Wife kills herself over 'Gay' Spouse

[A Real American!]

AIIMS Doctor Commits Suicide, Blames 'Gay' Husband in Facebook Note.

 

 

"AIIMS doctor Priya Vedi (late) with her husband Kamal Vedi, also a doctor at AIIMS. Facebook/Priya Vedi"

 

 

Unable to bear the torture by her 'gay' husband, a doctor working at Delhi's All India Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS) committed suicide on Sunday by slitting her wrist.

Dr Priya Vedi left behind a suicide note in which she blamed her 34-year-old husband for her death, based on which he was arrested on Sunday. The couple got married five years ago.  The Delhi police said that Priya checked into a hotel in central Delhi's Paharganj locality at around 12:30 am on Sunday and her dead body was recovered from the room at around 2:30 am, The Indian Express reported."She had had a fight with her husband. She then checked into the hotel and called up her parents to tell them that she was not well," a senior police officer said.The police were alerted after Priya's colleagues at AIIMS got calls from her parents, who said their daughter called up to say she was not well."When we reached the hotel, we saw the victim lying in a pool of blood. One of her wrists was slit, which may be self-inflicted. There was a used syringe lying by her side, which suggests she might have injected something into her body. All the evidence has been sent for forensic examination," the police officer said.

Kamal Vedi, Priya's husband is a dermatologist at the same AIIMS.   Thirty-one-year-old Dr Priya Vedi, a native of Jaipur, was married to Kamal five years ago.In her Facebook post, she revealed about her failed marriage and held her husband responsible for her death even as she mentioned at the end that his family was innocent.The police recovered the suicide note along with Priya's body and have begun investigation into the case. "We arrested the husband under section 498 b (husband or relative of husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty) and 304 a (causing death by negligence) of the IPC. The woman's body has been sent for a post mortem and investigations are on," DCP (Central) Paramaditya said.

Priya's note on FacebookHours before her body was found from a hotel room, Priya had posted a note on Facebook recounting the torment she had to endure in the last five years. In the note, she called her husband a "devil" and accused him of torturing her throughout their married life."In spite of knowing this I decided to help him to b as a wife with him . But he tortured me a lot mentally. And at last night he tortured me emotionally so I am unabl to take breath with him . And last Dr kamal vedi I loved you a lot and I return you took my all happiness from me. You are not a human being you are a devil , who take away my life from me (sic)," she wrote.She said she tried accepting her husband but things became worse as he started torturing her."i never told this to anyone because I was in love with him I thought one day everything would b okay. But than he started to find faults in me and my family . They torture me a lot mentally in these five years . In these five years I was just a wife tag for him.... I just wanted to be with you accepting you because I loved you very much but you never knew importance of this . You are a criminal Dr kamal vedi of my life," she wrote.In the note, she even requested other gay men not to marry a girl just for the sake of hiding the real face behind a married life."If someone in our society is like him please don't marry to a girl to save yourself , you people by doing so not playing only with someone emotions also with a girl and her family's life (sic)," she wrote further.

 

[+Red King Subscriber²]

Divorce would have solved "mental torture" just as well

[+Zagadka Subscriber²]

Oh, I'm sure there were many other issues involved in which the media focuses on the gay issue as the catalyst.

 

Click bait. Remove the word "gay" from the headline and no one would care.

 

-1 point for bothering to rent a hotel room

[A Real American!]

Remove the word "gay" from the headline and no one would care.

 

 

[Liana]

Click bait. Remove the word "gay" from the headline and no one would care.

Yeah, and I didn't read anything that indicates any real evidence that he mistreated her. If he is gay, is that what she considered mental and emotional abuse? I don't think there is enough information presented for this to be a story yet.

[shockz]

 

AIIMS Doctor Commits Suicide, Blames 'Gay' Husband in Facebook Note.

 

Why the bold, stereotypical pink font?

[A Real American!]

Why the bold, stereotypical pink font?

 

Well... You know

[FloatingFatMan]

Oh well, one less bigot in the world. I'm not going to cry over it.

[COKid]

Well... You know

 

I don't. So do tell...

[Liana]

I don't. So do tell...

You're fabulous

[Krome]

Hmmm... wondering if he could not perform the job.

[+virtorio MVC]

Other bigots should follow her lead.

[Xilo]

From Delhi. Not surprised.

[Torolol]

Other bigots should follow her lead.

Others may be bigots but they aren't as stupid as her,

why are hell you would kill yourself,

just because you found out that somebody else having different sexual orientation than what they initially claim?

[+Zagadka Subscriber²]

why are hell you would kill yourself,

just because you found out that somebody else having different sexual orientation than what they initially claim?

 

According to the article, she had 5 years of a generally abusive relationship... that is the main part of the story. The gay thing is clickbait.

[chrisj1968]

I love how the people come out with the bigot comments. in some cultures it is a humility of mass proportions to be treates as she was and to find out the man that married her was gay.

 

at some point, at some time, people have to be honest. But we are living in a time when right is wrong and wrong is right. While I disagree with her committing suicide personally, the devastation of marrying someone who lied to you doesn't make you a bigot rather, screwed over.

