So..

[HellBender]

the man is right.

get a hooker, they dont whine as much.

<== omgorsh, 1337 posts!

Edited December 28, 2003 by HellBender

[yanman]

ok im confused, first u tell heather that u like megan, then u tell heather u like her? if thats the case, you like too many peeps. and over the course of the last few months u've like far too many girls. maybe you act too desperate, girls do not like that. dont show them that ur all too easy to get with. for me, if im interested in a girl but i get her too easily i lose interest.

As I stated in the other thread man, he isn't ready for a relationship.

[MxxCon]

God, do these girls know you lay out their personal conversations, names and pictures on the internet?

indeed if only they knew how stupid he is posting all that crap here :no:

and even more so asking for "advice" here :pinch:

he needs more REAL LIFE friends to talk to :cry:

[poind]

Do you see all that red type, and the very little purple? That's a pretty good indication she's not interested

Hey, rpm, I don't know the background on this, but think the above is a great point.

For all your typing, thought, whatever, you were getting stuff like 3-letter answers in return.

Deal with stuff like this in-person, *not* via IMs and the like, or else take this person's hint that they seem pretty uninterested in devoting anywhere near as much energy to whatever's going on.

[if you have to be so submissive and need to "change" so much in your conversations (while they're "perfect"), that's not a good sign. Just deal with people in general as people and stop "looking". Things tend to turn up when you least expect them, and happen naturally.]

[kiszmai]

I think that is disgusting.

Posting a private conversation you are having with someone is totally disrespectful IMO, and posting their photo on the internet is even more intrusive.

I think you need to learn some respect for people's privacy and think how you would feel if someone splashed personal information about you all over for anyone to see.

In all honesty, the way you seem to have a total lack of common courtesy and sense for sensitive matters, I dunno how you have any friends, let alone expect someone like this to be your girlfriend :no:

Sorry, but maybe get a clue about discretion.

[BxBoy]

Alex, I don't think you're ready for a girl or a relationship just yet. I say you should focus on doing the things that you like to do and enjoy the freedom you have now. School should be the top priority at this age. There's plenty of chances to get with girls in the future.. like in HS/College.. and chances are, they are more likely to give in! :D

[yanman]

BxBoy has good points, focus on other things, things other than females...

[Fusion]

Alex, I am going to spend a little time here to give you some advice. Partly because this is so pathetic that you keep doing this and partly because we all feel a little sorry for you. I am 90 percent sure that you will not listen to anything I say, but it's up to you if you ever want anything to happen.

#1 - It is clearly obvious from this conversation that she is NOT interested in you as more than a friend. Just face the fact and get over it. It really is not that hard. There are a million other girls out there that you could be spending your time one. This doesn't mean there isn't a chance for you in the future, but right now, no.

#2 - You need to learn how to get a girl man. Let's start with a couple things you said. "someone as perfect as you,' barf. Girls DO NOT want to be fed a bunch of BS. Flattery is one thing, but that is just plain and simple BS. You obviously don't think that she is perfect because otherwise she would like you. No one is perfect Alex, no one. Not only does this just sound stupid, but it also makes her think that you are going to expect her to be perfect all the time. Something which girls do not want to feel. It is important to make sure and let someone know that you will like them no matter what. A girl needs to feel comfortable talking with you, not like she has some image that she has to live up to. Complements are nice, but they can be overused. Try relaxing on this part and then just surprising her sometime with, "hey, I have been really encouraged by your attitude lately, you seem to be really happy and it shows," or "wow, you look beautiful today," or "that is such a great smile," or whatever. It doesn't really matter what it is as long as it is HONEST. That is all that matters.

#3 - The little self pitty act of "oh my, I have screwed up so much and I know how bad I have been but I promise that I will get better blah blah blah blah......." No. Getting down on yourself does not help anything. If you know there are areas in your life that you need to improve upon, then stop talking about it and just do it. No one wants to listen to a man whine. If you are having a problem with something, then by all means, share your struggles, that is what friends are for, but the "feel sorry for me" act has got to go. It does not matter what has happened up to this point, just focus on changing what you want to and just do it. The more mature you become in this area, the more a girl will feel safe and secure. The relationship is NOT about you, it is about her and what you can do for her. Granted, she is there to be your friend also, but spend time talking about what you can do to make her happy.

#4 - When she said she had to go, she didn't really have to. She was finding her only door out of the corner you backed her in to. Never give a girl and ultimatum. Never give anyone an ultimatum for that matter. What you just told her is that you want to know if you will change then will she give you a chance. That is not what it is about. If you want to change, then do not do it for her, do it for yourself. If you don't want to change, then she obviously does not like the person that you want to be, so forget about it, she is not right for you. Girls do not want to see a man bowing down to their every expectation. Be a man. Stand up for yourself. Don't be afraid to be yourself. Grow from your experiences. Learn lessons the easy way and the first time. It is all part of growing up, and trying to fit inside someone else's mold is not going to help one bit. She is NOT looking for someone to bend to her every request and wish, she is looking for a mature male who can not only protect her but also make her feel wanted.

#5 - Never, ever use IM for these sort of conversations. Not only is it stupid because there are so many unknown factors such as typing speed and emotions, but it really shows the girl that you are a coward. Any guy can sit behind and keyboard an say something, but it takes balls to tell a girl face to face how you feel. That's just the way it is. You can come up with as many excuses as you want, but nothing is better than a face to face conversation, nothing. Enough with that point, it is pretty clear.

