KoL Veteran Posted May 28, 2002 Veteran Share Posted May 28, 2002 Ive been thinking what to do since december 6 months :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Signum Posted May 28, 2002 Author Share Posted May 28, 2002 I have liked her for a long time now, So it has been playing on my mind for quite a bit, Just that her becomin single has come out of the blue. We go out regulary as mates on thursday nights to a club, (She always leaves her Boyfriend at home) and when we leave each other on a night, its like we dont wonna, (If u get me) so i think there might be something there. I do some extreme sports, but this is really scaring / Confusing me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lun4 Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 Originally posted by Deckhand whip out your laptop and say (with a Butthead voice [from beavis and butthead]) "Hey baby, im a 1337 neowin poster, want me to show you how fast i can write a post?" :) haha..lmao and never break up with one girl for another....well i did....backfired like a ***** :s .....now im all alone :disappoin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chad Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 Well you have to remember that, even though the situations may sound similar, they are all going to be different. There is such a thing as destiny. If you were meant to be together, you will be. The worst thing you can do is hurry the situation. Especially when she's coming off another relationship. Lets say you tell her you like her. Two things can happen. A)she feels the same and all is fine. b) she doesn't feel the same. If that happens, no matter how hard you try, things will be different. Once that boundary is broken, she may not confide in you as willingly as before. Gotta remember if she does like you, she probably won't be trying to date other guys. And if she does like you but decides to date another guy in the future, personnally that would turn me off. Who wants a girl who likes you, but dates other guys. I would say just keep hanging out with her. Maybe lay out some hints of your feelings and see how she responds. I was watching something on the Discovery channel the other nite (or was it TLC)...but they were talking about telltale signs to look for to know if someone likes you. Different sitting postures, hand and should gestures, etc. Maybe do some reading on that type of deal so you know what she is thinking by her actions around you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bayrider Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 bull****!!! anyone who said no... well, dont listen to them! from experience and logic, i say just do her, go for it... you're not gonna be friends with her the rest of ur life. i dont know about you, but i cant stand having girls as friends unless ur dating (and f**king) them, otherwise theyre pathetic and annoying to be around, its ok to hang out with the girl friends a couple times a week, but its the buddies that count more... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheekymonkey Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 I'm a firm believer in the "When Harry Met Sally" adage: A man can't be just friends with a woman he fancies... saying that, me and my gf started out as friends - she was seeing someone else - anyways we grew closer, they split up, we fell in love. Awww lol If things are meant to be they'll be. Just be wary of the rebound effect. Think of it this way: if it works out though, ya could end up with a gf who's also a great friend. Hope things work out. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KoL Veteran Posted May 28, 2002 Veteran Share Posted May 28, 2002 bbaahh Im going to talk with her this sunday :) wish me luck guys ;) thanks a lot :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaRkY Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 Good Luck KoL, it?s a good decision:)) And offer her some good Milk;)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Signum Posted May 28, 2002 Author Share Posted May 28, 2002 Good luck mate, think I am going to see how things go on Friday night when I take her out. Think I got a line that?s going to give me a good answer from and and let me know how i stand, but also not put her on the spot to much. Cheers for the advice people, very much appreciated Will let you know what happen's:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elliot B. Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 ... I'm in the same situation :( I know (from what people have said in this thread), that I should ask her, but it ain't as simple as that. I've known her for 7 years, plus rejection is bad enough as it is, never mind the rejection being from someone you'll still see everyday! I'm confused :( Also, I like my best friends girlfriend, and I know she fancies me (he doesn't know). Only three people know. Her, Me, and my sister (one of her friends). What do I do here?! Do I go with my best friend, or my best friends' girlfriend?! Do I leave them both? DO I leave one, and not the other?! CONFUSING! :s Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rathamon Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 OMFG do it dude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Signum Posted May 28, 2002 Author Share Posted May 28, 2002 Don't go for your Friends Bird. its nnot worth it. You mates is so much more important than any lass / shag. TRUST ME!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babis Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 I agree with cheekymonkey. Friends that more than just respect/appreciate each other.. going onto the like/love stage can't be friends forever... eventually they'll make out.. Who knows, you might just become friends with benefits... but I'm guessing you actually want to date her.. well just go for it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Otto Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 i hit on almost all o my female friends :D....theyre hot...what can i say...especially one of em who lets me rub her boobies :D.....my point is if u really like her dont actually hit on her just try to be a good friend to her and shell come to you ;) fool proof....unless ur really horny, take my advice :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nemo Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 Originally posted by Signum Don't go for your Friends Bird. its nnot worth it. You mates is so much more important than any lass / shag. TRUST ME!!! yeah... Bros before hoes EVERYONE must remember that. I learned that the hardway. I ruined 6 months of my life... I regret it so much from what I did... I only got fux0ed in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayp6969 Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 hell yes man go 4 it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freightgod Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 Send her a printout of this post, then she'll see what a gent you are for actually valuing her friendship and resisting all these suggestions to "go for it!" :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZeroXero Posted May 28, 2002 Share Posted May 28, 2002 I'm kinda in the same situation but with a twist. I've really liked a girl for an age, and another girl (gonna put names now so it dont get confusing), my friend Christina has been helping me out with it. Well friday night me and Christina were talking but we were also really close. Since then my brain has decided to really like her too. But I still really like the first girl. Confused? I am. On top of all this, Christina's sister is one of my ex's and is one of the first girls friends. Agh! I think I kinda like Christina more though. Any advice? - Zero Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unimatrixzer0 Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 Data: Captain, I believe I am feeling anxiety. It is an intriguing sensation. A most destracting... Picard: Data, I'm sure its a fascinating experience, but perhaps you should deactivate your emotion chip for now. Data: Good idea, sir. (Data jerks his neck, and you hear a little beep) Done. Picard: Data, there are times that I envy you. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bayrider Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 "I Dont want the baby, i just want the pu$$y" -Celly Cel Ugh! Vulgar! :s -Keldyn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaff Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 Signum - i dont care, you big moranic entity. :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZeroXero Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 Jaff, please show some maturity, that was unnecessary(sp). - Zero Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kirk26 Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 Originally posted by Signum Difficult Situation.... Do I hit on one of my best Female mates? She jsut finished with her Boyfriend and i like her. Do i try my luck with her and risk changing the relationship we have atm for the worse, OR just leave it? Help Me ppl :ermm: Tag it and bag it...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaff Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 Zeroxero: unnecessary agreed, but ultimatly fair i feel :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arpit Posted May 29, 2002 Share Posted May 29, 2002 you've got to see how much you like her...longest relationships usually work out if you've been good/best friends with the person before...'coz when you reach that point, you can't go back from being best friends even if the relationship doesn't work out... just depends on how good of a friend you are with this person...'coz depending upon the closeness, she does deserve to know the truth...you shouldn't be left with that 'what if...' feeling in your mind.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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