Anyone here have Aspergers?

[+jamesyfx Subscriber²]

Sometimes illnesses like aspergers or dyspraxia are more about mind over matter. But sometimes they actually have some major issues that can't be dealt with easily, especially if your room mate wants to punch you in the face. :p

[mokthraka]

While I would love to punch him in the face, as I stated before, I also know he can't help it and therefor, as I stated before, Im obviously not going to. You guys on neowin really need to chill out a bit. Id love to see how you guys handled this if you cant even handle my posts without throwing a fit.

and neither are you. so im not sure you should be talking.

all you do here is try to get people to flame you because "Neowin is my favorite outhouse because of people like you"

[Mike415]

lmao...i just spit pop out my nose laughing. :rofl:

so wait he's your roommate right? didn't you know at the time you moved in with him he had this illness? do some research next time beforehand. oh yeah and go ahead and punch the poor kid, im sure they would love you in jail after beating up someone with an illness like that. :whistle:

my wife is bipolar and not on meds atm and i deal with her outbursts sometimes. you think you got it bad.... but i still love her and i help her in anyway i can.

it goes like this:

Fill out this form as well as your roommates and then they send you a packet with where you're living and who your 3rd roommate is. Its not like I chose this guy.

and neither are you. so im not sure you should be talking.

all you do here is try to get people to flame you because "Neowin is my favorite outhouse because of people like you"

Neither am I? Neither am I what?

[mokthraka]

it goes like this:

Fill out this form as well as your roommates and then they send you a packet with where you're living and who your 3rd roommate is. Its not like I chose this guy.

Neither am I? Neither am I what?

met to say neither can you* as in you cant chill out. or else you woulnt be bitching about your roomate because he has a mental disorder

[Mike415]

met to say neither can you* as in you cant chill out. or else you woulnt be bitching about your roomate because he has a mental disorder

When I ask my friends to describe me, one of the things they usually say is "You are calm and collected. Like you seem to have everything in control"

[mokthraka]

When I ask my friends to describe me, one of the things they usually say is "You are calm and collected. Like you seem to have everything in control"

I can tell your calm, by the fact you want to punch someone with a mental illness. I wish I could be so calm!

[Phenom II]

Well I still have a guy that walks up to my door which is at the end of a short secluded hallway. A roommate who cant close cabinets in our small kitchen, a roommate who doesn't understand body language and personal space, a roommate who gets jelly all over the place and doesnt clean it, a roommate who can't compromise etc.

Like what I really want to know is why he's always talking to himself and mumbling weird things and doing these other thing because its extremely creepy and I would like someone who can shed some light on the situation.

Sounds like you have OCD :laugh:

[aniv]

How is it the responsibility of the OP to deal with the mental illness of his random room mate? I get a feeling you all are Mother Teresa and the OP is the spawn of Satan.

Talk to his parents or family about his behavior and see what needs to be done. If his behavior is triggered by something, you might want to avoid doing that. Until you can move out to another apartment?

[iamawesomewicked]

And no theres no way to make it so it cant be heard.

Earplugs. They sell them at corner stores.

You're just making excuses now.

[Mike415]

Earplugs. They sell them at corner stores.

You're just making excuses now.

Thats ****ing nasty to sleep with earplugs in all night; I thought of it. Seriously?

[iamawesomewicked]

Thats ****ing nasty to sleep with earplugs in all night; I thought of it. Seriously?

How is it nasty? If you were really so worried about losing sleep, you would have worn earplugs.

[Mike415]

How is it the responsibility of the OP to deal with the mental illness of his random room mate? I get a feeling you all are Mother Teresa and the OP is the spawn of Satan.

Talk to his parents or family about his behavior and see what needs to be done. If his behavior is triggered by something, you might want to avoid doing that. Until you can move out to another apartment?

He gets upset about the weirdest things. He piles dished up int he sink and eventually clears them all out and puts them in the washer. One time he cleared em out and put em in the washer so i added soap and turned it on. Then he freaks out and yells "Why did you do that! It wasnt full!" I did it because we had 0 forks because they were all in the washer BTW.

Or we leave the shower curtain spread open so it doesnt get moldy as fast and he always has something to say about that when he gets in the shower.

How is it nasty? If you were really so worried about losing sleep, you would have worn earplugs.

Blocking air and creating a moist warm environment in my ear all night sounds lovely.... for bacteria and ear infection.