#6- Give it time. You seem to be hanging on this girl every day and every thought. Just relax. The more girls feel you are obsessed with them, the less attractive you become to them. Especially at your age right now. Just take it easy. Dare not to talk to her a couple days. Start making her the one wanting to talk to you instead of you just always pestering her by initializing conversations. Girls are humans too and need their space. I know it is hard, because you care about her so much, but there is a fine line between caring and obsession and you are walking very close to it. Lay back and let things happen. Focus more on bettering yourself and working on your issues then making her feel like she is the daily talk box. Show her your growing maturity by your actions, not always telling here what it is.

You seem to have a lot going for you and there is no reason this girl would not like you if you just step back for awhile.

View this relationship as an engagement ring. She is the diamond and you are the band. Your job is not to be the center of attention and be seen, your job is to complement the diamond and help it shine even brighter. You lift it up and place it in the light where everyone can see its beauty. You work had to be the strongest best looking band, but only to fulfill your purpose of giving her love. Again, this relationship is NOT about you, it is about her.

Geeze, I feel like doctor Phil. Maybe I should start my own TV show. The wisdom is out there man, it is your choice to take ahold of it. G'night.

[mark03]

the girl in the pic is rank anyway. go find a babe. (Y)

[eye_crust]

omg, rpm ur going to jail u broke the american privacy act OH GNOS NOT TEH PRIVACY ACT GNOS!@#$!@~@#~ :o

but serious, this is pathetic.

how old are you rpm ? 12?

if u wanna find a girl u dont need to act like a player on crack and all confused, half pimping on one girl and half pimping on another girl, if your young just let it slide, a girl will come along while rush stuff? are u horny? if so get a prostitute jeeze >_<

[Yazoo]

lol the guy probably hasn't even reached puberty yet and your telling him to see a hooker :D

[Dazzla Veteran]

She is so blatently not interested, and on top of that you made out to be incredibly desperate. Not to mention the fact that you're obviously too much of a ###### to actually say this to her face.

Gutted :no:

[CloudEngineer]

1. A releationship is nothing without trust, your posting personal convos and pics mate.. Does she or any of the other girls no about this? What do you think they would say if you went up to them and said "hey rememeber the other night when we talked about this and that" well i posted it on a site which has 40,000 members, oh and i put your pic up too"

Just a thought..

[Knight']

What a lamer, just get over it, I'm starting to think you just make all this up just so you can talk about it on the internet or something. It's pathetic man!

EDIT: too bad you got all that money, but still can't get a girl friend =/ :cry:

[null_]

rpm - Ok.. heres how I see it..

You want to date this girl. And, yet, like DJ^TuRKiYe said, a relationship needs to be based on trust. How in the hell do you expect a girl to trust you if your posting pictures and private conversations on the internet? So much for trust!

This is pathetic, and it makes me sick.

</end rant, end waste of time on this thread>

[Dazzla Veteran]

What a lamer, just get over it, I'm starting to think you just make all this up just so you can talk about it on the internet or something. It's pathetic man!

EDIT: too bad you got all that money, but still can't get a girl friend =/ :cry:

:pinch: owned indeed :pinch:

This picture also couldn't be more appropriate

[Apollo]

</end rant, end waste of time on this thread>

:sleep:

[Kilroy-was-here]

rpm - Ok.. heres how I see it..

You want to date this girl. And, yet, like DJ^TuRKiYe said, a relationship needs to be based on trust. How in the hell do you expect a girl to trust you if your posting pictures and private conversations on the internet? So much for trust!

This is pathetic, and it makes me sick.

</end rant, end waste of time on this thread>

<2cents>Agreed. Here, I almost had this situation too, but I had a better outcome. Look, this girl I'm in love with I just visit here once or twice every week and we have fun and stuff and every time I try to go a little further you know, just go easy. I talk with her a lot and she knows I love her but she already has a friend, he'll be coming over for new year but after that she'll never see him again. I am just building up confidence and I'm pretty sur that when this guy leaves (he lives 1100 kilometers away ;) ) she'll go for me. Why? Because she trusts me, and she knows I'll be there for her.

Just make sure you don't talk about those things with a girl too often, especially not on the internet!

</2cents>

Kilroy

[.Atlantis]

hey look.. it's NOT megan! god anita..

http://revlimit.us/Heather.jpg

OMG Who **** on her face?

rpmixxer: do u have a "new year resolution"

heather: no

heather: lose weight maybe

rpmixxer: sorry your not going to make that one.

rpmixxer: see their is a limit, on how skinny a person can be. you've hit that limit. and that limit is, TOO DAMN SKINNY

heather: nuh huh

ARE YOU COMPLETLY BLIND? SHALLOW HAL ANYONE?!

[Homer]

OMG Who **** on her face?

ARE YOU COMPLETLY BLIND? SHALLOW HAL ANYONE?!

I said in another thread "here comes another wave of rpm bull****" and how right i was....

Get yer eyes checked moron cuz that is NOT slim.

[Got3n]

Man that sucks, i remember when i used to talk to chicks over the net, trying to get them to like me, I think that you are going about it all the wrong way, you need to talk to her face to face. none of this internet crap, and if she answers you like she is on the net, then i doubt she is a good one to go out with, sounds like she does not car at all.

[Veedems Veteran]

You morons commenting how the girl looks need to get a reality check. Besides that, she didnt even say he could post her pic here.

Anyway dude, she was blatantly blowing you off. You said some pretty wide open stuff and she'd respond with "ok." That's as subtle as a sledgehammer upsdide the head.

[RauL]

after the JhonsonBox Awards 2003

. . . there is a new competitor !!

the RPM Return of the King Award

[xerox]

after the JhonsonBox Awards 2003

. . . there is a new competitor !!

the RPM Return of the King Award

Major LOL!!!

[mxp]

why don't you guys just give alex a break???

do what feels right little man

-mxp