happen.