[iamawesomewicked]

He gets upset about the weirdest things. He piles dished up int he sink and eventually clears them all out and puts them in the washer. One time he cleared em out and put em in the washer so i added soap and turned it on. Then he freaks out and yells "Why did you do that! It wasnt full!"

Or we leave the shower curtain spread open so it doesnt get moldy as fast and he always has something to say about that when he gets in the shower.

Blocking air and creating a moist warm environment in my ear all night sounds lovely.... for bacteria and ear infection.

Except, you know, people wear them all day long for certain jobs. Pretty sure there'd be an uproar if earplugs were an issue.

[mokthraka]

He gets upset about the weirdest things. He piles dished up int he sink and eventually clears them all out and puts them in the washer. One time he cleared em out and put em in the washer so i added soap and turned it on. Then he freaks out and yells "Why did you do that! It wasnt full!"

Or we leave the shower curtain spread open so it doesnt get moldy as fast and he always has something to say about that when he gets in the shower.

Blocking air and creating a moist warm environment in my ear all night sounds lovely.... for bacteria and ear infection.

maybe he dosent like wasting money/water? no reason to start a washing machine if its not full.

andw ash your ears in the morning... people in construction jobs wear ear plugs for 8 hours a day.

[Mike415]

Except, you know, people wear them all day long for certain jobs. Pretty sure there'd be an uproar if earplugs were an issue.

I swear this whole forum just loves me so much they have to reply to everything I say and try to break it down into smaller pieces they feel they can get me with while skipping the whole picture.

"Prolonged use of earplugs can, in some instances, lead to problems in

the ear canal. Like any foreign object inserted into the ear the mere

presence of the plug can cause irritation and soreness. If the

irritation leads to inflammation or a breaking of the skin it can

result in infection (Otitis externa). In addition, depending on the

type of material the earplug is made of, it can harbor harmful

bacteria that can result in infection of the ear canal and, if bad

enough, the inner ear. Warm, moist, foam-type plugs (polyvinyl

chloride (PVC) or polyurethane) are particularly good breeding grounds

for such bacteria."

[Phenom II]

I tell you what... Its a good job everyone without Aspergers is so deadly silent through the night, never wakes anyone else up, always does the dishes right away, never complains about anything, never p*sses on the floor, never spills any food on the floor, never sleeps past their alarm

Its a good job we are all so perfect, imagine having Aspergers....... Damn

Oh... wait...

[Mike415]

maybe he dosent like wasting money/water? no reason to start a washing machine if its not full.

andw ash your ears in the morning... people in construction jobs wear ear plugs for 8 hours a day.

Read my edit. I had been using spoons to eat my chicken because all the forks were currently in his side of the sink under piles of dishes which were actually stinking and when removed there is always a layer of bacteria I need to clean up. The forks were then moved to the washer. The wash needed to be done. Whats up with you guys? You really have issues if you constantly try to do this.

You guys are right. living with someone who has Aspergers isnt an issue. Its just my 2 roommates and I (and our guests) who have the problems.

[Minifig]

I think your being really self centered and selfish, the guy obviously has a few problems which may cover a multitude of things and you have put it down to Aspergers when it could be Autism or something completely different. You obviously have no compashion or sympathy for someone who has a mental health condition and all you can think about is "wanting to punch the guy in the face", i honestly hope that you do not have any friends or family with a mental health condition as i seriously doubt you would help them or sympathise with them in any way.

What you experienced was possibly just a tiny fraction of what people have to live with everyday, where is be a member of the family or close friend, they live with it, but i seriously doubt they would contemplate a vicous assault.

One thing that disturbed me was when you were trying to be funny by saying "I think my search of Aspergers people would work better on a Linux forum though", a serious mental health disorder is not remotely funny and should not be treated as such but i cannot think you would show any compashion or restraint what-so-ever.

Aspergers Syndrome

Austism

Why can I only Rep you up once for this?!

Yes. I hate to be the bearer of bad news for the original poster.

I have Asperger's Syndrome and the symptom's you are describing are nothing.. nothing like the symptoms of what someone with the disorder go through or exhibit.

I would humbly like an apology for the fact that you've offended me greatly with your down right stupidity, ignorance, and down right low attitude toward people who have AS.

If you know nothing about the disorder, you shouldn't speak about what you think the way it affects/effects people.

Keep your mouth shut and ask for advice on your roommate.

Don't assume just because someone may act differently than someone else, they have Autism or Asperger's Syndrome.