 

and finally, homosexuality is illegal in India. a court in early 2014 criminalized homosexuality. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/asia/indias-gay-community-scrambling-after-court-decision-recriminalises-homosexuality-9146244.html

 

sorry just because someone doesn't agree with you doesn't make them a bigot. so we can turn the tables on all these bigot screamers this is what intolerance. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bigot

 

noun

1.

a person who is utterly intolerant of any differing creed, belief, or opinion.

 

so get the term correct before labelling. if someone disagrees and you call them a bigot, you're committing hypocrisy.. bigotry has nothing to do with sexual orientation

 

and the term for creed http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/creed

 

noun

1.

any system, doctrine, or formula of religious belief, as of a denomination.

2.

any system or codification of belief or of opinion.

3.

an authoritative, formulated statement of the chief articles of Christian belief, as the Apostles' Creed, the Nicene Creed, or the Athanasian Creed.

 

 

[+JHBrown Subscriber¹]

Way to many good men out there for this lady to do what she did. I'd be disgusted also, however, my life is more important.

[siah1214]

Stop calling her a bigot. She killed herself because he was abusing her, not because he was gay. Terrible headline.

[Jaybonaut]

Many here have not actually read the whole thing.

[WinMacLin Guy]

I think if homosexuality and bisexuality was better accepted in that society (and in all other societies in general), none of this would have happened. He could have lived his life as an openly gay individual without having to marry this woman. Furthermore, we do not have any evidence that he actually mistreated her physically or emotionally, and if the police cannot find any valid evidence of that he should be let go or if they do he should be convicted based on that evidence.Though, I certainly do not believe he should be convicted because of his homosexuality; someone above me mentioned that homosexuality is illegal, but I believe it is this law that should be removed.

 

However, I still do feel with this woman because his coming out, attitudes of greater society in general, and the attitudes of her family and his family probably put a lot of pressure on her. Indian culture is very different from ours especially when you look at the traditional end of spectrum. In many cases marriage is still arranged, sometimes directly other times indirectly; and there is a huge amount of pressure put on individuals to stay in the marriage from both sides of the extended family (this can range from societal threats, financial threats, and even physical threats), so divorce is not always an option. Moreover, I also believe that his coming out in the marriage (which again I do not blame him for, but rather believe is a societal problem over there) probably put some stress on there as well. Imagine you learned that your spouse or partner, whom you love very much and hoped to spend the rest of your life with, does not have the capacity to love you on a physical and/or emotional level; some people will simply get a divorce or separate and move on, while others will have a lot more difficulty emotionally dealing with this information (and the inability to separate or get a divorce for reasons I mentioned above certainly does not help with this). Furthermore, we do not know if she had other underlying conditions relating to her mental health or if she was being abused (both of these things could have had a profound influence on why she did what she did). Based on the information we do have though I feel her anger to her husband was largely misplaced (unless he did abuse her), as I believe her extended family and greater Indian society norms played a roll were all huge factors in her distress. I do not believe she was bigoted, but she probably did not know all that much about sexuality (how could she know in a society where sexuality and especially homosexuality, are still very much a taboo subjects) and she could not have done much in that situation due to many of the reasons I explained above. Overall, I believe that both her and her husband are victims of that society.

[TrueMonolith]

Stop calling her a bigot. She killed herself because he was abusing her, not because he was gay. Terrible headline.

Eh?

Nowhere i nthe article does it say that...nor the FB post they linked where she explains that it was her husband's homosexuality (and doesnt fault his family).

He's been charged with Abuse and Negligence, but theres nothing in the article to suggest he had been either.

[+virtorio MVC]

Many here have not actually read the whole thing.

Indeed, I just read the headline and posted without thinking, so apologies and 'my bad' on my above comment. 

[trag3dy]

Eh?

Nowhere i nthe article does it say that...nor the FB post they linked where she explains that it was her husband's homosexuality (and doesnt fault his family).

He's been charged with Abuse and Negligence, but theres nothing in the article to suggest he had been either.

 

You didn't read very far into it then..

 

Hours before her body was found from a hotel room, Priya had posted a note on Facebook recounting the torment she had to endure in the last five years. In the note, she called her husband a "devil" and accused him of torturing her throughout their married life."In spite of knowing this I decided to help him to b as a wife with him . But he tortured me a lot mentally. And at last night he tortured me emotionally so I am unabl to take breath with him .

 

It doesn't get much more clearn than "tortured me mentally".

[FloatingFatMan]

You didn't read very far into it then..

 

Hours before her body was found from a hotel room, Priya had posted a note on Facebook recounting the torment she had to endure in the last five years. In the note, she called her husband a "devil" and accused him of torturing her throughout their married life."In spite of knowing this I decided to help him to b as a wife with him . But he tortured me a lot mentally. And at last night he tortured me emotionally so I am unabl to take breath with him .

 

It doesn't get much more clearn than "tortured me mentally".

 

It all depends on how she defined "torture".  In a society where homosexuals are ostracised, merely the act of being married to a gay man who wouldn't sleep with her could easily be counted as mental or emotional torture; not to mention the societal shame she would be subjected to if her peers discovered the truth.  

 

Unrequited love can be a powerful thing.  Unless there's evidence to the contrary, I doubt he was actually abusing her...

[+Zagadka Subscriber²]

But she says "last night he tortured me emotionally" and was then unable to be with. There is not the interpretation there, though the comments are vague.