[Poll] Sex Before Marriage -> With that person


Would you get married without having sex with that person?  

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  1. 1. Would you get married without having sex with that person?

    • Yes
    • I don't know
    • No I wouldn't
    • Other (Really I can't think of why this would be picked)


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So would you get married to a man or woman without having sex with them first? I couldn't do it. I wouldn't want any surprises on my honeymoon, plus I feel that sex is an important part of a relationship.

Remember, I am not saying being a virgin until marriage, I am talking about that relationship (the one that leads to marriage) only.

So would you get married to a man or woman without having sex with them first? I couldn't do it. I wouldn't want any surprises on my honeymoon, plus I feel that sex is an important part of a relationship.

Remember, I am not saying being a virgin until marriage, I am talking about that relationship (the one that leads to marriage) only.

Dont really care either way. If a person is honest with you, they will let you know and any surprises ahead of time. And if you are truly in love what that person, then looks will not be as important as you think. Sex is important in a relationship, but many put to much importance on it and to much importance on looks as well. Why there are way to many divorces these days...well, one of the reasons anyway.

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So would you get married to a man or woman without having sex with them first? I couldn't do it. I wouldn't want any surprises on my honeymoon, plus I feel that sex is an important part of a relationship.

Remember, I am not saying being a virgin until marriage, I am talking about that relationship (the one that leads to marriage) only.

Well that sex before [or cheating while] marriage thing sure doesn't seem to be working out so good now. Divorce rates, unwanted pregnancies, STDs...yet the vast majority frown upon the idea of waiting. I don't personally.

The choice itself wouldn't bother me but the reasons behind it might, and would probably determine whether I'd truly be compatible with that person or not.

I don't see any reason to wait for it, missing out on some good times.

i picked i dont know. if the connection was there mentally/emotionaly then yea i wouldn't have a problem, but on same token, if that connection wasn't there i wouldn't be marrying them in the first place

If sex is going to be apart of your relationship you should definitely try it before something as permanent (well sort of :p) as marriage.

Sex is a piece of the relationship pie so while it can't be the whole thing it also can't be ignored.

Edit: Oh yeah and as long as you wrap it in a rubber you should stop the unwanted pregnancy thing/STD's ... that usually happens when people don't use contraception. So THAT is not really a problem in my opinion...

Yes, I would. Sex is part of a relationship, sure. But it's not the primary reason why I would marry a person.

What good is a woman who's good in bed when her IQ and personality equal those of a slice of toast?

This is a great question.

Right now, I'm under the impression that I would; however, my view on this could change overtime. Like firey, I believe that sex is an important part of a relationship, when it is actually involved. But I also believe that if I was in love with the girl, I wouldn't care about a lack of sex leading up to marriage, and I wouldn't mind if there were any nasty surprises when it finally came down to sex (if that happened, I probably just wouldn't want to have sex with her again :D).

I don't like the idea of having a relationship in which no sex is involved, but that is my present outlook. Perhaps I'd feel differently if I experienced it :)

I chose no, although I probably could/would wait if she was the perfect person, but I don't think it would be a particularly good thing, I imagine it could lead to people looking towards other people to satisfy their needs.

Anyone who claims that sex isn't important is talking out of their ass! Sorry but if two people are to have a relationship, then physical intimacy is a major part of it. And it's wholly possibly for 2 people to be totally sexually incompatible. I am getting divorced at the minute, and one of the reasons is because my wife and I are just not compatible in that way.

Sex is one of the factors that make the whole. Looks, how you get on, compatibility, sex, all are equal. You shouldn't ever ignore any one area. And why should sex be this one area we decide to save until it's "too late" to learn differently?

Of course sex before marriage, you only don't have sex before marriage if your hook line and sinker into a stupid religeon?

I'm sure most divorces are bcause people don't have sex before marriage then find out there usleless/sterile when making love

That is a complicated question when it comes to India.

Here, most marriages are arranged. So the would be husband and wife have little to no time in getting involved in a romance and to have sex before marriage. Being sexually compatible is pure pot luck here :(

Discussing sexual incompatibilities is not most couples are comfortable with. Hence they bury the problem. I am sure this applies to many other countries as well.

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Would I or Could I?

Yes, I suppose I could. If that's her perogitive, and I loved her enough, then I don't see why I couldn't. I'm not going to force her to have sex with me if she doesn't want to. Plus, I have my own hand...

Of course I wouldn't marry someone without having sex first. Imagine being stuck to a person only to find out the sex is terrible. Thanks but no thanks.

And how shallow and awful to think like that (in my opinion of course).

I am not saying you shouldn't have sex before you are married but you can teach the other person what you like can't you? Why can't you do that after marriage?

I have only had sex with one person and I am more than happy with that. I don't need to look elsewhere or wonder about anyone else because while I am looking into the non-existent future, I will miss what I have got right here in the present.

And how shallow and awful to think like that (in my opinion of course).

I am not saying you shouldn't have sex before you are married but you can teach the other person what you like can't you? Why can't you do that after marriage?

I have only had sex with one person and I am more than happy with that. I don't need to look elsewhere or wonder about anyone else because while I am looking into the non-existent future, I will miss what I have got right here in the present.

This is what I am thinking. It could even be argued that someone with less experience would be better, because they would learn exactly what you like and you'd discover how best to please each other and how you work best together. I can say I've had guys do certain things that may have pleased some other girl, but it sure as heck wasn't working for me. If he didn't know any others, I could show him exactly what to do... ;)

I know it would come with its own set of hurdles, I'm just saying, I think the chances are greater that you'll sleep with every person you date and have a lot of heartaches along the way, than if you meet someone who's perfect for you in every way but don't sleep with them until after marriage.

Sex is a big part of any relationshit

You have to test drive or it could be frustrating.

apolgize for that but i am in the middle of getting sepperated/divorced.

test drive lol, to see if she had a few careful owners , or has she been drove by a boy racer!

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Well that sex before [or cheating while] marriage thing sure doesn't seem to be working out so good now. Divorce rates, unwanted pregnancies, STDs...yet the vast majority frown upon the idea of waiting. I don't personally.

They've found since 1940's (to current), the percent of students that had sex before high school graduation has pretty much remained unchanged.

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