[iamawesomewicked]

Read my edit. I had been using spoons to eat my chicken because all the forks were currently in his side of the sink under piles of dishes which were actually stinking and when removed there is always a layer of bacteria I need to clean up. The forks were then moved to the washer. The wash needed to be done. Whats up with you guys? You really have issues if you constantly try to do this.

You guys are right. living with someone who has Aspergers isnt an issue. Its just my 2 roommates and I (and our guests) who have the problems.

If the dishes are dirty.. here's a hint.. wash them.

[Mike415]

Why can I only Rep you up once for this?!

Yes. I hate to be the bearer of bad news for the original poster.

I have Asperger's Syndrome and the symptom's you are describing are nothing.. nothing like the symptoms of what someone with the disorder go through or exhibit.

I would humbly like an apology for the fact that you've offended me greatly with your down right stupidity, ignorance, and down right low attitude toward people who have AS.

So enlighten me.

Symptoms I came across

• Not pick up on social cues and may lack inborn social skills, such as being able to read others' body language, start or maintain a conversation, and take turns talking. CHECK
• Dislike any changes in routines. CHECK
• Appear to lack empathy. CHECK
• Be unable to recognize subtle differences in speech tone, pitch, and accent that alter the meaning of others? speech. Thus, your child may not understand a joke or may take a sarcastic comment literally. Likewise, his or her speech may be flat and difficult to understand because it lacks tone, pitch, and accent.
• Have a formal style of speaking that is advanced for his or her age. For example, the child may use the word "beckon" instead of "call" or the word "return" instead of "come back." CHECK
• Avoid eye contact or stare at others.
• Have unusual facial expressions or postures. CHECK
• Be preoccupied with only one or few interests, which he or she may be very knowledgeable about. Many children with Asperger's syndrome are overly interested in parts of a whole or in unusual activities, such as designing houses, drawing highly detailed scenes, or studying astronomy. They may show an unusual interest in certain topics such as snakes, names of stars, or dinosaurs.²
• Talk a lot, usually about a favorite subject. One-sided conversations are common. Internal thoughts are often verbalized. CHECK (on the phone with his mom)
• Have delayed motor development. Your child may be late in learning to use a fork or spoon, ride a bike, or catch a ball. He or she may have an awkward walk. Handwriting is often poor. CHECK (Seen his handwriting and how he walks)
• Have heightened sensitivity and become overstimulated by loud noises, lights, or strong tastes or textures. For more information about these symptoms, see sensory integration dysfunction.

[nytiger73]

To the OP and all others who may not be familiar with Aspergers Syndrome. It is a form of Autism, although a milder form of it. As a parent of a child with full blown Autism, it is NOT easy to deal with. He CANNOT help the things that he does. They often have poor social skills and may have repetitive behaviors such as what was described here. Again, he CANNOT help it. If he has someone who checks on him, it may help to talk to his caregiver about some of your concerns. People with Autism can be taught to socialize and can also be taught to act in a socially acceptable manner. This sounds like he has a more severe form of autism than Aspergers if you're saying he urinates on the floor and what not. People with Aspergers generally do not do these types of things. He sounds like he needs more supervision.

To the OP, don't be an ******* to him. He is a person with feelings and some of the things he is doing may seem perfectly normal and OK to him, which of course they're not. You basically have a few options, most of which have been suggested. 1.) Move out. 2.) Talk to his caregiver to get some suggestions on how to deal with some of the things he is doing. 3.) Attempt to work with him on some of the things that you don't like. If you decide on option 3, speak in short sentences and don't be rude / sarcastic etc. He won't understand and it will only aggravate him and escalate the situation.

He most likely wants something and is having some trouble expressing what it is he wants / needs.

If you want more information on Autism Spectrum Disorders go to: Autism Society of America

And again, to the OP. Please be patient with him. He's not doing it on purpose. He sounds like he needs more supervision.

[Mike415]

If the dishes are dirty.. here's a hint.. wash them.

Wash my roommates dishes? Youre joking right? Everyone should clean their own stuff in the real world. im not his mom like he says

[Phenom II]

Why can I only Rep you up once for this?!

Yes. I hate to be the bearer of bad news for the original poster.

I have Asperger's Syndrome and the symptom's you are describing are nothing.. nothing like the symptoms of what someone with the disorder go through or exhibit.

I would humbly like an apology for the fact that you've offended me greatly with your down right stupidity, ignorance, and down right low attitude toward people who have AS.

If you know nothing about the disorder, you shouldn't speak about what you think the way it affects/effects people.

Keep your mouth shut and ask for advice on your roommate.

Don't assume just because someone may act differently than someone else, they have Autism or Asperger's Syndrome.

+1 TO be honest it sounds more like OCD - only going from living with someone with OCD and the repetative tasks they had to do

[Mike415]

To the OP and all others who may not be familiar with Aspergers Syndrome. It is a form of Autism, although a milder form of it. As a parent of a child with full blown Autism, it is NOT easy to deal with. He CANNOT help the things that he does. They often have poor social skills and may have repetitive behaviors such as what was described here. Again, he CANNOT help it. If he has someone who checks on him, it may help to talk to his caregiver about some of your concerns. People with Autism can be taught to socialize and can also be taught to act in a socially acceptable manner. This sounds like he has a more severe form of autism than Aspergers if you're saying he urinates on the floor and what not. People with Aspergers generally do not do these types of things. He sounds like he needs more supervision.

To the OP, don't be an ******* to him. He is a person with feelings and some of the things he is doing may seem perfectly normal and OK to him, which of course they're not. You basically have a few options, most of which have been suggested. 1.) Move out. 2.) Talk to his caregiver to get some suggestions on how to deal with some of the things he is doing. 3.) Attempt to work with him on some of the things that you don't like. If you decide on option 3, speak in short sentences and don't be rude / sarcastic etc. He won't understand and it will only aggravate him and escalate the situation.

He most likely wants something and is having some trouble expressing what it is he wants / needs.

If you want more information on Autism Spectrum Disorders go to: Autism Society of America

And again, to the OP. Please be patient with him. He's not doing it on purpose. He sounds like he needs more supervision.

i know hes not doing it on purpose which is the only thing that keeps me sane. If I thought he did any of this on purpose id be furious and we would have a real problem. Telling myself "He cant help it" has helped me a lot after finding out its probably aspergers that he suffers from. At the start when i thought he was just socially awkward I would get much more upset with him.

BTW he doesnt **** directly on the floor, but every time he pees he dribbles a puddle in front of the toilet (where u drop your shorts when you take a dump). So i find myself cleaning up his **** often. I have confronted him about it before but he insists he doesnt do it.

[Minifig]

So enlighten me.

Symptoms I came across

• Not pick up on social cues and may lack inborn social skills, such as being able to read others' body language, start or maintain a conversation, and take turns talking. CHECK
• Dislike any changes in routines. CHECK
• Appear to lack empathy. CHECK
• Be unable to recognize subtle differences in speech tone, pitch, and accent that alter the meaning of others' speech. Thus, your child may not understand a joke or may take a sarcastic comment literally. Likewise, his or her speech may be flat and difficult to understand because it lacks tone, pitch, and accent.
• Have a formal style of speaking that is advanced for his or her age. For example, the child may use the word "beckon" instead of "call" or the word "return" instead of "come back." CHECK
• Avoid eye contact or stare at others.
• Have unusual facial expressions or postures. CHECK
• Be preoccupied with only one or few interests, which he or she may be very knowledgeable about. Many children with Asperger's syndrome are overly interested in parts of a whole or in unusual activities, such as designing houses, drawing highly detailed scenes, or studying astronomy. They may show an unusual interest in certain topics such as snakes, names of stars, or dinosaurs.²
• Talk a lot, usually about a favorite subject. One-sided conversations are common. Internal thoughts are often verbalized. CHECK (on the phone with his mom)
• Have delayed motor development. Your child may be late in learning to use a fork or spoon, ride a bike, or catch a ball. He or she may have an awkward walk. Handwriting is often poor. CHECK (Seen his handwriting and how he walks)
• Have heightened sensitivity and become overstimulated by loud noises, lights, or strong tastes or textures. For more information about these symptoms, see sensory integration dysfunction.

Let me see your psychologist's degree.

You yourself cannot "check" those. They have to be clinically psychiatrically diagnosed.

Again, instead of assuming, ASK HIM what's troubling him. Why he does the things he does. If you're concerned, do something about it instead of irking off people with a disorder and assuming that he's got something wrong with him especially if your assuming he's autistic, especially if it's a branch of autism you know absolutely nothing about other than what you read online..

Just because I read about cancer online doesn't mean I can diagnose it.